To be sad my friends think my hen do will be 'boring'

(154 Posts)
oopnorthlass Mon 22-Apr-13 09:41:49

I probably am being unreasonable, but anyway....

I'm getting married next year and have been discussing my hen do with a couple of friends and they've both said (in a jokey way, but in a way you can tell they're telling the truth) that it sounds 'boring'.

My plan was to rent a cottage somewhere, with a hot tub, then spend a couple of nights and days just hanging out. There would obviously be lots of wine and champagne involved, and I'm going to organise classes like chocolate tasting and a day at a spa. I was thinking of pub lunches, nice restaurants and just generally a relaxed weekend.

I know the tradition is to do the whole L-plates and drinking in clubs thing, but that so isn't me! Strippers and naked butlers make me cringe! I've been to loads of hen do's where this is what the hen wanted, and have joined in etc. But for my own hen, am I being unreasonable to want to do what I'll enjoy? And what do I do is no-one wants to come?

Just to note, it isn't a money thing that will prevent friends coming. And, also, I'm the last of our group of friends to get married, and the only one without kids, so I think some people are seeing this as a 'last hurrah' type thing.

sad

WorraLiberty Mon 22-Apr-13 09:44:11

Tbh I would find that boring too....far too much 'relaxing' and not enough energetic stuff.

I'd rather shit in my hands and clap than to the whole 'L-plate' thing though.

Can you not do something inbetween? Like a few outdoor activities?

WorraLiberty Mon 22-Apr-13 09:44:36

*do

HubbaHubbaHubbaInHoobLand Mon 22-Apr-13 09:45:13

I think it sounds lovely. Its your hen do. Do what you fancy doing

IllegalYoniFarm Mon 22-Apr-13 09:45:49

I think it sounds lovely, ill come!

curiousgeorgie Mon 22-Apr-13 09:45:56

I think that sounds great... I hate the whole hen night madness. One friend had a trip to Vegas, two weeks in a villa and a spa weekend for her 'hens'.

If I was your friend, I would be very happy!!

gordyslovesheep Mon 22-Apr-13 09:46:48

I spent last weekend doing just that OP and we had a lovely time - not a hen do, just mates enjoying time together - sounds lovely

DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper Mon 22-Apr-13 09:46:50

I think it sounds fabulous.

Not enough 'energetic' stuff...?! That's a good thing in my book.

juneau Mon 22-Apr-13 09:46:53

No, of course YANBU - it's your hen do. However, if your taste in weekends away is vastly different to your friends' I don't think you should be surprised if they don't want to come (the organisation of which, when you have kids, is generally no easy feat).

As a mother of two kids myself it takes a lot to make me go through the military organisation of even a day shopping at the weekend - never mind a weekend away.

Sounds lovely to be honest...I'm not one for the whole naked butler thing either.

oopnorthlass Mon 22-Apr-13 09:47:00

Worra, definitely, had that planned already actually. Meant to mention it in the classes but, but there's paintballing or climbing we could do that I'm definitely up for!

HubbaHubbaHubbaInHoobLand Mon 22-Apr-13 09:47:04

You will have a proper laugh without the rotten hangover too.

Callisto Mon 22-Apr-13 09:47:05

The chocolate tasting and spa day sound awful, the rest sounds great. But it does depend on the people you will be going with. If your 'friends' don't like the sound of it don't invite them.

HellonHeels Mon 22-Apr-13 09:47:06

That sounds lovely! I'd far rather go to your hen do than an L plate and veil one. I didn't have a hen do but if were having one now I'd like a craft day where the bride's friends are helped to make her a quilt or something and you get tea and cake and a glass or two of fizz.

pictish Mon 22-Apr-13 09:47:19

Sounds perfect. I'll come!

tabulahrasa Mon 22-Apr-13 09:47:28

I think it sounds a bit boring as well tbh - just loads of hanging about.

But if that's what you want, that's what you want.

MrsSpagBol Mon 22-Apr-13 09:47:33

Sounds excellent to me!!

StiffyByng Mon 22-Apr-13 09:48:28

I think that sounds brilliant and the nicest hen I've ever been on was similar. I wanted something like that but didn't feel confident enough to ask people to go away for a weekend.

WorraLiberty Mon 22-Apr-13 09:48:52

Oh that's good, I'd definitely be up for the paint balling and climbing grin

But otherwise it's all based around eating/drinking/doing nothing.

wonderingsoul Mon 22-Apr-13 09:49:08

i think its cruel of them to piss on your cornflakes like that!

if they where real friends they would smile and fake excitment!

i'll come. sounds like bliss to me, though id have to have vodka instead of wine wink

do what you want, thouse that dont want to come dont have to.

DonDrapersAltrEgoBigglesDraper Mon 22-Apr-13 09:49:39

Hanging about ... with wine though!!

imour Mon 22-Apr-13 09:49:48

depends on the age group really , i would love it , but younger ones want to get dressed up and go clubbing .

HubbaHubbaHubbaInHoobLand Mon 22-Apr-13 09:49:48

Where are you thinking of renting the cottage?

cantspel Mon 22-Apr-13 09:51:06

Doesn't matter if we think we would enjoy something like that as we are not going. If you want your friends to enjoy themselves as well they you must include a few things you know they would enjoy.
A group of women in a cottage getting bored is a argument waiting to happen.

elliejjtiny Mon 22-Apr-13 09:51:49

Sounds great, I'll come too grin. PS my hen night was even more boring. My 14 year old sister was desperate to come to mine so we just went to pizza hut. I had a bride to be rosette and the bridesmaids had badges. I enjoyed it though. You're the bride and you get to choose. If your friends think it's going to be boring don't invite them and invite some random mumsnetters instead wink

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