I am 29 and pg with dc2, ds is 2.5. I am a full time secondary teacher. I have been extremely fortunate in when dh and I bought our house, wealthy pils helped us out to the extent that we only have a small mortgage. Dh is self Employed, so he has flexibility that I don't have re child care, ds has a mixture of nursery, gps and dh. Dh also probably does more domestic work than I do- all cooking etc.
I am about to start mat leave soon but when I return to work I feel like I will need to make a decision about how I approach my career, mainly whether to stay part time or drop down, probably only
to 4 days though. A lot of my
Peers are going for promotions ATM and this makes me wonder if I should Too. I have always been driven and academically successful. I feel that my parents are a bit surprised that I'm not at least a head of
Department by now, but I sort
Of feel that because We don't really need the money, im not really that motivated to push myself forward.
But then I worry in that I see how my pils' wealth has
made my bils, and to
some extent my dh, quite
complacent in terms of career progress, and because dh ATM Is happy to let His business tick over I feel like maybe I should
be the ambitious one for
The both of us? And dh does pick Up the slack a lot with ds.
I really don't feel like I miss
Out on time with ds at all. I can be home by 4 although i do need to work after he is in bed, I have the school hols with him, he loves
Nursery and has great relationships with dh and his gps.
I realise that I am extremely fortunate to have this dilemma as so many people are really struggling at the minute, but I'm just wondering if I will regret not pushing myself further at this time of my life. If I was a man I would Probably be expected to be making great gains career wise in my circumstances, wouldn't I?
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To coast in my career for a bit...
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louloutheshamed · 18/07/2013 16:47
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