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AIBU?

To park over my neighbours drive

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asianbabe · 25/06/2013 21:53

Just really wanted some opinions really. Today I parked over my neighbour's drive. There was a reason for me doing this I wasn't being a total arse.

Basically I have two very young children and live on a road where every other house has a drive as we live by a station many people tend to park their cars on my road all day and go off to work. Unfortunately, I don't have a drive.

I've been getting increasingly annoyed with my neighbour who lives across the road for the past year she has only parked her car in her drive a few times instead she chooses to park outside her house on the road. i think she does this so that her visitors are guaranteed a parking spot on her drive.

Anyway I came home from shopping today and was unable to find parking on my road. With Two young kids under the age of 2 and 20 shopping bags i Saw her car not on her drive and just got so annoyed that I parked over her drive. She came out we exchanged words I told her how selfish she was being and she told me to move my car. I informed her that I would not move the car until a spot became available to park in and if she was so concerned to park her car in her drive and I would park my car where her car was.

To cut a long story short she refused and said she was expecting visitors so they could use her drive.

I left my car there over an hour until a parking spot became available then I moved my car.

Just to add she has no kids and leaves her car on the road for weeks at a time so taking up a parking spot.

I told a friend about what I did and she said i was being unreasonable. Just wondered if this is normal behaviour got those that have drives or am I a total bitch Hmm

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SantanaLopez · 25/06/2013 21:56

YABU, it's her property.

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Shutupanddrive · 25/06/2013 21:56

YABU, it's her drive not yours! And she has as much right to park on the road as anyone else

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Shutupanddrive · 25/06/2013 21:57

So you have more right because you have children and she doesn't? Really?

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WildlingPrincess · 25/06/2013 21:58

YABU. Sorry.

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UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea · 25/06/2013 21:59

Sorry, YAB totally U.

Go and live in a different house or get your shopping delivered if you can't manage.

Your neighbour is being a PITA but you are still BU.

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exoticfruits · 25/06/2013 21:59

YABU - she isn't responsible for you not having a drive. She can park in the road, and I can quite see why she would if she has visitors coming.

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PoppadomPreach · 25/06/2013 21:59

As much as I understand your frustration and cannot imagine how difficult it is with two small kids and shopping, you were wrong as she is perfectly and legally entitled to park on the road just like you. Parking there for a quick ten minutes just to unload your shopping would have been wrong, but forgivable. Parking there for an hour out of spite is absolutely not on.

By I really do feel for you - I have lived on a road like this and the parking was a nightmare, even without kids.

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PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 25/06/2013 21:59

YABU. She was saving her drive space for visitors.

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WireCat · 25/06/2013 22:00

Yabu.

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runningonwillpower · 25/06/2013 22:00

Sorry, I see where you are coming from but if she chooses to park in a public highway then she is entitled to do so.

But if it's any consolation I think that she is unreasonable too.

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Dahlialover · 25/06/2013 22:01

I don't think you were being unreasonable. It might make her think another time......if you are lucky.

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ZZZenagain · 25/06/2013 22:01

I can understand why you did it but it was a bit aggressive. The parking situation generally sounds bad. Not sure what can be done about it, frustrating for you

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ChuckitintheBucket · 25/06/2013 22:01

I can understand why this winds you up but really you have no right to park on her property. Yabu.

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Ginderella · 25/06/2013 22:01

Is this a reverse AIBU?

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PelvicFloorClenchReminder · 25/06/2013 22:01

And also, by visitors, she may have meant carers, or any number of things that are also none of your business.

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ExitPursuedByABear · 25/06/2013 22:02

She was being an arse. But you were in the wrong. Sorry.

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AlpacaPicnic · 25/06/2013 22:03

It gets mentioned a LOT on here that as long as you are not blocking someone in (i.e. as long as her car was not on the drive unable to get out) then it is perfectly legal to block someones driveway.

But I'm just repeating hearsay...

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gordyslovesheep · 25/06/2013 22:04

yab massively unreasonable sorry - having a drive does not mean she has no legal right to park on a public road - you should have got a house with a drive if it was that important

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WorrySighWorrySigh · 25/06/2013 22:04

YABU

  • Having children and lots of shopping is your problem not your neighbour's
  • Not having off-road parking is your problem not your neighbour's
  • Both you and your neighbour are permitted to park on the road. Your neighbour got there first. That is your problem not your neighbour's.
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Cravey · 25/06/2013 22:04

I'm afraid I would have had you towed. You were selfish and rude. How on earth does your neighbour put up with you.

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YeahBuddy · 25/06/2013 22:05

Unfortunately YABU, but you have my sympathies as I have a very similar problem with my neighbour!

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Punkatheart · 25/06/2013 22:06

Why was the neighbour being an arse? I don't see that at all. I see a woman who has kept her own drive for her own visitors - then got cross when someone parks there instead. Sorry OP - you have no right to park on someone else's property. It would make me cross too.

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Dahlialover · 25/06/2013 22:06

I don't think you could get her towed - it is the public highway after all. The neighbour does not own the public highway next to the drive either.

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WandaDoff · 25/06/2013 22:06

I can totally understand your frustration, but you went a bit too far.

YABU. Sorry.

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gwenniebee · 25/06/2013 22:06

If the commuters parking there is such an issue why not see if the council will impose a no parking zone from 10am-11am? This is what is done on the streets round us to prevent people leaving their cars all day. Or maybe a residents' parking scheme would be better. I feel for you, but you WBU.

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