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AIBU?

to think he should just change the nappy.

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playpen80 · 22/04/2013 11:40

So I have a 6 month old. In all that time dh has never taken the initiative and changed a nappy. Even immediately post section I had to ask him. On the whole I have got on with it as I don't want to seem a nag. Anyway sunday morning dd was in the bed with me (cosleep some of the time). She had done a leaky poo which needed changing iimmediately. Before noticing I had mentioned that my back was killing me. It does 1st thing most mornings. I than moved dd and noticed the poo. So I commented on the fact she was dirty.
Dh didn't offer to change her so I had to ask him.

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playpen80 · 22/04/2013 11:41

Should read change the nappy without me having to ask.

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Jux · 22/04/2013 11:47

Yes, he should change nappies, give her baths, take her out for a walk etc. of course he should. She's his child too, and he is as responsible for her well-being as you are.

Presumably he doesn't do any chores either?

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SacreBlue · 22/04/2013 11:48

YANBU he should just change the nappy, without being told/asked or even pointing it out to him.

I was On my own from DS was born and frankly anyone of my wider family and even some friends would have changed a nappy - expecting the child's PARENT to do it is perfectly reasonable.

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TheDemonShedMaster · 22/04/2013 11:49

YANBU. My DP offered to pay me to do it the other day...

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DionFortune · 22/04/2013 11:51

Of course YANBU! She is his child too, sod worrying about nagging, kick him up the arse! Tell him to stop being such a cop out and start being a parent.

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playpen80 · 22/04/2013 11:53

He does do some chores but not enough really. Seems to think most of it is my job as a sahm. Ie will cook and very occassionally load dishwasher. Also does diy and garden but that's it. Have 2 older ds's too.

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StuntGirl · 22/04/2013 11:54

I am very sad for you that you feel like getting your husband to look after his daughter (and also by extension you) is 'nagging' :(

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playpen80 · 22/04/2013 11:58

Maybe nagging wrong word.

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Snazzynewyear · 22/04/2013 11:58

Of course he should do it. I would state that from now on you are taking turns. You will still end up doing more of them as a sahm but that way he will do some and it's hard to argue that it's unfair to take turns when he gets home or at weekends.

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Nicolaeus · 22/04/2013 11:58

Yanbu but have just realised DS is 19 months and I still have to ask DH to change the nappy! He just doesn't register it (tho he does all the houseworkand a lot of the cooking)

I left DS with DH for the weekend once and DS got D&V so dh needed no prompting for the nappy Grin

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Pobblewhohasnotoes · 22/04/2013 11:58

Parenting is a team effort. You can't pick and choose when to do it, tell him to buck up his ideas.

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samandi · 22/04/2013 12:01

Obviously YANBU.

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MrsHoarder · 22/04/2013 12:05

That's shocking. As I bf dh agreed that all nappy changes and baths would be his responsibility because I would be constant provide of milk. Occasionally I prompt that he hadn't has his bum changed for a while or that it smells pooey, but that's rare.

Ds likes to time his poos for just after dh goes to work...

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