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AIBU?

To want my house to be neat and organised?

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PenguinBear · 30/07/2013 17:16

I want to spend a few weeks organising my whole home Anthea Turner style.

I started this morning on DD1s room and we've filled a huge bin bag (and not finished yet).

Feeling better already... DP doesn't see the point but the dc are surprisingly enthusiastic.

AIBU to want a home where we can actually find things and people can call round without us needing an hour to tidy up first!

P.s. anyone have any suggestions about how I can get DP to help around the house? He does nothing as house work isn't his thing .

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OliviaIsOffTheGinMumsnet · 30/07/2013 17:20

YANBU
You need the Mners on the good housekeeping threads
they are ace at this

TheSmallClanger · 30/07/2013 17:21

If your husband is habitually untidy, and has always been so, you are being unrealistic, and setting yourself up to fail, to expect him to embrace organised show-home living.

I say this as a habitually untidy person. DH and I had to compromise a lot in our first house together.

However, to do no household stuff at all is not the behaviour of a responsible adult. I may not have a harmonious and clutter-free household, but the kitchen and bathroom are always clean, and there is always food available and clean plates to eat it off.

MovingForward0719 · 30/07/2013 17:29

I do this periodically, in fact been doing the same this week. Never manage to keep it up but yes the feeling of bin bags. I filled 5 on Monday.

AnythingNotEverything · 30/07/2013 17:31

"Housework isn't his thing"? I assume you spring out of bed every morning to clean toilets and dust skirting boards!

Adults have to help with the running of a house, as should children in an age appropriate way.

Anyway - the trick is to ensure everything has a home. That way you can put things away easily, and find things again!

Beastofburden · 30/07/2013 17:36

do it now. I am spending my entire annual leave decluttering 21 years of tat. It is hell. One bin bag, ho ho, I have an entire room of stuff to throw out, and when the man with van has been, I am will refill it, and get him to come back.

Look on me as a terrible example, you do not want to be doing what I am doing. No, really you don't.

brightermornings · 30/07/2013 17:44

I'm trying to do the same. Dd is 11 now so it outgrowing the majority of toys. I did 2 bin bags of clothes to be recycled on Saturday just stuff I hadn't worn for years.
Luckily my loft is empty when I emptied it to be insulated I vowed not to fill it back up.

PenguinBear · 30/07/2013 23:17

Two rooms down, rest of the house tomorrow!

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JollyHolidayGiant · 30/07/2013 23:21

I WANT my house to be tidy and organised. But I'd like someone else to do it for me

Tailtwister · 30/07/2013 23:22

Good for you OP! I desperately need to do to the same, but have been too lazy thus far.

YANBU to do it. If your DH won't tackle it, he's lucky you will!

deleted203 · 30/07/2013 23:28

I'd love my house to be tidy and organised. But I'm like the JollyHolidayGiant...

Also, the weather is lovely and we live at the beach. DS3 and I spent 8 hours there today. And it was fab. Given the choice between bagging up crap and sitting in a deck chair reading I will always go for the latter, unfortunately.

LimitedEditionLady · 30/07/2013 23:28

I go for the cupboard at a time option...then get bored and leave it for ages.Why do men have such annoyi.g pointless things?My OH seems to have things that just dont have a place,they cant be categorised to a room( its just shit)and he cant throw it away.

Hmmm would he notice if it just "disappeared"...

BlackeyedSusan · 30/07/2013 23:30

I am impressed that you only need an hour to tidy up.

i have though, spent all day, between reading tidying up most of the kitchen. i need to finish off tomorow as we ae away and then have a fridge freeze being delivered on saturday.

LimitedEditionLady · 30/07/2013 23:34

May i add,my OH only just manages to do one job around the house which is take the rubbish out.To do this I have to "remind" him roughly six times the last time involves the words "do' "it" and "now"He does not do anything else and i dont know how i can encourage him to (grow the frig up) share the load.
As a compliment once when i say you dont compliment me anymore he actually genuinely said "you clean up good" I wanted to shove the hoover somewhere...

BlackeyedSusan · 30/07/2013 23:34

oh and that is another job that needs doing, decrumbing the keyboard! freezer

Flatasawitchestit · 30/07/2013 23:36

I couldn't live in clutter and crap. I have crap drawers (don't we all?) but even they are sorted now and then.

I honestly believe tidy home tidy mind. I feel so much better when the house looks nice, and everything else slots into place.

As for your husband. Write up his jobs. Allocate certain things. If he wants to act like a child treat him like one

BlackeyedSusan · 30/07/2013 23:37

my excuse is that my dad died last summer and I missed the annual trying to keep the house from appearing on life laundry/diy sos and how clean is your house session. I have been looking after mum a lot during the holidays and it has all got out of hand.

BlackeyedSusan · 30/07/2013 23:39

easier said than done though, flat. when they try and thump you becuse you have woken them up to remind them to take the bin out on bin night, you tend to do these things yourself.

BeaWheesht · 30/07/2013 23:40

Yadnbu

TerraNotSoFirma · 30/07/2013 23:49

I am dedicating the whole of August to decluttering, organising and cleaning the entire house. I start working full time at the start of September after being at home for 2 years with the children.

I know what I need to do, but am bloody lazy.

PenguinBear · 31/07/2013 00:07

Once you get going Terra, you'll see results and want to carry on!

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TerraNotSoFirma · 31/07/2013 00:33

Hope so penguin.
A month sounds like a long time but am sure it will fly in.
I need systems, daily routines.
Once I'm working we will have very little family time with all four of us and I do not want to spend it doing housework.

hanreeoak · 31/07/2013 08:12

I've just spent the last four days decluttering. Many, many bags have gone to the charity shop and I have cleaned and turned around all of our rooms. It all started with my eldest going to brownie camp and I thought I would take advantage of her being away, my mum had dd2 for two nights and ds3 has loved filling up bags of rubbish. I have our room and the hall left to do.
I'm so hoping that it stays tidy as the mess was making me feel so depressed. I was told it was a waste of time trying to tidy in the school holidays but to be fair to the children they put all thier toys away before bed with out me asking last night ( I'm sure it won't last) maybe it's because they finally have a home and they know where to put them. I gave them shed loads of praise and read an extra story.

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ITCouldBeWorse · 31/07/2013 08:26

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ektorp · 31/07/2013 08:28

Whooa, rewind, blackeyedsusan He tries to thump you?

num3onway · 31/07/2013 08:30

I really need to do this. Kids rooms are okay. But that's about it. Even my bathroom is cluttered

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