to be annoyed by friends who post 'thank you so & so for the lovely dinner' on fb, just showing off their wonderful social life

(162 Posts)
fridgealwaysfull Sat 13-Jul-13 12:27:25

Surely if you've been invited to someone's house for dinner you thank them then. The only reason people post thank yous and tag the names of those present is just to show how popular they are and make others feel like we have no life. Winds me up.

Mintyy Sat 13-Jul-13 13:01:49

Of course it is bragging! Yanbu to find it annoying. Some people love to boast on facebook, I don't know why there is such strong denial about this. I really dislike showoffy people, its why I have such a problem with one or two posters on Mn!

meddie Sat 13-Jul-13 13:03:20

I think it was a nice way to publically acknowledge their friends hosting and would just give me a warm glow to see something like that. Obviously all we are allowed to post on facebook these days is

STATUS UPDATE

Having a shit life, no holiday this year, kids doing crap at school, not been out for ages....

tunnocksteacake Sat 13-Jul-13 13:05:15

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

^ Oh hell yes. I'd rather see happy 'bragging' statuses than those 'woe is me' ones. They really do grate. But I've hidden the posts from regular woeful types so I don't see it. Why don't you just do the same with your 'bragger' friends?

zoraqueenofzeep Sat 13-Jul-13 13:06:36

I don't know if they're showing off a great social life, more attempting to get people to think they have one which indicates they don't have anything interesting going on otherwise you'd have heard about it. I feel pained for some people 'had a lovely day in town today...' types and that's the most 'exciting' thing they've done all year. Sad.

I'm only jealous (and impressed) if I see constant pictures of someone flitting between New York, Sydney, St Barts, they have something worth bragging about.

mrsjay Sat 13-Jul-13 13:08:38

I was tagged in a meal out last week and thanked for coming as it was a nice night , was thestatus poster bragging? who knew grin

"Thanks for a lovely evening X and X, had a lovely time." - Lovely!

"Thank you SO much my bestie X and X for a brill evening in the garden where we sipped margarita and had a cheeky lil bbq, u guys were so funny had such an amazing time!!! Can't wait for next Sat when we do it all again!!! Love u guys!!!! (insert in-joke) xxxxxx" - Eyeroll.

Different strokes for different folks and all that.

LadyBeagleEyes Sat 13-Jul-13 13:10:50

It was just a nice acknowledgement to their friends.
If I'd had people round and they posted it on facebook because they'd had a lovely time I'd be well chuffed.

fanjolina Sat 13-Jul-13 13:11:46

Get a social life yourself instead of being bitter and jealous about others having one.

WandaDoff Sat 13-Jul-13 13:12:38

My niece put "having a lovely dinner & drinks, with Aunty Wanda" on FB last week when she visited.

My family all live in SE England. I live in Glasgow.
I don't see them very often.

It probably didn't occur to her that she might upset anybody, I would have thought. I'll let her know just in case she's got any green eyed monsters on her friends list. hmm

Here have some herbal brew & a biscuit & chill out a bit.

amothersplaceisinthewrong Sat 13-Jul-13 13:15:34

Ah, Facebook envy, a recognised condition of the 21st century....

fridgealwaysfull Sat 13-Jul-13 13:16:46

Mintyy and zora...you've hit the nail on the head! Of course it's showing off. If you want to thank someone for a great evening you do it in person, or by private message. Tagging others and publicly saying thanks is for others to see. It is showing off.

NewAtThisMalarky Sat 13-Jul-13 13:16:57

Its not bragging. Don't be daft! They had a nice time and wanted to say thank you.

It sounds like you are jealous. Maybe you should invite some people round? Might stop you having the time to get annoyed at what other people are doing.

MrsDoomsPatterson Sat 13-Jul-13 13:19:10

If you do this sort of thing, you like it, if you would never dream of doing anything so naff, then you won't. And never the twain shall meet.

MrsDoomsPatterson Sat 13-Jul-13 13:20:16

And if you do it, then you probably need to get out more.

pointythings Sat 13-Jul-13 13:20:19

Wow, green-eyed monster alert! I don't see it as bragging at all, just letting your friends know that you appreciate them. Honestly, some people just need to get a life instead of spending all their time looking at the lives of others.

That's how you perceive it...but as plenty more on this thread have said, it's usually done with the intention of a 'bigger thank you' or because you have people on your FB that you don't see often (usually family). I post an awful lot of stuff that we've done with DS because my grandparents live ages away and my DG is quite upset about how much she's missing out on. If someone felt that was bragging then it's be their problem, because it's not done with that intention.

Also, what was with the bizarre John Lewis reference hmm

stooshe Sat 13-Jul-13 13:22:43

It is bragging. I've done in once and am not in denial about it. That is why my Face Book friends list is VERY small. Normally, we just post "inspirational" stuff. Just press the "like" button and post some encouraging comment and laugh to yourself that she cannot see you rolling your eyes......

aldiwhore Sat 13-Jul-13 13:24:28

YABU.

And miserable.

I had a great night the other week with four people, I thanked the host personally, then I posted a picture of the great night and tagged each person there thanking them for their company.

I personally think it would have been miserable to not acknowledge them at all.

I don't think Facebook is for you.

And actually, FML status updates are tedious. I LIKE reading happy updates from people who've done nice things, even if I wasn't there.

BellaVita Sat 13-Jul-13 13:25:08

Yabu.

aldiwhore Sat 13-Jul-13 13:25:26

Yes because inspirational stuff is so inspirational, especially when coupled with a lovely sunset. yawn

I honestly had no idea people got so sour faced about stuff like this. Never even crossed my mind when posting before. Isn't it exhausting? hmm

WorraLiberty Sat 13-Jul-13 13:26:30

How can you say you're not insecure OP? confused

It's bragging. Holiday pics etc I don't mind, but thanking someone for a meal and tagging the 4 people that were there is excessive. Yes, we know you are popluar and get invited to lovely bbqs on your decking filled with John Lewis cushions, but keep it to yourselves, no need to tell everyone. I'm not insecure, I think they are!

That right there ^^ makes you sound like insecurity personified.

If I saw something like that on FB, I'd either smile and think how nice it is, or just not think anything at all.

And what on earth do the choice of cushions have to do with anything? confused

WorraLiberty Sat 13-Jul-13 13:28:12

I saw a post on FB the other day that said....

"Your inspirational quotes have inspired me to delete you from Facebook" grin

mercury7 Sat 13-Jul-13 13:31:03

I think facebook is just naff, thats why I dont use it

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