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AIBU?

to be pissed off at seeing a pregnant woman smoking yesterday?

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topsi · 20/05/2013 18:59

Am not sure what goes through some people's minds? WHY??

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OldLadyKnowsNothing · 20/05/2013 19:00

Because they're addicted?

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Dawndonna · 20/05/2013 19:01

Judge not lest ye be judged.

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MsHighwater · 20/05/2013 19:01

Not your battle. There are more and better causes for you to get pissed about.

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SantanaLopez · 20/05/2013 19:01

Is it really any of your business? Beak out.

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MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 20/05/2013 19:02

If it pissed you off that much why didn't you go and confront her about it?

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topsi · 20/05/2013 19:02

well bloody get it sorted before you decide to get pregnant and affect another humans health

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DomesticCEO · 20/05/2013 19:02

YANBU. Inexcusable and indefensible. And I speak as an ex-smoker.

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KingRollo · 20/05/2013 19:03

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NigelYerABawbag · 20/05/2013 19:03

Yes YABU.

Its a crap choice but its not your business.

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TheToysAreALIVEITellThee · 20/05/2013 19:03

Might have been her first one in ages?
She could be addicted but cutting down?
She might be doing Allan Carr?
It might be none of your business?

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puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 20/05/2013 19:03

I bet she wished she'd thought of that topsi Hmm

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MalcolmTuckersMum · 20/05/2013 19:03

It's a free country. You are allowed to feel whatever you like about whatever you like! What are you looking for here?

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topsi · 20/05/2013 19:03

I can't even look her in the eye. I am not a confrontational person. I just don't understand it

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Fedupofdiets · 20/05/2013 19:04

Completely agree - addict or not if you can't put your child's health first whilst its still inside you then what does that say about you?

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topsi · 20/05/2013 19:04

Last time I saw her she was smoking as well

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topsi · 20/05/2013 19:05

All the family at it around her other child as well

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EglantinePrice · 20/05/2013 19:05

Hope you don't have a glass of wine when you're pregnant, or a piece of soft cheese or miss one of your 5 a day or forget your folic acid...

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MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 20/05/2013 19:06

You don't have to understand it, you don't have to anything it, she was a stranger, you have no idea what her reasons for making a legal choice to smoke were, would you like to be judged on a 10 second snippet of your life?

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TheToysAreALIVEITellThee · 20/05/2013 19:06

I bet she's on benefits aswell

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LadyBeagleEyes · 20/05/2013 19:06

None of your business.
But I grew up with parents who both smoked Capstan full strength, a whole different generation, 4 of us, all born in the fifties.
I know things are different now, we have far more knowledge, but I still think meh if a pregnant woman smokes.

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NigelYerABawbag · 20/05/2013 19:07

FWIW I smoked when pregnant with my oldest child. I did however manage to stop taking heroin and drinking every day, and cut down from my previous daily 20+ rollies to 3/4.

You have no idea whats going on in her life.

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GColdtimer · 20/05/2013 19:07

YANBU but it's a strange thing on MN, feed your child a Greg's sausage roll or a fruit shoot and you will be severely judged. Poison your unborn child by smoking which is known to create serious problems for babies and you will be vehemently defended. Prepare for a bun fight.

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SantanaLopez · 20/05/2013 19:07

You should report her to social services, string her up by her ankles and publicly humiliate her.

While you're at it, start a campaign for anyone who buys a packet of fags should be sterilised at the same time.

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jacks365 · 20/05/2013 19:07

Fedupofdiets it says you're an addict.

Are you aware that the stress of trying to quit is more damaging than smoking

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VerySmallSqueak · 20/05/2013 19:07

topsi it's not easy to give up smoking,and if you get pregnant when you haven't planned it,you have no time to prepare yourself for the fact.
You don't know what's going on in her life.You don't know whether she is having a daily struggle with smoking and she has worked down from 80 a day and that is one of the last ones she'll ever smoke.

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