Sorry for the title, but I'm really at the end of my rope.
When I first met DH's family I really liked them. His parents are divorced and both a long time remarried.
There have been many incidents over the years, DH's step mum slagging off his ex wife at every opportunity, then telling her that I was unkind to my DSS and treated him unfairly. She then told my DSIS and I that she had known his ex had had an affair while she was married to DH and she'd caught her kissing another man while out with him one night, but shhh, don't tell DH. I didn't tell DH but then she told him anyway, causing him much hurt as he had been utterly devastated when his ex wife left him and felt knowing these things would have made the split easier for him. DH's stepmum also didn't attend our DDs' funeral as 'it would have been too upsetting for her, she loves children'.
Then DH's mother and stepfather... When I was on bed rest while pregnant with my twins, knowing it was almost certain I'd lose them both, his mum repeatedly sent emails asking if we'd found out the gender yet and how she hoped at least one was a girl. Then they came to stay when my DH was away and my mum came to help and they treated her like a servant, DH's stepdad would say to MIL that he fancied a cup of tea and MIL would say to my mum 'ooh, go and make him one, there's a love' and she would hand the baby to my mum for nappy changes etc if I was cooking dinner. They didn't lift a finger to help and never said please or thank you. Stepdad also makes my DC uncomfortable with 'jokes' like grippy handshakes where he squeezes and won't let go.
DH's brother also didn't attend our twin girls' funeral as his wife was 6 months pregnant and it was far to travel. Fair enough. However, they now want us to go to their DS's christening when I will be 6 months into a pregnancy with lots of complications and haven't so much as suggested it might be too much. They have asked DH to be godfather, so he feels he has to go even if I can't. They also literally spammed us with hundreds of photos of their DS when he was born just months after our DDs died. I understand they were excited/happy/thrilled, but it really was hundreds if not thousands of photos.
Also, none of them acknowledge my DC's birthdays or send them a card or a present at Christmas, I dont know if this is normal or not? My mum and grandmother send cards/money to my DSC who don't live with us.
DH thinks they can do no wrong (except for his stepmum, although he has never said anything to her about any of it). I don't want him to fall out with them but I wish he would just take them to task on their rudeness/treatment of my own DC.
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AIBU?
To think DH's family are a bunch of arseholes?
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Midori1999 · 06/05/2013 18:42
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