Was at MIL's yesterday, having a BBQ party for DH's bday. We have DS1 who is 5 & DS2 who is 9 weeks, and the plan was for us to stay in the spare room.
Gets to 11:30 & I decide to head up to bed with DS2, so say goodnight to all. Manage to get the baby off to sleep and just drifting off myself when I hear MIL in the living room (directly below the bedroom I was in) shouting about not liking the music in he garden. Then the stereo comes blaring on at full volume, making DS2 jump almost out of his skin & start howling. I get up & dress, then go to find DH to say that I thought it would be better for me & DS2 to head home as would be easier to sleep there. I wasn't angry or shouting at him, just weary as DS2 isn't sleeping though & I felt like I'd been up forever!
DH was really annoyed to hear what MIL had done, so they has an argument. This is nothing new, they always seem to argue after they have both been drinking, so being the only sober person I stayed out of it, though I wasn't impressed with them shouting & swearing in front of DS1.
I got the car seat out of DH's car (I don't drive so had phoned my dad to ask if he could give me a lift home) and as I came back into the garden could hear MIL ranting about it being her house & she can do what she wants, then she moved on to slagging me off & making out she never gets to see the DS's like my parents do. Obviously she was conveniently forgetting that my parents make the effort to come & see their grandsons, whereas despite us both telling her she was welcome to come over any time she won't. She's not elderly or infirm, just wants everything on her terms. This was only 2nd time she'd seen DS2 since he was born & she barely showed any interest in him.
She then switched from the woe is me talk to saying she didn't care anyway. The person she was complaining too said not to be daft & of course she cared about DS1 to which she replied no, she didn't care about him! Thankfully he wasn't nearby when she said this, or he'd have been heartbroken. I decided to take him home with me too. I know she was drunk, but I see no reason why she should say that, IMO it's unforgiveable.
I've said to DH that I don't feel I can trust her anymore, and want nothing more to do with her. Am still really fucked off now - AIBU?
Sorry it's so long & apologies if spelling is dodgy I'm on my phone.
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To have had enough of MIL's behaviour?
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DancingLola · 07/07/2013 21:00
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