to be annoyed by friends who post 'thank you so & so for the lovely dinner' on fb, just showing off their wonderful social life

(162 Posts)
fridgealwaysfull Sat 13-Jul-13 12:27:25

Surely if you've been invited to someone's house for dinner you thank them then. The only reason people post thank yous and tag the names of those present is just to show how popular they are and make others feel like we have no life. Winds me up.

PearlyWhites Sat 13-Jul-13 12:28:10

Yabu and a little paranoid

I find in life that it is always better to assume good motives for people's behaviour, rather than bad.

Possible explanations for thanking on FB:

They forgot at the time
They use FB differently to you and think it's just like messaging
They wanted to thank them publicly because it's nice
They had a great time and wanted to thank again
They are bastards who hate everyone and want to show off

Which one sounds like something I would think about "friends"?

mrsjay Sat 13-Jul-13 12:34:29

Life mustve been so much easier before facebook OP stop being jealous and stop getting upset about nothing these people can use and say whatever they want on their facebook, If you are so insecure about other people maybe you shouldnt have facebook,

AntlersInAllOfMyDecorating Sat 13-Jul-13 12:36:00

YABU - Facebook is a social network. That's what it is there for.

WorraLiberty Sat 13-Jul-13 12:36:01

My god, it wouldn't ever cross my mind to get annoyed about that.

VitoCorleone Sat 13-Jul-13 12:36:07

YANBU

cheerfulweather Sat 13-Jul-13 12:36:35

You mean posting publicly on the person's wall? I don't get that. Why not send a PM or an email? Why the public conversation?

mrsjay Sat 13-Jul-13 12:37:23

Why the public conversation?

why not ?

cheerfulweather Sat 13-Jul-13 12:37:37

I don't know about any other ulterior motives. Just don't know why the thank you would have to be public.

Dillydollydaydream Sat 13-Jul-13 12:39:34

Ah, but did they also take a picture of said meal and post it on FB?

stargirl1701 Sat 13-Jul-13 12:39:40

YABU. That's the point of Facebook.

What is acceptable to put on FB then? In the past few days we've had complaints about holiday photos, school reports, any kind of parenting advice that differs from someone else's. What passes the MN challenge of acceptable FB posts?

mrsjay Sat 13-Jul-13 12:41:37

with some of the people i haveon facebook some have no children so they are off on a random weekend somewher another lives abroad and has drinks by the pool most days, another has just gone on her first childfree holiday with a balcony a jacuzzi pool should I have envy building up because they have a nicer time than I do <shrug>

ImNotBloody14 Sat 13-Jul-13 12:42:23

We should all have every conversation in private. Anything else is excessive and braggy wink

mrsjay Sat 13-Jul-13 12:42:26

Akiss there is a thread running in chat about what is acceptable on fb wink

quoteunquote Sat 13-Jul-13 12:45:40

Invite them for dinner, and enjoy being thanked.

The only time I find it annoying is when the message is punctuated by phrases such as 'cheeky lil cocktail wink' or 'having a sexy lil bbq with ma bestie X wink'.

Because it's painful to read.

It is odd though that they're updating these statuses while in the throes of the wonderful time they're having. If it's so wonderful in the garden with the sun shining and your sexy lil bbq, why are you on your phone? hmm

fridgealwaysfull Sat 13-Jul-13 12:47:57

It's bragging. Holiday pics etc I don't mind, but thanking someone for a meal and tagging the 4 people that were there is excessive. Yes, we know you are popluar and get invited to lovely bbqs on your decking filled with John Lewis cushions, but keep it to yourselves, no need to tell everyone. I'm not insecure, I think they are!

Painful in the eyeroll sense, not the forever alone sense, btw.

What? confused

It's a social network! If you don't like it, hide it. Was given a very nice surprise present by DP a few days ago that I posted on FB, despite having already said thank you to him as it seemed like a nice thing to do for him and I wanted him to know how chuffed I was with it. I didn't actually once think about it possibly being bragging or show offy!

I'm also a skint single parent so I don't think John Lewis cushions come into it at all. This is your problem, clearly hmm

(I'm aware some people just think it's annoying but I only have close friends and family on my FB so it was sort of relevant in that sense. And again, if someone doesn't like it they can easily hide the story on their news feed. Problem sorted).

mrsjay Sat 13-Jul-13 12:55:47

so if you are not insecure and see them as bragging then hide them why are they your friends are you normally so easily annoyed and what has JL cushions got to do with anything,

fwiw I have never been in a John Lewis in my life so have no idea what the JL reference is about

TidyDancer Sat 13-Jul-13 12:58:44

Why does this bother you?! Just bloody hide the posts or delete people if you don't like reading it!

Me thinks a touch of the green eyed monster is in play here.

mrsjay Sat 13-Jul-13 13:00:55

Yeah envy is at play here you are just peed off they didnt invite you

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