Have name changed for this as my situation possibly recognizable and posting in AIBU for the traffic. I've worked for nearly 9 years for a company where I have generally been really happy but due to internal politics and structural changes its become a horrible place to work in recent months and I'm doubtful that I have a long-term future. There's a redundancy program going on at the moment which officially doesn't affect people at my level but the writing is clearly on the wall for us and my boss hasn't been able to give me any certainty that my job won't be affected longer-term.
So I've been offered a new job. Its not perfect but there are various reasons why its a good move for me long term (not least that I've been looking for over a year.) My current job is, at the moment, pretty cushy. The pay is good and I've been able to exploit the dysfunctional situation in the office by working from home a lot and have basically averaged about two and a half days a week in the office even though I'm being paid to work full time, allowing me to spend as much time as possible with my dd while also earning pretty decent pay. Sorry if that sounds smug. But its too good to last and I know I need to reposition myself before the rug gets pulled out from under me.
My new job unsurprisingly won't let me continue this situation and have said while there may be some flexibility after I've settled in, I basically have to assume I'll be in the office five days at least in the first few months. My DH works full time (we need the money from two incomes) and its unlikely he would be able to reduce his hours.
I'm terrified, basically. My dd, who is two and a half, is at a nursery where she's basically happy but she's very shy and takes a long time to feel comfortable with new people. I'm dreading having to be away from her for eight hours a day, five days a week and worried about the possible impact on her.
I know loads of people do it and the bottom line is I'll have to suck it up and get on with it. There isn't really any alternative.
But please, people, can I have some positive stories about people whose small kids are or have been in full time childcare and who are OK? And some tips about how to cope?
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beingneurotic · 18/07/2013 10:24
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