Wibu to breastfeed my friends baby?

(304 Posts)
thepigflu Mon 01-Jul-13 12:51:55

So he's been crying for 45 minutes, my friend has only been away for 2 and a half hours, she said she'd be about 3hours but she's not answering her phone. I've tried everything but he's so distressed, twisting his head around searching for a feed. I'm not sure how my friend would take it but I'm thinking I'll just feed him, is that wrong?

Jaynebxl Wed 03-Jul-13 21:30:14

That crossed my mind too,

OHforDUCKScake Wed 03-Jul-13 21:30:11

That sounds familiar.

loismustdieatyahoodotcom Wed 03-Jul-13 21:16:07

the hand that rocked the cradle maybe?

OHforDUCKScake Wed 03-Jul-13 21:11:51

<tumble weed>

Now Im stuck trying to remember the name of that film.

OHforDUCKScake Wed 03-Jul-13 20:40:41

Its just dawned on me.

The OP never mentioned whether she was lactating. Perhaps she has no children, but wondered if she should just give it her breast?

I watched a film like that once, THAT was weird.

Emilythornesbff Wed 03-Jul-13 20:11:56

I guess she was just over optimistic about feed times.
Maybe baby only f every three or four hours.

scottishmummy Wed 03-Jul-13 19:58:23

Well it's not reckless abandonment.maybe had to go out,had appt,maybe wanted break

TeamSouthfields Wed 03-Jul-13 19:19:53

Why wud someone leave there 3 month old baby for 3 hours, knowing they maybe Hungry !?

I just want the OP to come back - I'm feeling like a stalker on this thread! blush

Chunderella Wed 03-Jul-13 18:59:01

I understand that it's a theory.

zeeboo Wed 03-Jul-13 17:40:53

I'd never leave a babysitter of mine in this situation but if someone gave my ebf baby formula it would be the last time I spoke to them. I'd be incandescent. Do people not understand about the virgin gut?
Always, breast milk from mothers breast, mothers breast milk expressed, donor milk, and formula as a very last resort.

chocolatemartini Wed 03-Jul-13 17:38:12

Glad someone could be bothered to put disappearing right. People do make up random stuff and try to pass it off as fact hmm hope the baby got fed anyway and the mother returned. I'd have fed it if the mother was later than she said he would be. Poor thing.

claraschu Wed 03-Jul-13 17:35:24

I have breastfed friends' babies, and they have breastfed mine. I would be grateful to you for feeding the baby, but I would never have left a baby that age without discussing feeding ahead of time (never would have left the baby at all actually).

Why is it not horrifying to people that you are drinking the milk of a cow? To me, this is much more strange.

LouiseSmith Wed 03-Jul-13 17:20:55

@AnyFucker - was hardly a shit storm.

Emilythornesbff Wed 03-Jul-13 14:54:52

Has anyone fed that baby yet? grin
Fwiw. I wouldn't mind a close friend bfeeding my baby.
I would be livid if someone gave her formula.
But whatcha sposed to do in op's situation??

stopprocrastinating Wed 03-Jul-13 14:49:42

It wouldn't bother me, but understand why it would bother others. I could never have left my 3 month old baby for three hours though. An hour tops.

melika Wed 03-Jul-13 14:36:21

Just no.

well, we'll never know will we...

Blarhdy OPs never coming back to update. It's vair rude.

I would be happy with someone else BFing my baby.

I've done it in the past and same mum fed my DD. they are 3 weeks apart in age. Was never an issue and it meant no bloody expressing which I hated.
I'm quite shock that people are so upset as we never gave it a second thought. We have been v good friends for over 20 years though.

RiotsNotDiets Tue 02-Jul-13 19:38:33

Apart from that what you said was accurate.....
<snorts> Well said ICBINEG!

tiktok Tue 02-Jul-13 17:09:59

* Human* milk is way more pathogenic to humans than cows milk

hahahahahahaha - where are you getting your info from, disappearing???

However, you are right that babies don't get foot and mouth disease from formula.....

RibenaFiend Tue 02-Jul-13 16:46:00

In that position I would like to think that I would be incredibly grateful that someone would offer to nurse my ebf child. Of course HIV etc is a real consideration but I can't believe I would leave a 12 week old baby with anyone other than my closest friends and we all know each other as well as ourself.

ICBINEG Tue 02-Jul-13 13:50:46

BTW milk is a bodily fluid, but it is most closely related to sweat. Anyone think you can get HIV by getting someone's sweat on you?

ICBINEG Tue 02-Jul-13 13:48:46

disappearing

"Breast milk is a bodily fluid, so to feed someone else's baby is akin to having a blood transfusion or similar,"

No it isn't. Completely different things are transmissible through blood and milk. The vast majority of things you could catch from a transfusion you cannot catch from milk.

"this is why cows milk is pasteurised."

No it isn't. Cows milk is pasturised because it has to travel a long way before being drunk, and all milk contains as small amount of bacteria at point of origin. If you wanted to store breast milk for a week while you got it to the shops you would have to pasturise that too, but seeing as it is used straight away, you don't.

"A baby has been inside its own mother before birth, so has already shared all blood/germs/viruses etc. before birth, someone else's baby is obv not in that position."

This is total shit. Unless something went wrong during birth or there is an internal bleed, the baby has not shared blood with the mother, and hence has not shared any blood based viruses. For evidence of this consider that not all babies born to HIV positive mothers are HIV positive. Consider that this is also true if they BF their babies

Apart from that what you said was accurate.....

Disappearing Tue 02-Jul-13 12:47:50

Breast milk is a bodily fluid, so to feed someone else's baby is akin to having a blood transfusion or similar, this is why cows milk is pasteurised. Human milk is way more pathogenic to humans than cows milk as obv we are the same species, think of transmission of bird flu between humans vs. between birds. A baby has been inside its own mother before birth, so has already shared all blood/germs/viruses etc. before birth, someone else's baby is obv not in that position.

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