Creepy trespassing magical fucking fairies

(62 Posts)
Tortoiseonthehalfshell Sun 16-Jun-13 07:02:57

Our property has no front fences between it and the neighbours on each side. Consequently we are all able to enter one another's property, chat between them, etc. Both neighbours, to our left and right, are single women with grown children. I have a very cordial relationship with one, and we will stop and chat if we are both in our front gardens. I find the other one more difficult, just because I think she's nosy and a gossip, but there is no enmity, I just tend to keep a distance. None of us actually ever come into each others garden, although it is possible to do so its not our norm.

DD1 is four, and will happily talk the ear off either of them.

Yesterday DD1 went into her little playhouse, which sits on our front deck, and came back excited that fairies had left her a present. A fairy book, and a sparkly little purse. So she took them with her - we were on our way out - and we talked about leaving the fairies a thank you note. She got home late and tired, so we tabled it to today.

This morning she gets up, checks the cubbyhouse, there's a fairy figurine. We go out again. On our return two hours later there's another little purse, filled with beads and kids jewelry.

I don't like this at all. I think its nosy neighbour, and I think its way out of line to be coming onto my property, setting up expectations in my kid without checking with me or DH,and she is obviously monitoring our movements since she knew we were out this morning (we do have to drive past her window, to be fair). DH thinks its sweet, I want it to stop.

ParadiseChick Sun 16-Jun-13 17:37:08

It's a lot weird.

LadyFlumpalot Sun 16-Jun-13 17:13:08

It might be a good idea to find out for certain of it is one of your neighbours.

If it is one of your neighbours then I think it's a rather lovely thing to do.

If they both deny it and you think they are truthful then that would worry me a little bit to be honest.

thegreylady Sun 16-Jun-13 15:20:49

I'd do that blush though I'd probably ask if it was ok.Don't take away the magig.I'd let dd leave a card and include a note with it saying: Dear Friendly Fairy,
Thank you for bringing a little magic into the playhouse but we'd be grateful if it wasn't too frequent as dd will be disappointed if you stop [maybe give us a quick call to let us know so we can avoid too may treats at once].

badbride Sun 16-Jun-13 15:04:41

Your neighbour doesn't happen to live in a gingerbread house, does she, OP? grin If so, I'd watch out for the individual gifts turning into a trail of fairy tat leading to her oven.

You could try hiding in your house, armed with a pump-action water gun. Works to keep the cats out of my friend's garden, at any rate. Ditto black-pointy-hatted witches.

Sparklymommy Sun 16-Jun-13 15:02:47

As much as I want to say that this is sweet and yabu, I just can't bring myself to. I think you definitely need to establish who is doing this and if at all possible, why!

If its real fairies, you could make a fortune if you catch one!

GiraffesAndButterflies Sun 16-Jun-13 15:01:37

The "fairies" can't be unaware that the OP is wondering who on earth they are. Maybe as a one-off that wouldn't matter, but three times so quickly, the neighbour surely can't be oblivious that this would be on your mind! That seems rude to me, they should have talked to you first.

trackies Sun 16-Jun-13 15:01:25

I would find that a bit creepy too. Especially if i wasn't sure as to who it is who's leaving it there. One off present and if you know who it's from is ok from a neighbour, but someone leaving stuff in your a playhouse few times in a row over two days is a bit OTT.

Make sure it is one of your neighbours OP.

plieadianpony Sun 16-Jun-13 14:52:01

yes, it's a bit creepy. Once, slightly eccentric and sweet. Twice mmmm. Three times, creepy. I have had bad experience with stalky neighbours so i'm probably not the best person to give an opinion.
Why not leave a little thank you note then if it happens again, next time you go out leave a mouse trap/steaming pile of poo in there? (Obv not when DD is going to go near it!)

ignore that sorry.

FridaKarlov Sun 16-Jun-13 14:38:01

I think it's a sweet thing to do, but I'd want to
know who it is doing it. Plus its making the OP feel a bit wary and invaded. I think ask the neighbours if it was one of them, and say thanks if it was, and try and see id there's a subtle way to find out what prompted it. If it is the neighbour, chance is age finds your little girl to be charming and wants to do something nice for her, with no sinister intentions.

badbride Sun 16-Jun-13 11:30:07

I'm going to go against the majority here and agree with the OP. A mystery person has been waiting for the OP to go out, before going on to her property, and into her child's playhouse to leave gifts, on multiple occasions, without identifying themselves to the OP. In what universe is this anything other than rude, intrusive and creepy behaviour?

Don't get me wrong: I think this would be a lovely thing for a neighbour to do, if she let the OP know she was doing it. At the moment, the poor OP is quite rightly worried as to the identity of the mystery "fairies".

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Sun 16-Jun-13 11:14:37

Leave it for now, let DD enjoy it, see how it goes.

If the neighbour was nice it wouldn't bother me, if I didn't like the neighbour I'd probably be a bit annoyed... which just goes to show it's not the act itself that is annoying - just my perception grin

cheerfulweather Sun 16-Jun-13 11:14:28

I've seen 'grooming' mentioned at least twice as a possibility! Really? <shakes head>

OP, at the moment it is sweet, but see how long it continues. And perhaps ask the neighbours to find out who it is.

KinkyDorito Sun 16-Jun-13 11:14:09

I'm with dopey, sounds like real fairies to me. If it was with my DC, I'd see if they fancied sorting the garden whilst they were at it. Do fairies have lawnmowers?

Salmotrutta Sun 16-Jun-13 11:10:04

Why do you think it's Nosey Neighbour and not Other Neighbour?

MrsHoarder Sun 16-Jun-13 11:09:10

Dancergirl I meant in the "as I've given you some sweets, you have to do me a favour" sense, not as a spoilt expectation. IDK its just that sets off alarm bells for me. Most child abuse is by an adult the child knows.

Tortoiseonthehalfshell Sun 16-Jun-13 11:07:46

Dopeysheep, ha!

Its unlikely to be anyone else (than one of the two neighbours) given that a new present appeared after a two hour absence today, I think. Certainly not worrying about peados on every corner!

Fakebook, no I know she's nosy and gossipy, you can't not know that after ten years of living next to someone. There are tales I can tell, but they're not relevant because it might not be her, and I find it intrusive and odd no matter who it is.

She doesn't talk to DD much compared to the other neighbour, really, just very occasionally, so no idea why now. DD likes fairies - I mean, she's four - but they don't really feature in her conversation much.

Salmotrutta Sun 16-Jun-13 11:06:34

I think I'd definitely be wanting to establish who did it.

Neighbour you know - quite sweet but maybe too much in a couple of days.

Someone you don't know - weird and not so sweet.

Stellarpunk Sun 16-Jun-13 10:57:01

Surely it IS an intrusion to enter someone's property without permission.

I would also tend to argue that the frequency is in itself odd. OP, has something, anything changed over the last few days? I find it strange that either neighbour with an established pattern of behaviour suddenly changes it.

I personally would have a chat with the neighbours either side.

Because, what if it isn't them?

Fakebook Sun 16-Jun-13 10:45:53

The person is not a stranger. It's a neighbour who the OP has known for years.

Absolutely ridiculous. The OP is getting her own feelings of the neighbour get in the way of this. She thinks the neighbour is nosey and a gossip. Thinks. It sounds like the neighbour is trying to reach out to the OP trying to show that she's not as cold as she thinks she is. she doesn't sound like a bad person to me at all. She does sound misunderstood.

Tweasels Sun 16-Jun-13 10:38:50

It's the daily mail effect.

Dancergirl Sun 16-Jun-13 10:34:59

sets an expectation

What rubbish! If a child is bought a present by ANYONE, you teach them to be appreciative of that present but not to EXPECT anything else.

This a different thing from accepting a present from a stranger. As far as the OPs dd is concerned the presents are from the fairies. The neighbour is hardly likely to say 'by the way OP's dd, did you like the presents I left you?'

This thread is so sad on so many levels.

Tweasels Sun 16-Jun-13 10:34:39

The OP believes the fairy to be her neighbour.

If it is a stranger that's an entirely different matter.

Why don't you just ask the neighbour if it was her?

MrsHoarder Sun 16-Jun-13 10:28:14

I thought grooming as well. If your dd is expecting fairs then out would be much easier to tempt her into the house/car of whoever is doing it.

Were none of you taught not to take presents from strangers? It removes a boundary and sets an expectation of owing.

500internalerror Sun 16-Jun-13 10:24:42

Like others have said, it's the frequency that's disturbing - once is sweet, if its from a well meaning neighbour. 3 times in rapid succession is definitely OTT.

ChewingOnLifesGristle Sun 16-Jun-13 10:23:54

I thought it was a woman....confused

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