To be VERY annoyed with noise kids are making outside

[HoppinMad]

I wish I could open the window and scream about the bloody racket. But they're kids so I wont.
Argh the level of screaming, shouting, swearing and loud laughter is getting on my nerves, it has taken me over an hour to settle dc. The baby fell asleep after about half an hour, but toddler is a very light sleeper and despite being shattered from a half day at nursery and various activities just couldn't settle because of the sheer noise.

We live in a quiet cul-de-sac with mainly young families. It is generally the same two or three families that allow their feral dc (ranging from early teens to about two or three years) to be out till very late, and allow them to make all the noise they like disturbing all the other neighbours. Its only since late spring, summer started to be fair, but its beginning to piss me off. I have wasted an hour, when normally it takes 15 minutes max. Kitchens a tip which I promised myself to clean but now I am too tired so dh can do it when he gets home from work

But seriously aibu to think people really should have some consideration for others who have children? I really dont care what time they put their dc to bed, but why allow them to be out till so late and make so much noise. Grrr... They are still at it.

[MrsLouisTheroux]

It's 8.30pm and too late to be out IMHO so YANBU.

[wigglesrock]

Swings and roundabouts - did your baby ever cry through the night?, what about night shift workers who sleep during the day - when would you like kids to play outside?

[Thurlow]

YANBU. I'm sure people will come along and say "oh, they're kids, you can't complain and your kids will be doing the same thing" but most parents know there is a reasonable cut off point. 7 on a school night, 8 on a Friday or Saturday.

[SodaStreamy]

I know it's annoying but if it's the older ones out playing I think that's just part of life. I think it's better they are out interacting with each other than being welded to a pc/gaming device in their bedroom.

There'd be no harm though in asking them to keep it down or move further away, they children won't be thinking about potential sleeping babies

[cardibach]

MrsLouisTheroux 8.30 is not too late for teenagers to be socialising - in the winter they will do it inside somewhere, in the summer outside. It is unreasonable of them to make a noise loud enough to disturb people in their homes, though.

[Mintyy]

As the parent of older children I say yanbu. I think its fine to ask children to come inside or stop making a noise at 8pm, in a built up residential area, even if it is the height of summer.

[themightyfandango]

YABabitU.

You may well be my neighbour, I have three noisy boys 12, 9, 6. I have just brought them inside at 8'30pm. I am aware they are noisy but after being cooped in most of the year the fresh air and exercise is good for them. Otherwise they would be playing xbox and vegetating which would also have people hoiking their judgypants.

I remember when eldest DS was a baby I would get annoyed for the same reasons by the teenager opposite revving his motorbike. Mine are older now and are the noise culprits and I guess one day yours will be too.

Not much you can do unless you can afford a gated mansion or are prepared to live in the middle of nowhere.

I do have sympathy though, frustrating when you are a sleep deprived new mum.

[HoppinMad]

Wriggles what has a crying baby got to do with it? Luckily my neighbours cannot hear us and vice versa, but even if they could, I would NOT allow the baby to cry endlessly and do my utmost to quieten him. And of course apologizing profusely in the morning. Unlike the parents of the noisy kids outside who clearly dont give a shit.

Kids have plenty of time during the day to play outside, even those in full time education have around four hours. 7pm is bedtime for the average young child, and they should not be disturbed by its selfish twunts who cannot say no to their dc, or shoo them outside so they can put their feet up and have a cuppa/watch the soaps/have a quick shag/ whatever else

[valiumredhead]

If they are right outside your house what's stopping you asking then to keep the noise down as you are trying to settle the baby?

[Sirzy]

People complain that children aren't out getting enough fresh air/are spending too long infront of computers then they complain when teens are outside at 8.30. They can't win!

[HoppinMad]

The mighty I understand, its not easy to keep older children indoors but surely they can be told not to make so much noise? Its the screaming and shouting and banging. And if the warning is ignored then bring them in.

Fwiw we have a small park literally next to cul-de-sac, surely they can go there if they are so desperate to play outside till the sun goes down.

[maddening]

Fair enough dc have the right to be outside but if your dc are loud the parents should go out and tell them to keep it down.

[HoppinMad]

Valium they aren't outside my house, they seem to generally play all down the quiet road, but I have been biting my tongue because I dont want to get on the wrong side of all the neighbours involved. Not been too long since we moved and dont know them very well, making friends will probably be out of the question if I start complaining. But you are right, I will have to say something if it carries on.

[ParadiseChick]

I just cannot get pissed off with kids playing and enjoying themselves.

Yabu for referring to them as feral.

[BellaVita]

It isn't their fault you have a baby really is it?

When your baby is old enough to play outside I bet you will forget about the moaning you did about other children playing out.

It is summer, light nights, it doesn't last for long.

[burberryqueen]

was visiting a friend the other night and there were some children running screaming and playing in his cul de sac and we both remarked that it was a good sound, a normal sound, so many parents are keeping their children in these days. Playing out does not make children 'feral'!

[valiumredhead]

Of they aren't outside your house I think you are baying a kill joy. It'll be your kids out there playing before too long.

[valiumredhead]

If not of

[wigglesrock]

So they are not outside your house, just in the cul de sac and your children can't sleep because they're light sleepers.

Look it sounds like you've decided you are not the biggest fan of the family, I'm not sure what you can do about it.

The reasons I've mentioned babies crying is because I know especially with one of mine, there were a good few nights where she cried between 2 and 5am, just no amount of anything would soothe her. We live in -terraced housing, I think it's supposed to be called town houses these days and other peoples noise is part and parcel of living in a street.

From lawnmowers to engines running, buses going past, the 3 teenage boys next door thundering downstairs, dogs barking. It's just one of those things that occurs particularly when the weather is a bit better.

[TimeofChange]

Can you children go to sleep with a calming bedtime music cd, that will cover up a lot of the outside noise?

[Feelslikea1sttimer]

My teenagers (13&14) are still playing cricket on the front garden now, I ocassionally bob my head out of the window and tell them to keep it down, they are not swearing or shouting but there is laughter and the odd 'howzat' but hey I'm not gonna keep them in all night although if someone did say they were keeping a baby or toddler awake I'd make them come in, I'm not going to bring them in 'just in case!'

YABU speak to them calmly if its causing a problem.

[HoppinMad]

Bella - and it isn't my fault they have noisy kids.

Btw the feral word was a bit of a joke hence the deletion line, its not the kids I am annoyed at to be honest, more the parents I think. Isn't it wrong to allow children as young as 2 or 3 to be out at this time, really? They have all just gone in now.

Valium and wriggles - not directly outside my house no, but they do play occasionally, anywhere in the cul-de-sac. I dont have a problem with it at all in the day, its just after 7.30 pm really. They can play after that too if they could stop with the shrieking and shouting.

Also when my dc are older, I believe I would still have some consideration for others with young children, and hope to instill that in my dc also.

[MaybeBentley]

Just a little echo of the screaming child in the café thread that ran and ran... Who's rights over-ride the others?

[HoppinMad]

Timeofchange - I did try white noise when they ds was little but didn't really like it, and wanted the room quiet which worked.

I am calmer now, and can see I was being a bit OTT with wanting to scream out the window etc but a grumpy toddler and a teething baby cause frazzled nerves by evening and its hard when all I want is them to sleep so I can have rest myself.