To tell this inadequate little fool at work to feck off?

(22 Posts)
Wbdn28 Sat 13-Jul-13 18:32:59

> Don't bring physical attributes into it, if you want to make a formal complaint, as that is as equally unprofessional.

Agree. There are plenty of perfectly nice men who happen to be short/overweight/bald.

brilliantwhite Sat 13-Jul-13 12:28:25

oh ffs would anyone really report him , doesnt anyone stand up for themselves anymore .

LieweHeksie Sat 13-Jul-13 11:36:12

(And please lay off with the 'short balding' nonsense it is unnecessary.)

LieweHeksie Sat 13-Jul-13 11:34:50

Keep a note book with you at all times.

Every time he says something dodgy, write it down carefully mouthing the words quietly as you write. And then put it back in your pocket. Say nothing to him.

"small balding man syndrome", "he was short, bald"

Don't bring physical attributes into it, if you want to make a formal complaint, as that is as equally unprofessional.

Unless you knew the man when he had a full head of hair and he changed when he started to go bald, then it is out of order to use this aspect of aging as an insult. I am sure that we know lots of men (well i do being in my 40's) that are the same nice reasonable people, despite going bald.

I wouldn't like to be called "saggy tit-ed", which is a female trait of aging. Or having our genitalia commented when returning from maternity leave.

Just as every overweight woman isn't locked in some "syndrome", neither are men who are under average height, they are just arseholes.

vintagecakeisstillnice Sat 13-Jul-13 11:28:50
YouTheCat Sat 13-Jul-13 11:01:47

If he calls you 'babygirl' call him 'little boy'.

Put in a complaint. He sounds like a twat.

DoJo Sat 13-Jul-13 10:56:47

Next time he slags off a previous colleague, say 'Oh God, I know what you mean. I used to work with this guy, he was short, bald, thought he was Go's gift to women despite the fact that the most anyone had ever felt for him was pity....' and then go on to list increasingly specific examples of his behaviour in increasingly disgusted terms until he gets the hint.

NotYoMomma Sat 13-Jul-13 09:36:41

I had one of these, small balding man syndrome

his little put down ended up crushing my confidence, it escalated to bullying, he used to tell me how I could be better at my job despite veing the same level

he ended up shouting at me once!

I put in an official complaint and it was upheld

he then put in a malicious complaint about me sexually harrassing him confused hmm hmm

becaise of course ever woman wants him hmm

and it was dismissed, hegot moved off the team, is on a final warning and I am very happy to be free of him

make a casual note of when he puts you down etc as it is damaging

Buddhagirl Sat 13-Jul-13 09:31:17

You say: Do you realise how unprofessional you sound? He replies we are safe bruv. You reply no we are not safe, to be honest I don't like your attitude. Then just hold eye contact. Then whatever he says after that just repeat the above. He might get the message he might not.

Whothefuckfarted Sat 13-Jul-13 08:45:13

hmm

LimitedEditionLady Sat 13-Jul-13 08:08:50

If someone called me babygirl id ask them if they were a patronising prick.id just say well instead of talking about it go and fricking do it and stop telling me about it because im not really that arsed i was just being polite but now its just boring.harsh yes.
Someone used to blow me kisses at work last year,so i just said ewww,really?didnt do it again.

Wbdn28 Fri 12-Jul-13 21:17:34

Is there a supervisor/manager/HR person you can report him to? Harrassment, time wasting etc.

Onroute66 Fri 12-Jul-13 20:48:21

I like that one, my name is enroute.

PurplePidjin Fri 12-Jul-13 20:46:09

we're safe man enit, me n you yo we're safe

"As I'm a grown adult, i have no idea what you're talking about. Now, the figures for x..."

Onroute66 Fri 12-Jul-13 20:45:56

I'm sure I've done my best unimpressed face. I'm going to have to give it some more effort!

PurplePidjin Fri 12-Jul-13 20:44:10

"My name is OnRoute" and don't break eye contact.

"I'm sorry, how is that relevant to the project?" every time he gossips.

Onroute66 Fri 12-Jul-13 20:40:50

Trouble is, every time I try to politely tell him. He starts saying 'we're safe man enit, me n you yo we're safe'. Which just totally stumps me.

Practise the look, the slow disbelieving "am I really In The presence of the biggest loser in the world" look.

Or start ignoring him and if he questions it just say "sorry, did you say something"

The look works wonders on the slime ball we have at work, it only took a little while for him to get the message.

May09Bump Fri 12-Jul-13 20:38:10

just say - give it a break mate I'm trying to do some work (hint re doing some work), if I wasn't so chilled out some of your comments could be taken as harassment (hint to be more PC). If it's an ongoing placement together I would speak to manager and/or get some ear plugs and ignore him.

Sounds a lovely bloke!

Onroute66 Fri 12-Jul-13 20:31:49

Perhaps I could just show him this post and say. 'This sums up what I think of you, please don't talk to me anymore'.

Onroute66 Fri 12-Jul-13 20:29:28

I've been forced to work with some slimy little tosspot and I need your help to think of a short sharp comeback to put him in his place.

He has completely wound me up the entire week. He comes and goes as he pleases, usually at the first sign of work.

He flirts with every women he comes into contact with. He calls me 'babygirl' despite the fact that I'm a 30 year old woman. He's made jokes about us running away together.

He's spent most of the week slagging off everyone he's ever worked with and saying how crap they all are at their jobs. He undermines me at every opportunity. He slags off his poor wife. He constantly goes on about how he's either going to go off sick or start his own business. That was after he said he has his own business, I felt like saying 'if that's true why are you here doing a low grade skivvy job with the rest of us?' I think it's more likely he's been allowed to wait tables in his uncles restaurant.

He thinks he's king of the world, but he's just a short, overweight, balding fool, who cannot even string a coherent sentence together.

I need to put him in his place and sharpish, but I'm too quiet and quietly fume.

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