To be sad my friends think my hen do will be 'boring'

(154 Posts)
oopnorthlass Mon 22-Apr-13 09:41:49

I probably am being unreasonable, but anyway....

I'm getting married next year and have been discussing my hen do with a couple of friends and they've both said (in a jokey way, but in a way you can tell they're telling the truth) that it sounds 'boring'.

My plan was to rent a cottage somewhere, with a hot tub, then spend a couple of nights and days just hanging out. There would obviously be lots of wine and champagne involved, and I'm going to organise classes like chocolate tasting and a day at a spa. I was thinking of pub lunches, nice restaurants and just generally a relaxed weekend.

I know the tradition is to do the whole L-plates and drinking in clubs thing, but that so isn't me! Strippers and naked butlers make me cringe! I've been to loads of hen do's where this is what the hen wanted, and have joined in etc. But for my own hen, am I being unreasonable to want to do what I'll enjoy? And what do I do is no-one wants to come?

Just to note, it isn't a money thing that will prevent friends coming. And, also, I'm the last of our group of friends to get married, and the only one without kids, so I think some people are seeing this as a 'last hurrah' type thing.

sad

MysteriousHamster Mon 22-Apr-13 19:03:03

It sounds lovely, I just would make it one night instead of two and then people won't see it as a holiday away from their family. But go for it!

CaptainSweatPants Mon 22-Apr-13 19:05:46

maybe they can only afford a night out?

are you paying for the cottage, chocolate thing and spa?

sounds like £££s to me

CaptainSweatPants Mon 22-Apr-13 19:06:12

I doubt you can rent a cottage just for a night can you??

spanky2 Mon 22-Apr-13 19:13:04

I had a meal out with friends and a couple of glasses of wine and a stripper (at my request ) !! Why are hen and stag do's so long nowadays ? I think your friends are abit rude tbh .

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