My DS's dad has broken up with his latest girlfriend and decided he wants to make time to get to know our son now. This is great, and hopefully it will last, but he doesn't seem to have any concept of what being a parent involves. DS is 9 months, and in the past few weeks has started getting separation anxiety, and currently doesn't recognise his dad and was shy and tearful (last saw him at 7 months before yesterday).
His dad said yesterday he wanted to start having him alone, so I said he needed to get to know him to learn how to look after him and for ds be calm alone with him first. He has no experience of children, has never fed him, paid much attention to/comforted him or changed a nappy.
He said he will come to see him every sunday for 2 hours, except 3 weeks when he is on holiday. He then said at one he "wont take no for an answer."
I have no problem with him going for contact alone at 1, or earlier if hes ready, but I really dont think he will be settled with him after so little time even if he does stick to the 2 hours a week.
What would be reasonable contact to ask him to try and do? He lives about 20 minutes away.
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To think a one y/o wont 'know' someone after 18 hours max in 3 months
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CloudSurfer · 20/04/2013 12:59
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