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kids calling to play at 7.15

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emanjay · 16/06/2013 19:21

Its too late. Ds in bath and getting ready for bed!!

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WorraLiberty · 16/06/2013 19:24

Errm...OK

You haven't mentioned any ages or anything but i'm assuming they're little?

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tethersend · 16/06/2013 19:26

Yeah, you may be being unreasonable if they're 17

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emanjay · 16/06/2013 19:26

He is 6. Its a school night. Not impressed

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2kidsintow · 16/06/2013 19:27

It does my head in. Mine aren't too little now (8 and 12) but by 7pm I want them in and settling down, even if they aren't getting ready for bed at that time.

I have 2 of other people's here now and I know that one has a half 7 curfew so am counting down til then and planning on kicking them both out by then. Then mine can have their bath, a bite of supper as they didn't have a big tea, and go to bed around half 8.

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Vivacia · 16/06/2013 19:28

I think even at 13/14 years old, this would be too late. It doesn't respect the privacy of the rest of the household.

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WorraLiberty · 16/06/2013 19:30

OK but it's not a big deal is it?

Surely you just said, "No it's too late as he's getting ready for bed"?

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 16/06/2013 19:33

my door went at 8.45 the other day, knocking for my 5yo I know he doesn't go to sleep super early but still

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emanjay · 16/06/2013 19:34

He is in tears as feels left out. I will have to mention it to their mum

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emanjay · 16/06/2013 19:34

Omg that's crazy

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Bunbaker · 16/06/2013 19:37

DD (nearly 13) went out at 7. I know she won't be too long though. She doesn't need much sleep and has written a page of homework, so I didn't mind. She is prone to being a bit of a couch potato so I encourage her when she wants to meet her friends at the rec. She always has her phone with her as well - and is good at keeping in touch.

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likesnowflakesinanocean · 16/06/2013 19:41

I hear you emanjay I am always the mean mum and everyone else is allowed out whenever they want apparently

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YouStayClassySanDiego · 16/06/2013 19:46

Who's in tears?

The visiting friend's tears isn't your problem so ignore that nonsense.

Ignore any stroppiness from all others and do what you think is best.

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girliefriend · 16/06/2013 19:49

I'm assuming its the op son who feels left out and is crying!!

YANBU, I wouldn't be impressed either, at 6 they should be going to bed at 7pm!!

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ParadiseChick · 16/06/2013 19:49

You just say no and that's that surely?

I'm a bit laid back to be honest, good weather and light nights are so rare and playing out is such fun things like this don't bother me. If my 7 year old was out playing right now I'd leave him to it for another wee bit. Let them make the most of it!

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Jinty64 · 16/06/2013 19:52

at 6 they should be going to bed at 7pm! I wish!

If I put ds3 (6) to bed at 7pm he would be up before 5am.

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wigglesrock · 16/06/2013 19:54

Really, most kids play out until about 8pm here - we've only 2 weeks of school left and this is the first evening it hasn't been pissing down in a week.

I mean obviously it's up to you when and if your kids go out but I don't think 7.15pm on a June evening is to late to rap the door and ask if someone is coming out to play.

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Bunbaker · 16/06/2013 19:55

If DD had gone to sleep at 7 she would have been up at 5. She has never needed much sleep.

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TeWiSavesTheDay · 16/06/2013 19:59

We had this last week. My 4yo was literally on her way to bed and spent the next hour and a half kicking off about wanting to play out.

Was not impressed.

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Sparklingbrook · 16/06/2013 19:59

it depends on so many things though. How much sleep your child needs, how dependent they are on routines.

I would just blu tack a note to the bell-in fact I have done.

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girliefriend · 16/06/2013 20:34

Yes my dd does need a good 12 hours a night sleep, she has always needed a lot of sleep much like her mother

Mind you she had a friend over for a sleepover last night and they were up til gone 10pm, she was a grumpy madam today though because of it!
So i'm not really strict all the time!!

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emanjay · 16/06/2013 20:38

We have 5 weeks of term left. We have busy days and DS needs to be in bed by 7.30, he is always tired and ready for sleep. When we are off to the park on weekend mornings they are still asleep, curtains shut 9.30am. Always last up to school, running late

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ParadiseChick · 16/06/2013 20:41

Who? The family of the boy that came in for your son?

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Rowgtfc72 · 16/06/2013 20:50

Dd is six and in bed for half six. She wakes up half six in the morning and likes her sleep. We went on holiday and a kid from the next caravan was gobsmacked when she called for Dd at half seven and she was already asleep. Some kids just need their sleep !

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NiceTabard · 16/06/2013 20:54

neighbours kids are out til 8 often. the youngest is a year older than my oldest (so he is 6).

Doesn't bother me in the slightest. If it were 10pm then sure but 7.15? Honestly? Mine go up for bath at 6.30 / bed 7 (in theory!) and if he's playing out I just say, well what of it, different families work in different ways.

You can't tell other people that their kids aren't to play out after a certain time to fit in with your family's routine. I wouldn't dream of doing that TBH.

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NiceTabard · 16/06/2013 20:56

Oh just read OP's last post.

So basically you disapprove of their lifestyle as it is different to yours.

Can't be bothered with people who think that way TBH.