I'm not going to give much detail, because I know the person in question lurks and occasionally posts on here.
OH and I are supposed to be moving in together at some point in the near future.
We both have children to previous partners, and yes.. We've discussed this in length before.
This morning, OH has blindsided me completely.
Apparently, there is now no intention of them ever being involved with my children, nor are they to stay in any home we make together.
This is not what we discussed previously.
I quote:
"I don't have a problem with you seeing them. As long as it doesn't affect my life"
OH has found it difficult to deal with me having children, even though they have one of their own.
It's now apparently expected that I have to be completely ok with living with their DC (which I am.. I've met DC quite a few times and we get on really well), but I'm asking too much for OH to be involved with mine...
I just don't know what to do.
It's really important to me that we are a family unit... Even if my children don't live with me.
I'm not expecting to suddenly go everywhere together. I know that it will take time and that it needs to be a gradual thing for everyone's sake.
I'm happy with that, it gives everyone time to get to know each other and adjust....
But... for it now to be a flat no, with no chance of it changing?
I feel like I've been stabbed in the back.
Advice please..
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AIBU to think this is a deal breaker?
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JustABitShocked · 26/05/2013 13:32
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