AIBU? My neighbour thinks I’ve stolen their garden bin.

(101 Posts)
SukiTake Thu 13-Jun-13 23:18:43

My neighbour (let?s call them X) is accusing me of trespassing in their garden and of stealing their garden bin blush, which seems like a bit of a shockhmm to me as I think I am entitled to have it. Before I go blowing my top unnecessarily and making a fool of myself about all of this, tell me, AIBU? Here are some facts:

? We shared cost of the collection service pretty much 50/50 over a period of several years.
? X told me at the end of last year that they no longer wanted to share the bin.
? It was just sitting in their garden unused this year.
? I asked X about it and they said it was going to be collected and no we couldn?t have it.
? I phoned the council and found that everyone who had a waste collection bin last year was given the bins (when they were rented prior to that), as the council was changing their admin procedure for them.
? I offered to buy the bin from X, but I didn?t tell them how much I was going to offer, X didn?t name a price, and I have since changed my mind and don?t think I should pay X for it. I consider that the bin was purchased when we first went into the arrangement with them.
? X doesn?t want to use the bin or share it with me, so it seems right to me that I should just take it and use it. So, when they were on holiday I did just that ? went into their garden and took it. I haven?t paid them anything for it because I don?t see why I should. They don?t want it.
? I wasn?t trespassing in X?s garden because they had my bin, and so it is my right to go and retrieve my goods.

I?m not BU, am I? My neighbour, X seems to think I am. WWYD, oh wise and lovely people? I haven?t ?stolen? it, have I? Apparently the council has told X to report the theft of their bin by us, and us trespassing in their garden to the police!!

reggiebean Thu 13-Jun-13 23:56:58

Suki Unfortunately, I don't know where this ninja painter lives. Keep an eye out for a half red/half green fence though. If I can find the thread, I'll mention to her that she needs to be on the look out for the woman with half a rolley-bin.

Can you imagine the block parties on that street?! shock

WandaDoff Fri 14-Jun-13 00:00:03

As for the neighbours, tell em to fuck the fuck off.

Tell them to go fuck themselves sideways with a pineapple & while they they are at it they can go shove that bin up their arses as well. <<raspberry>>

Lora1982 Fri 14-Jun-13 00:00:36

I think it's half yours too but I bet there's no proof and they have it as under their name. Also what nasty town makes you buy/rent bins?! Ours is in with council tax

SukiTake Fri 14-Jun-13 00:52:58

Pork I’m glad to hear you think a) offering to buy the bin from them and then b) changing my mind and just taking from their garden makes them petty. I guess they’re being like that because I probably shouldn’t have gone into their garden while they were on holiday and taken it. But I don’t see how it constitutes trespass or stealing. The police couldn’t possibly be interested in either, right? What about Safer Neighbourhoods? Don’t they deal with neighbour disputes?

They set the contract up and did all the admin for it. Plus I used the bin loads more than them and couldn’t ever really be bothered to take it out, so just used to wait for them to do it, and then filled it up as quickly as I could manage. Oh, and I made them wait 10 months last year before giving them half of the rental, and they had to remind me plenty of times to give them the cash. But it is just being petty isn’t it?

Wanda I can’t do that unfortunately, though it is a nice idea. The council have changed the way it’s dealt with so you have to buy them now from a contractor which is nothing to do with the council, and I guess if it’s broken they’d tell you just to buy another. I can’t think why your council responds differently if your bin is broken vs stolen? Are wheely bins fetching masses on Ebay? Is there a massive black market for them??!! So apart from sticking pineapples up their arses, do you think I should keep the bin? Or are you saying you think I should give it back?

Reggie I will keep my eyes peeled for that fence. I want to try and steer clear of such unreasonableness!!

Well, Lora, as it happens, I have lots of emails about sharing the bin. I’m pretty sure it’s all mine and I don’t see why I should pay them for it. Oh, I live in one of the UKs most expensive boroughs. Free with council tax? Where are you? I hope you are near the ninja fence painting lady. I might have to move there after all. grin

HarrietSchulenberg Fri 14-Jun-13 00:58:19

This is a reverse AIBU isn't it?

ZenGardener Fri 14-Jun-13 01:04:01

So let me get this right.

Your neighbours did all the admin for the bin, you filled it up with your rubbish but never took it out, then you couldn't even be bothered paying for the bin rental and this isn't a reverse aibu?

I think the neighbours should sneak round whenever you are out and fill the bin with pig shit.

ZenGardener Fri 14-Jun-13 01:06:19

Wait, so if it is a reverse aibu then suki's neighbours stole the bin?

Suki, if you weren't using it anyway then I'd just let it go. It's just a bin.

cumfy Fri 14-Jun-13 02:00:29

They may have stolen your bin, but you have committed the ultimate sin of reverse AIBUing.

<lightning bolt>
(x_x)
flowers

May God have mercy on your bin deprived soul.

MidniteScribbler Fri 14-Jun-13 02:42:23

Weirdest thread ever.

SukiTake Fri 14-Jun-13 02:50:04

No really midnite, there are plenty weirder.

MummytoKatie Fri 14-Jun-13 05:50:12

Definitely a reverse thread.

Kyrptonite Fri 14-Jun-13 05:53:54

What is it with fences, bins and neighbours at the moment?!

MN is going weird again.

ThisIsYourSong Fri 14-Jun-13 06:31:07

Change it's appearance somehow, say their bin was stolen by someone and you've got a new one, the timing of which was entirely coincidental.

It's a bit petty to get worked up about a bin that they no longer want. You've both already paid for the bin so it doesn't make sense to pay again.

But you do sound like a bloody annoying neighbour, you may need to work on your interpersonal skills

ZenGardener Fri 14-Jun-13 08:22:15

I have this great image of your bin with fake glasses and a moustache or perhaps a camouflage net?

Seriously is it reverse or not?

SukiTake Fri 14-Jun-13 09:50:07

Okay, okay. If it makes you feel better, I have done a role reversal on this. It was just easier to explain that way. I thought I could state the facts a bit less emotionally. Plus I really wanted to try and understand things from the other point of view. I didn't realise it was such a crime! And that is despite being a regular and avid MN user. Obvs I have name changed otherwise I'd be far too easily identifiable.

So ThisIs I'm liking your suggestion that X is a bloody annoying neighbour. I agree entirely. grin

And zen you have some lovely suggestions too. I will start crafting some glasses and a moustache now and place an order for a camouflage net.

It's the principal that's really bugging me. I've spent over £80 on the damned thing and they think they get to keep it for nothing and now have ownership of it? And they can just walk into my garden without my permission and take it (which is trespass)and take it? And of course, this isn't just an isolated incident.

Kryptonite obviously there are a lot of people behaving badly out there. It's not MN which is weird though. What phase is the moon in?

But anyway, thanks to those who've made me laugh a bit about it. I especially like the idea of getting a pig - do they like garden waste? I agree, it is just a bloody bin, which would cost £25 to replace. But that doesn't make their unfair behaviour any better.

ZenGardener Fri 14-Jun-13 10:11:21

Thanks for explaining. They do sound like complete tossers.

I think it would be more than reasonable to drop the occasional shitty nappy or dog turd in it. How about spraying the lid with orange juice to attract wasps? Carve a big knob onto it? Or just wait until they go away and take it to the dump. Act all innocent when they ask where it has gone.

Meh, perhaps best left to fantasy.

EyesCrossedLegsAkimbo Fri 14-Jun-13 10:11:41

I was going to say: It's just a bin, you don't use it, get over it. Until you said you have spent over £80 on it shock I thought my council were tight but all my bins were free.

So how come you paid over £80 but it's only £25 to replace (not that you would because you don't use it)?

SukiTake Fri 14-Jun-13 10:18:00

Zen thank you. I am feeling even better now. Am liking your suggestions. A lot. Though they are probably best left to fantasy. They got married recently. I'm thinking of sticking a huge bow on it one night and telling them that I have been upset because they spoil the surprise by taking it, but yes, I am gifting them my half of the bin as a wedding present.

Eyes it's a shocking amount just to piss away, isn't it?! The bins were rented annually. So we've spent £160 on it between us. Now the council has changed the set-up, so you buy the bin for £25 and then pay for the pick up annually which is £25. Had it been like that in the first place, I think I would have bought the bin myself and gone halves on the collection service.

EyesCrossedLegsAkimbo Fri 14-Jun-13 10:20:54

It is shocking! Thanks for explaining smile

flakjacket Fri 14-Jun-13 10:22:27

I'm confused now. How do you dispose of your rubbish if you don't use the bin?

SukiTake Fri 14-Jun-13 10:33:31

flak it's for garden waste. We don't really generate any. I have bags that I can put out instead.

flakjacket Fri 14-Jun-13 11:02:30

Ah... all becomes clear! Thought you were just incredibly eco-friendly and didn't create any waste grin.

Let them keep the bin. Then next time they have a bbq or drinks in the garden, have a bonfire with all your green waste and a few old tyres whilst loudly lamenting the fact that you no longer have a bin to put it in...

HeffalumpTheFlump Fri 14-Jun-13 11:14:21

Sorry but I'm actually laughing my head off at this. You needed to post a reverse thread so you wouldn't be over emotional?? About a bin??? I really really wish I had so few problems in my life that I needed to get emotional about a bin.

In all seriousness, yes she shouldn't have gone into your garden.. But it's just a bin.

coughingbean Fri 14-Jun-13 11:25:43

I bet its that Sharon wot did it

SukiTake Fri 14-Jun-13 11:52:15

Good Heffalump. I am glad this thread is making your laugh. I aim to please. grin It has cheered me up no end too. I have more than enough problems in my life too to deal with, but I am pissed off with being trampled on by all and sundry.

You see, I reckon if I'd said my neighbour let themselves into my house and stole £25 there would be a different reaction.

Coughing my money's on Dirty Den.

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