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Wibu to breastfeed my friends baby?

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thepigflu Mon 01-Jul-13 12:51:55

So he's been crying for 45 minutes, my friend has only been away for 2 and a half hours, she said she'd be about 3hours but she's not answering her phone. I've tried everything but he's so distressed, twisting his head around searching for a feed. I'm not sure how my friend would take it but I'm thinking I'll just feed him, is that wrong?

fuzzywuzzy Mon 01-Jul-13 12:53:06

Yes very wrong.

Give him water?

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Mon 01-Jul-13 12:53:19

Don't even think about it without an explicit agreement from your friend. shock

How old is the baby?
I don't think I would. Can you offer water? Boiled and cooled cows milk? A dummy? I think breastfeeding someone else's baby without agreement is a bit dodgy.

mrstigs Mon 01-Jul-13 12:53:37

I wouldn't without asking.

LadyMaryCrawley Mon 01-Jul-13 12:53:45

No, just feed him!

Manchesterhistorygirl Mon 01-Jul-13 12:53:49

Why is it very wrong? Go on let's have your reasoning? You wouldn't say that if it was a bottle would you?

How's he fed normally? Ff or bf? How old is the baby?

IwishIwasmoreorganised Mon 01-Jul-13 12:54:17

Try some water first.

Keep phoning your friend.

I can see where you're coming from, but not sure I'd be happy if he was my ds and you were my friend (though I don't know why!)

FluffyDavis Mon 01-Jul-13 12:54:25

shock I would be horrified if someone else breastfed my baby!
Please don't do it.

BinkyBinkleBinkster Mon 01-Jul-13 12:54:27

I'd think it is fine and sensible.

What do you think your friend would think?

MrsBungle Mon 01-Jul-13 12:54:28

Definitely unreasonable.

oinkment Mon 01-Jul-13 12:54:33

Fine if she's said it's okay.

Completely overstepping normal boundaries if you've not asked.

Try taking him outside?

How old is he?

I wouldn't mind, but your friend might.
Did you discuss what to do if he was upset?

xylem8 Mon 01-Jul-13 12:55:14

I am pretty sure it is illegal to b/f someone elses baby without their consent

tourdefrance Mon 01-Jul-13 12:56:11

Assuming you can and he is breastfed normally, I would say yes.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Mon 01-Jul-13 12:56:18

It is very wrong. Primarily because if the health risks to the baby. I assume you are not HIV+ , nevertheless it is is big jump to assume that the mother will be happy.

I don't know why it's very wrong. But I'd feel a bit strange if a friend did this to my baby. Just feels much more intimate and a bonding experience than bottle feeding. Don't think I'd say anything if this happened or not want friend to look after my baby again but it would be a bit weird.

Depends on what you think your friend would want op <unhelpful>

TheToysAreALIVEITellThee Mon 01-Jul-13 12:56:53

Is the baby bf already? Yabu either way, just curious

thebody Mon 01-Jul-13 12:57:06

No I am sorry that's not on.

Infections such as HIV can be transferred in breast milk.

Not casting aspersions but its your bodily fluids which you should keep to yourself.

He will b fine and next time refuse to have him without expressed milk or a bottle of formula.

CheungFun Mon 01-Jul-13 12:57:29

I don't think I'd bf someone else's baby unless I had their permission first tbh. How old is the baby? Can they have some water or formula milk instead or any solid food?

Wishfulmakeupping Mon 01-Jul-13 12:57:45

Don't even think about it!!
Take the baby out for a walk anything but not feeding baby

Littlefish Mon 01-Jul-13 12:58:04

Unless you have explicit permission from your friend then you should not do it.

thepigflu Mon 01-Jul-13 12:58:19

He's three months old and exclusively breastfed, he's pretty distressed but I really don't know how my friend would react so I think I will just rock him and cuddle until she gets back. Thanks for the quick responses.

AnyFucker Mon 01-Jul-13 12:58:35

Another one of these "breastfeed my friends baby" threads ?

They pop up every so often and cause a shitstorm

Just sayin'

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