To think this woman was a nasty caaaah

(34 Posts)
ChairmanWow Fri 21-Jun-13 14:09:33

Ive tried to resist but I need to get this off my chest because I think it was breathtakingly rude.

Yesterday morning I was dropping DS (2.3) off at nursery. I parked up, got 3 mo DD out and into her sling and went round to get DS out. Another car had pulled up next to me. I had the door open and DS's car seat belt undone when the woman in the next car said, stroppily, 'close that door please'. I replied that DS wouldn't be a sec and asked him to be quick getting out as the lady was waiting. He of course chose that moment to start messing about but I got him out and off we went, watched by this woman who was sighing repeatedly and loudly.

Two minutes later the other driver stormed up to me holding her baby and laid right into me. She said 'I'm 20 minutes late for work now. It took me half the time to get her out and I had to wait for him!', pointing at my son. I told her this wasn't my fault, she shouted 'It's not like you have got anything to do today!'. I told her this was inappropriate in front of children. She sighed and stormed off.

Thing is, if she'd calmly told me she was late and asked if I could let her get her baby out first I would of course have let her.

AIBU to still be seething that this woman spoke to me like this in front of my DS and other kids and parents?

ChairmanWow Fri 21-Jun-13 19:17:35

Thanks folks. I do have a heart btw and am a working mum when not on mat leave. I tried to put it down to her being stressed but jeez, on my worst days I would never behave like that. Maybe she is feeling embarrassed right now, who knows. If she's not then she's definitely a nasty caaah.

I shall pretend to be something resembling a mature human being and put it behind me. Thanks for your replies.

MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour Fri 21-Jun-13 18:30:45

YANBU

yes she might have been late and stressed but that's no excuse to act like a twat

Well done for rising above her twatiness op grin

Shutupanddrive Fri 21-Jun-13 18:09:25

YANBU, cheeky cow

jessjessjess Fri 21-Jun-13 17:34:24

Well yes, she was a cow, but she was probably really stressed out about being late for work. Maybe she has a horrible boss who's on her case and thinks she's less productive now she has kids. Maybe she was tired.

YANBU, but have a heart.

TimeofChange Fri 21-Jun-13 17:13:31

YANBU
Wodger: There always has to be a contrary one on here, doesn't there.
The OP was in a car park, not on a road.

OP: Maybe smile very sweetly at here and be over friendly next time you see her - hopefully that will annoy here.

OrangeLily Fri 21-Jun-13 17:08:10

She was rude.

Imagine if she'd really nicely said 'Im so sorry to be rude. I'm running so late and getting really stressed. Could I get my baby out first please' instead them most folk would just have been like 'oh how horrible is there anything I can help with?' (Or substitute British type phrase).

WeleaseWodger Fri 21-Jun-13 17:06:15

Depends. What do you do when there's traffic? Do you make cars wait for you or do you politely half close the door leaning into it so traffic can pass and only then put your kids in/out of their seats?

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Fri 21-Jun-13 17:01:41

You should have ramped it up into a sahm v working mum debate by replying 'being a mother is the most important job in the world, I am blessed' grin

miffybun73 Fri 21-Jun-13 16:59:27

YANBU, unless it took you 20 minutes to get your son out of the car. I imagine it took more like 2-3 mins at the most.

Hmm, I assume the baby was her first child and she has not yet had the delight of removing a toddler from a car...

TSSDNCOP Fri 21-Jun-13 16:56:21

She wasnt so late she couldn't spare the time to rip you a new one though.

YANBU, rude and unjustified. Would have got the death ray look of death from me.

lollilou Fri 21-Jun-13 16:53:58

* LyingWitchInTheWardrobe * Shouting and being rude is not appropriate in front of children in my eyes.

Miserable caaah - ignore!

Thumbwitch Fri 21-Jun-13 16:48:55

YANBU. She was just venting her annoyance on the nearest available person, which was you. It was of course entirely her own fault that she was so late, but she didn't fancy taking the blame for it so she decided to blame you.

Pity her for her inadequacies and rise above. smile

Lambzig Fri 21-Jun-13 16:41:57

She was being a caaaahh, bet she is mortified now about it though.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Fri 21-Jun-13 16:37:36

It's not your fault she didn't leave enough time.

You didn't keep her waiting for 20 minutes so she was already late and in a mood. That's her fault, not yours.

Just let it go. She's not worth time in your head.

Some people seem to need to make others responsible for their poor planning. hmm There's a woman in the village who drives like a maniac, overtakes recklesly and hoots if there's anyone in front of her daring to stick to the actual speed limit. Get out of the house 10 minutes earlier, you dopy arse. hmm

silverten Fri 21-Jun-13 16:34:24

Classic example of catching more flies with honey than vinegar I think.

SoleSource Fri 21-Jun-13 16:33:44

She'd had a bad start to her day and took it out on you and your children.

YANBU she is indeed a caaahhh

Mooooooooooo

plainjaney Fri 21-Jun-13 16:28:42

I'd have replied with "Perhaps you should have left home earlier then you wouldn't be so late" and smiled sweetly.

Housemum Fri 21-Jun-13 14:55:02

I'd have taken more offence at the "not like you've got anything to do" line - how does she know you weren't going to eg a doctor's appt with your other child? She was obviously having a bad day and a few seconds' delay was enough to make her snap. We've all been there - unless she is rude again, live and let live. You may well find that she is feeling awful and dreading meeting you again because of this.

ArtexMonkey Fri 21-Jun-13 14:44:55

She was rude. Rude from the minute she asked you 'stroppily' to close your door. Rude to be sighing and huffing and puffing, rude to make out like her time is more valuable than yours because she works out of the home, rude to blame you for her own lateness, rude to her employers to stand around arguing the toss pointlessly when she is already 20mins late and counting for work. Rude bitch. Ignore. Be icy, like an ice queen.

tootdelafruit Fri 21-Jun-13 14:39:03

I would have just rolled my eyes and walked away at the first sign of her looking for a row or wanting to get stuck into me. you don't have to stand and listen to it you know- you dont owe her an audience. let her rant into the wind if she feels she must but you don't have to take being spoken to like that so dnt- just walk away in future- if she comes after you calmly turn and say "if you wish to speak to me please check your tone otherwise i'm walking away"

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Fri 21-Jun-13 14:34:28

I think the lady overreacted - probably because she was late - and what she said has upset you. Being late, particularly if you're not habitually late, is a horrid feeling. Seeing your DS messing about would have added fuel to that.

If it would have been me, I probably would have shut the door and let her hare off, you didn't. You weren't wrong but I don't understand what you mean by 'not appropriate in front of the children'. What did she say that was so wrong? I think you're being oversensitive possibly.

Glittertwins Fri 21-Jun-13 14:24:00

She would still have been 15 mins late anyway if the time taken for you not being there into consideration. She should have got up earlier to factor on mishaps before leaving her house so she was wholly unreasonable.

PearlyWhites Fri 21-Jun-13 14:23:44

Yanbu I doubt your ds took over twenty minutes to get out of the car.

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