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AIBU?

Wibu to breastfeed my friends baby?

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thepigflu · 01/07/2013 12:51

So he's been crying for 45 minutes, my friend has only been away for 2 and a half hours, she said she'd be about 3hours but she's not answering her phone. I've tried everything but he's so distressed, twisting his head around searching for a feed. I'm not sure how my friend would take it but I'm thinking I'll just feed him, is that wrong?

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fuzzywuzzy · 01/07/2013 12:53

Yes very wrong.

Give him water?

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 01/07/2013 12:53

Don't even think about it without an explicit agreement from your friend. Shock

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EhricLovesTeamQhuay · 01/07/2013 12:53

How old is the baby?
I don't think I would. Can you offer water? Boiled and cooled cows milk? A dummy? I think breastfeeding someone else's baby without agreement is a bit dodgy.

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mrstigs · 01/07/2013 12:53

I wouldn't without asking.

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LadyMaryCrawley · 01/07/2013 12:53

No, just feed him!

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Manchesterhistorygirl · 01/07/2013 12:53

Why is it very wrong? Go on let's have your reasoning? You wouldn't say that if it was a bottle would you?

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Wheresmycaffeinedrip · 01/07/2013 12:54

How's he fed normally? Ff or bf? How old is the baby?

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IwishIwasmoreorganised · 01/07/2013 12:54

Try some water first.

Keep phoning your friend.

I can see where you're coming from, but not sure I'd be happy if he was my ds and you were my friend (though I don't know why!)

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FluffyDavis · 01/07/2013 12:54

Shock I would be horrified if someone else breastfed my baby!
Please don't do it.

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BinkyBinkleBinkster · 01/07/2013 12:54

I'd think it is fine and sensible.

What do you think your friend would think?

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MrsBungle · 01/07/2013 12:54

Definitely unreasonable.

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oinkment · 01/07/2013 12:54

Fine if she's said it's okay.

Completely overstepping normal boundaries if you've not asked.

Try taking him outside?

How old is he?

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SauvignonBlanche · 01/07/2013 12:54

I wouldn't mind, but your friend might.
Did you discuss what to do if he was upset?

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xylem8 · 01/07/2013 12:55

I am pretty sure it is illegal to b/f someone elses baby without their consent

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tourdefrance · 01/07/2013 12:56

Assuming you can and he is breastfed normally, I would say yes.

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propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS · 01/07/2013 12:56

It is very wrong. Primarily because if the health risks to the baby. I assume you are not HIV+ , nevertheless it is is big jump to assume that the mother will be happy.

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YellowDinosaur · 01/07/2013 12:56

I don't know why it's very wrong. But I'd feel a bit strange if a friend did this to my baby. Just feels much more intimate and a bonding experience than bottle feeding. Don't think I'd say anything if this happened or not want friend to look after my baby again but it would be a bit weird.

Depends on what you think your friend would want op

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TheToysAreALIVEITellThee · 01/07/2013 12:56

Is the baby bf already? Yabu either way, just curious

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thebody · 01/07/2013 12:57

No I am sorry that's not on.

Infections such as HIV can be transferred in breast milk.

Not casting aspersions but its your bodily fluids which you should keep to yourself.

He will b fine and next time refuse to have him without expressed milk or a bottle of formula.

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CheungFun · 01/07/2013 12:57

I don't think I'd bf someone else's baby unless I had their permission first tbh. How old is the baby? Can they have some water or formula milk instead or any solid food?

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Wishfulmakeupping · 01/07/2013 12:57

Don't even think about it!!
Take the baby out for a walk anything but not feeding baby

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Littlefish · 01/07/2013 12:58

Unless you have explicit permission from your friend then you should not do it.

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thepigflu · 01/07/2013 12:58

He's three months old and exclusively breastfed, he's pretty distressed but I really don't know how my friend would react so I think I will just rock him and cuddle until she gets back. Thanks for the quick responses.

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AnyFucker · 01/07/2013 12:58

Another one of these "breastfeed my friends baby" threads ?

They pop up every so often and cause a shitstorm

Just sayin'

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propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS · 01/07/2013 12:58

Hepatitis B can also be spread if cracking to the nipples.

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