about my Boyfriends birthday & his mum

(203 Posts)
crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo Sun 07-Jul-13 22:48:30

First AIBU but I really need to know if I am .

Its my Bfs birthday on Tuesday , he has just told me he is going for a meal with his mum & family Tuesday evening so will be busy from 4 - 8 .
I have not been invited despite us been together for 3 years (we don't live together) .
He is working Tuesday morning until 1pm & i have appointments Tuesday from 1-4 (several appointments) .
He says it is not fair that i can't see him on his birthday & expects me to palm my Ds off on my Dm on a school night so i can take him out hmm I have told him i won't do this as Ds comes first & i told him to ask his mum to make it later or for the day after & he can't as she will be upset (huge case of pfb) .
I thought i was his family but apparently not confused as he does everything his mum says even if it means cancelling our plans angry

Am I been unreasonable to think that after 3 years he would see me as his family as well as his mum & sometimes put our relationship first or should I just suck it up

crazyhamsterdisguisedasapanda Fri 12-Jul-13 00:00:14

what do you mean by post-mortem

Numberlock Thu 11-Jul-13 23:58:47

So... not Do

crazyhamsterdisguisedasapanda Thu 11-Jul-13 23:57:44

Eh

Numberlock Thu 11-Jul-13 23:56:52

Do you've dumped him? Why the post-mortem?

crazyhamsterdisguisedasapanda Thu 11-Jul-13 23:28:49

I don't like hot food in general tbh blush

He mentioned once that once he had moved in that his mum would be round every Sunday for Sunday Dinner & I very much doubt they would of been happy with a plate of sandwiches grin
He also goes to his mums for a Roast every Sunday as well hmm

QueenStromba Thu 11-Jul-13 15:47:47

How can you not like roast dinners? And why the hell would your ex insist on (you) cooking one for his mum every week when you don't like them?

Numberlock Thu 11-Jul-13 12:55:18

Bogey Fair point, I read it as though you didn't encourage an early morning/last thing at night type cuddle in your bed.

crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo Thu 11-Jul-13 09:55:58

Sue we don't even like Roast Dinners so that would of been extra fun with controlling inlaws , very lucky escape me thinks

sue52 Thu 11-Jul-13 09:53:21

Imagine years of Sunday lunches with his mother. You have had a lucky escape. There are far better men around than your ex.

pigletmania Thu 11-Jul-13 09:29:55

Yes I don't think he thought of that

crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo Thu 11-Jul-13 08:57:32

Piglet surely you had a sofa grin

Bogeyface Thu 11-Jul-13 08:33:19

Numberlock because I have never encouraged sleeping outside of their own beds. Even when they are ill, they sleep in their beds and I sleep on their floors. I made the mistake of allowing DD1 into my bed when she was 3/4 ish and then it was hell on toast getting her to sleep on her own, I was ending up going to bed at 7pm!

pigletmania Thu 11-Jul-13 07:27:51

Just to add baby was really crying and could not be soothed, I think dd had bad colic

pigletmania Thu 11-Jul-13 07:26:47

It was 3 0 clock in the morning, baby ad been howling for some time, he needed to be able to concentrate t wrk and could not without getting some proper sleep. T incident has never been repeated again tank goodness grin

MammaTJ Thu 11-Jul-13 06:23:36

Really, Bessie?

Numberlock Thu 11-Jul-13 06:19:36

crawling into bed with mummy is something I dont encourage my 7 year old to do

Can I ask why not?

crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo Thu 11-Jul-13 01:00:41

What on earth possessed him to get in to bed with his mum

pigletmania Thu 11-Jul-13 00:58:22

I need the bleach recalling dh jumping into bed with his mum grin

crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo Thu 11-Jul-13 00:57:34

Piglet Its all mine grin <runs away with bleach laughing manically>

pigletmania Thu 11-Jul-13 00:57:30

I know pointless post Bessie, crazy is just replying to our questions

crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo Thu 11-Jul-13 00:55:53

Bessie what do you mean ?

pigletmania Thu 11-Jul-13 00:55:40

I need brain bleach too grin

Bessie123 Thu 11-Jul-13 00:54:48

Drip drip drip

pigletmania Thu 11-Jul-13 00:54:33

I know bogey I was shock and gave him a bollocking. I don't think mum had noticed she is quite a deep sleeper

crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo Thu 11-Jul-13 00:54:25

I'm actually scarred for life

I can see that happening

<has a bath in bleach>

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