To have my dog put down?

(53 Posts)
GiveMeVegemite Sat 20-Jul-13 16:08:05

My dog has spent the past 4 weeks in antibiotics and anti inflammatories due to a lump in her neck, which has a big pussing open wound on the surface. The lump has decreased in size, but she is in a LOT of pain and the wound is not healing. So far we have spent £300 on drugs to try and make her better. She has also lost about 10 kilos!

We took her to the vet this morning and now they are saying she needs surgery, blood work, biopsie, anaesthetic etc which will cost another £1000 due to the difficult location of the lump and that they probably won't be able to remove it all due to nerves and arteries and she will probably need another operation, and definitely need one if it is cancerous.

Our dilemma is, she was booked to be rehomed next week, but obviously no new owner is going to fork out the bill for this and we are going back to Australia, hence the reason she was being rehomed! So basically my husband wants to have her out down, but I'm not sure I can live with the guilt, without trying to get her better first.

What would you do?

annabanana84 Sun 21-Jul-13 10:21:42

Aww sweetie, I'm so sorry you're going through this.
Sometimes we have to think about the animal rather than our own feelings which can override what we really should do for the best.
I was in the same predicament with my 15 year old Yorkie. He was blind and almost deaf, and a lump had appeared on the side of his snout. It wouldv'e been £2000 to find out what it was and treat it, but it was obvious he was in pain, and if I would've subjected him to more operations and treatment, it would have been even more stressful and painful for the lad, so we made the decision to have him put to sleep and oh my god, I thought my heart was going to literally break. It was terrible, but he was no longer in pain and went at a time where he had enjoyed his life and we had lots of happy memories with him, rather than have memories of him in pain and suffering as he may have done. Time is a healer, and now I smile when I remember him instead of feeling sad. Please don't put him through further pain, and then the stress of him being rehomed. Let him go while life is still good for him. Let him go and jump over the clouds and run for miles, and one day, you will meet again.

Alisvolatpropiis Sun 21-Jul-13 11:10:09

I think in the circumstances it would be the kindest thing to do. Such a difficult decision to make though OP flowers

JumpingJackSprat Sun 21-Jul-13 11:20:16

I would pts in your situation. at least then you know what has happened to her, and that she was loved and as comfortable as possible. make her last days as happy as you can and get the vet to your house if you can as it might make it less stressful for all concerned. I think thats the only responsible thing to do in the interests of the dog.

curlew Sun 21-Jul-13 11:22:15

Poachedeggs- what a fantastic post.

Where there's life, there's hope works for animals that have a sense of time and the future and are able to understand that things will get better. Or who will grow to understand that in the future. Sadly, dogs haven't.

OP- what a sad and horrible decision to have to make- be brave and kind and make the best decision for your dog.

ratbagcatbag Sun 21-Jul-13 11:31:07

My dog lives with my mum, she rang last month as his testicles were swollen (mad mad dog, so didnt take him to vets unless absolutely life or death) he's 13. Took him in and I commented his tummy was bigger than normal, he'd got a growth in his stomach and obviously something on his testes.

Vets were very honest, if it was on spleen it was operable, if anywhere else they could try but probably not get it all. I was quite upfront and said if it can't be fully removed then don't even risk a painful operation. They ultrasounded him and he'd got a massive growth on spleen and one on each testicle that couldbe fully removed. We went ahead and he's fine now. Had it not been removable we would have not had the op and bought him home to have his last limited time at home.

Don't put the dog through a very painful procedure if they can't get it all, my dog howled in pain (he is a wussy dog) for two days solid even on tramadol, he wouldn't sleep or anything, I would never put them through it unless the prognosis is really good.

BramshawHill Sun 21-Jul-13 13:39:53

I would have her put to sleep, the poor thing. Not because she's inconvenient, or she's not worth the money, but because she's spending all her time in pain.

She's probably tired, hurting and very, very fed up of dealing with this 24/7.

GiveMeVegemite Sun 04-Aug-13 19:47:10

Just an update....

After another couple of weeks on antibiotics, we got swabs taken to make sure she was on the right medication etc and another couple of vets visits we have her booked in to get put down next weekend. She is not improving and I feel like we are delaying the inevitable.

I am devastated. This week she is getting spoilt, with all her favourite foods etc.

Thanks for all your comments. It has made this horrible decision a tiny bit easier and makes me feel like I am doing the right thing.

megsmouse Sun 04-Aug-13 19:55:14

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wharrgarbl Sun 04-Aug-13 19:58:31

I'm so sorry - I think you're doing the right thing. I went through a similar thing with my poor old girl back in 2005.

Aw how sad sad I think you are doing the right thing op you have given the dog every chance and all the love possible to help her get better. You may never know why this happened or if anything else could have been done and I do agree it would be unfair to keep her so miserable. sad I hope you enjoy the last week with her and she gets spoilt rotten. She will know how much you love her and it will be so quick and peaceful. So sorry op sad

Boosterseat Sun 04-Aug-13 20:42:13

Oh bless you.

My beloved dog got a tumour in his throat, he was 11 and I adored him.
Vet said there was a small chance treatment could prolong his life but we knew we couldn't explain the treatment to him and it seemed kinder to let him go in his prime, to see him more debilitated would have been heartbreaking, I'm so sorry this has happened to you.

I hope you have a peaceful and joyful week.

LarryMcNue Sun 04-Aug-13 20:46:44

We had to have out dog pts recently

It was peaceful and dignified. She drifted away in our arms being stroked and spoken to gently.

It was a good end to a happy life

Thinking of you but please know that it isn't a bad way to go

chocolateicecream Sun 04-Aug-13 20:57:21

Oh OP I really do feel for you. I lost my beloved dog when pregnant with my eldest dd.

I thought that you might appreciate this poem.

IF I SHOULD GROW FRAIL

If it should be that I grow frail and weak
And pain does keep me from my sleep,
Then will you do what must be done
For this – the last battle – can’t be won.
You will be sad I understand
But don’t let grief then stay you hand.
For on this day, more than the rest
Your love and friendship must stand the test.
We have had so many happy years,
You wouldn’t want me to suffer so.
When the time comes, please let me go.
Take me to where my needs they’ll tend,
Only, stay with me till the end.
And hold me firm and speak to me
Until my eyes no longer see.
I know in time you will agree
It is a kindness you do to me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I have been saved.
Don’t grieve that it must now be you
Who has to decide this thing to do.
We’ve been so close – we two – these years,
Don’t let your heart hold any tears.
Julia Napier, copyright 1999

missrlr Sun 04-Aug-13 20:57:44

You have tried to cure it, it is not working the prognosis is poor. PTS is morally better than keeping the dog alive to appease your ethics and guilt.

Loshad Sun 04-Aug-13 21:13:48

Agree totally with missrlr, you have tried hard for your dog, it is time to accept that PTS is the correct decision for the dog in terms of welfare.
So sad for you.

McNewPants2013 Sun 04-Aug-13 21:19:50

I think the best option is to put the dog to sleep.

It doesn't make you a bad person.

MissMarplesBloomers Sun 04-Aug-13 21:23:45

poachedeggs that is a great post

chocolateicecream -sob that's so apt.

OP .......you have done all you can let her go with love. SO hard on you all.

I'd like to second what Larry said.

We had our much loved cat pts in December last year - he had cancer and was deteriorating fast. I was hoping he'd just die and we wouldn't have to do it but actually he was really peaceful, in our arms, and just slipped away. It was a good death, however heartbreaking.

Thinking of you xxx

cushtie335 Sun 04-Aug-13 21:38:53

Just to say, it's your call and PhTS is probably the right course of action but I know how much my dog means to me and it's a horrible decision to have to make. I can hardly even type this without crying at the thought of losing my beloved some time in the future. Bless you and hope you get through this OK.

GreenSkittles Sun 04-Aug-13 22:39:27

I'm so sorry vegemite, I've been there.

Spoil her to bits, my cat absolutely loved the last week of her life. We didn't do crazy with food because we didn't want to cause any digestive distress, but before we took her to the vets we presented her with a banquet. She was thrilled. It's a nice memory.

Chocolate, that has made me well up. My mum's border collie has osteosarcoma & has apparently deteriorated recently so she's taking him to the vet tomorrow. I may well show her that poem & hope it helps a little.

comingalongnicely Sun 04-Aug-13 22:44:16

I'm afraid that, as a cynic, when a Vet talks about "Quality of Life" it normally means they need a new car so pay up....

You've done all you can, the poor animal is in pain & there's no guarantee that the (possibly multiple) operations will make a blind bit of difference. I'd go for the PTS option, if the vet will do it at home then she'll have a chance to go to sleep surrounded by people she loves, and in her own environment.

Sympathies for your situation & good luck whichever you decide.

wigglesrock Sun 04-Aug-13 22:54:51

I'm very sorry, we are in the same situation, my dog is being put to sleep this week. She's old, tired, unable to move without pain and very unhappy. She's been part of our lives for 11 years. It's hard to believe she won't be here anymore but deep deep down I know it's the right thing to do, it's sort of the last thing I can do for her, she got me through some very difficult times and its my turn now to help her. I'll be thinking of you x

MintyChops Mon 05-Aug-13 05:35:15

You are doing the right thing Op, so sad and hard but it's the last nice thing you can do for your dog, save her all that pain and suffering. Hope you're ok and you too wiggles.

daisychain01 Mon 05-Aug-13 05:41:03

So sorry about your poor pup, terrible. Perhaps the way to think about it is that you are not prolonging her agony further, if she is PTS as she sounds extremely ill and you wont be around to ensure she is completely better.

Sadly, in years gone by, and if that animal were in the wild it would have died, nature would have intervened. Putting it through surgery could be just as cruel ( without you meaning to be).

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