So I'd been dating this guy for a few months, seemed really nice, always took me out for dinner or days out, didn't rush things (didn't even kiss me til about the fourth date!), talked about things we'd do together in the next few months, generally not many warning signs except one - seemed to avoid inviting me to his.
Friend of mine decided this was odd, as was the fact that he hadn't added me on Facebook, so decided to track down his fb account (he wasn't searchable). Friend then calls me and says it looks like he has a girlfriend.. Checked it out and yep, seems he's happily living with a lovely looking girl, they look v happy together.
So of course, I have ignored him since, deleted his number etc. I didn't want to confront him because frankly I'd rather he think I just got bored, might dent his ego a tiny bit.. And I don't really want to waste energy on such a wankbadger. Hadn't considered saying anything at all to the girl, mainly because it didn't seem like my place, it might be for the wrong reasons, and it just generally seems distasteful.
However, my dilemma now is that a couple of my close friends have told me I'm wrong not to tell her, that she deserves to know, and that in her place they would hope they'd be told. I now wonder if I'm somehow colluding with him in keeping it quiet?
So, help please mumsnet.. AIBU to just draw a line and do nothing?
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To not tell her...
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VanitasVanitatum · 23/07/2013 11:30
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