To not want to hear how busy people are, all the time?

[Lamour]

I really am sick to the back teeth of people saying how busy they are. Lots of people are busy. Most just get on with it.

There is a mum I bump into at the school on a regular basis. Every conversation I have with her (usually initiated by her in the first place) goes along the same theme, of how terribly busy she is, and how her life is so hectic, and she has this on, and that on, and oh she's just so very very very busy. She volunteers this information. I have long since stopped asking her how she is as her reply is always "busy". We used to meet up but I got fed up with her asking me to meet her and then saying "I'm so busy for the next 6 weeks" and pencilling me in for a half an hour coffee in 6 weeks' time.

I also have an acquaintance on my Facebook friends list, who tells the Facebook world on a daily basis how busy she is, and lists the things that she has done each day. Then everybody marvels about how she fits it all in, and how she must surely be superwoman. Said woman does have several children, but IMO does a lot of unnecessary things and puts pressure on herself to make everything perfect. She will do something during an evening, such as ironing everything in her ironing basket, or wrapping up teachers' end of term presents, and then put a photo on Facebook of it, and again bleat on about how very busy she has been and what a busy evening, and how it's not easy to do things like ironing or present wrapping when you have several children.

It just feels competitive, and silly. As I said, lots of people are busy, but most just get on with it.

[Unami]

I totally agree. This is one of my major bugbears - people making a big, big deal about how busy they are to try and make themselves look more important than other people.

We all have 24 hours in a day. We all have a number of things we have to fit in to that finite slice of time. We are all 'busy' in different ways. When people bang on about how busy they are, what they really want to say is '(more) important (than you)'.

[Lamour]

Unami, that is my thoughts exactly. It's an importance thing.

The woman I know from school will always say she is too busy to do anything, and brings it into any conversation.


Even if it's about something such as a TV show, she will scoff and say "I'm far too busy to watch TV".

[Mintyy]

Sorry, I don't have time to read such a long op

[HollyBerryBush]

Perhaps she can't afford to go out and upload photos of herself pissed every night in an interesting way? perhaps she likes being indoors with her family and ironing and that's interesting to her?

If you don't like her busy yet dull life, delete her.

[nananaps]

This reminded me of my mil who was too busy to come to see her only gc because she had to go to the post office and walk her dog. She felt genuinely too busy to do any thing else that day

I think that its a very busy world, i am on mat leave at the moment and dont know how i fitted everything around work and the house/kids etc. But i love it, i prefer to be busy tbh.

I dont tell every one having said that, although you should know that i am a bit too busy to be here right now..or should be too busy

But i agree, it is irritating to be told of how very important folk are as they are 100 times busier than you.

My pal makes me not want to arrange anything with her as i feel that she wont be able to fit me in, she does seem to cram every moment with something. That makes me sad as i love my friends company.

[Gauri]

Op, you and I are obviously not that busy. Me for reading my our loooooong op and you for typing it.... Here .

[Lamour]

No she always asks me to do things, SecondComing. I have long since stopped bothering to ask her, as I think it's pointless organising a half hour coffee in 6 weeks' time (which she'd have to go early from anyway as she's so very busy)

She'll say about meeting up, then do that sound sucking air in through her teeth and start to say again about how busy she is...

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

Its called making conversation and speaking about random shallow shite though, surely?

[Sallystyle]

I am hardly ever busy. I have five children and think I should be busy all the time but very rarely am.

People who go on about being busy all the time make me wonder what I am doing so wrong

[fanjoforthemammaries7850]

I literally have to arrange meeting people for 4 weeks time and even then am doubling them up..tis pain..these are people I really want to see, so don't assume she is avoiding you.

Yes I am one of these boring types who goes on about how busy I am.

[SkiBunnnnny]

Maybe the posting on Facebook is a motivation tool. Some people write to-do lists so they get the satisfaction of crossing things off when they are done. It's like an extension of that.

[tethersend]

Marking place to post later when less busy.

[Ilikethebreeze]

Same here, Triumph.
The irony now is that she is genuinely very busy indeed.
And doesnt literally doesnt have the time to tell me!

[Jinsei]

Truly busy people don't have time for FB.

[EglantinePrice]

I know a few of these

"I'm so important busy, look at all my achievements how busy I've been this week" [yawn]

[ChippingInIsMissingHerLatte]

Tethers

[StealthOfficialCrispTester]

yanbu
I do sometimes find myself telling people this and hopefully always manage to shut myself up
Compared to some people I am busy, compared to others I have loads of time
If I wasn't on MN so much, those extra hours in the day I keep moaning about might magically appear :o

[noddyholder]

I always look busy but do the bare minimum.

[ssd]

busy people are a pain in the arse

its like they are so popular, they just haven't the time for anything

ugh

[Gigondas]

Yanbu this boils my piss too.

[rabbitlady]

maybe, when they are saying they are so busy, they are saying they don't have time for you.

[BalloonSlayer]

Yanbu, I have 3 DCs and work 3 days a week and I don't feel too busy - but try to meet up with some friends who have eg 2 DCs and work 2 days a week and it's "oooh I'm so BUSY!!" I think: why?

And don't get me started on the people who claim they are so busy because "I have a house to run" as if it is some mighty institution or aircraft carrier or similar, or that they are Mrs Whatserface from Downton Abbey supervising a platoon of staff, instead of a mum of teenagers with a semi in suburbia which only needs hoovering once a week.