My first time on AIBU so please be gentle!
Am feeling very sad about my relationship with 3yo DS.
DH left this morning for a business trip overseas - he travels quite a lot for work. DS was fine for most of the day but upset at bedtime because daddy wasn't there. I told him I was feeling sad too but that Daddy would be home soon, and that we'll all be away on holiday together next weekend and he could sit next to Daddy on the aeroplane etc...which seemed to cheer him up, but he refused the cuddle I always give him at bedtime and just started demanding I fetch him various things...
Ashamed to say I burst into tears - just felt so hurt and shut out.
Background: DS has always preferred DH to me (even DH admits this) - I can live with being the less favoured parent (I am a SAHM so spend much more time with him) but just feel I'm getting the crumbs in the relationship. DS is not particularly cuddly or affectionate by nature and would never say 'I love you' even though I tell him loads how much I love him.
Now on top of my sadness at seeing him upset and hurt at being rejected myself, I feel guilty that I have traumatised him by bursting into tears.
This actually sounds a bit pathetic now I've typed it out but just hoping someone can offer advice/wisdom as couldn't discuss with anyone other than DH in real life. Thank you x
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FiddleDeeDees · 21/04/2013 22:12
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