To wonder why this Mother was eye rolling over my comments to my DC.

(129 Posts)
Goldenbear Fri 12-Apr-13 14:17:26

I was at a supermarket this morning and was trying to choose some yogurts for my DC. DS picks up some that are laden with sugar. So I said, 'no not those they have too much sugar in them, what about these instead?'. Cue lots of eye rolling from a new Mother nearby. She picked up something more sugary for herself so I don't think she was in agreement with me. I'd seen her from the start pushing her newborn baby in a supermarket car seat style trolley, the baby was wailing and wailing and couldn't have been older than 2 weeks. When i first saw the newborn crying and crying i felt sorry for the baby but then remembered how difficult those first weeks were and so stopped judging. However, after the yoghurt judgment I did feel that she was hardly in a position to judge my 'preciousness', considering her very young baby was wailing the whole way around the shop and she wouldn't pick it up. I heard her say things to the 2 week old intermittently like, 'you're not having a good day today are you?'

I knew she was a new Mum because there was a nappy promotion on in the store and I heard her tell the shop assistant that the baby girl was her first.

AIBU in thinking you keep the eye rolling to yourself given the circumstances?

mrsscoob Fri 12-Apr-13 14:19:30

She was probably having a bad day and probably picked up on your judginess hence the rolling eyes. It does sound like you were looking at her rather a lot!

Pancakeflipper Fri 12-Apr-13 14:34:35

She probably hasn't slept for more than 2 hrs in the last few weeks ( if lucky).

She might be looking at her baby and thinking " which way up in this trolley seat contraption should you go?"

First baby is bewildering to many mums.

Don't judge her.

She might end up feeding her child yoghurts that are more sugary than you but she will do other parenting stuff just fine and dandy.

DiscoDonkey Fri 12-Apr-13 14:37:50

Ah well she judged, you judged. Even Stevens I say

MintyyAeroEgg Fri 12-Apr-13 14:39:24

Seriously?

ChocsAwayInMyGob Fri 12-Apr-13 14:41:06

A knackered first time mother with a newborn gave you an eye roll.

Could have been worse. Move on.

BegoniaBampot Fri 12-Apr-13 14:42:24

so were your yogurts laden with artificial sweeteners instead of sugar then or more natural yogurt type?

IYoniWantToBeWithYou Fri 12-Apr-13 14:42:38

She probably wasn't even looking or listening to you at all and eye rolling at having to do a shop with a crying baby and, by the sounds of it, having someone watch her every move.

I really never pay a blind bit of notice to anyone in the supermarket unless they are in my way or I'm in theirs, let alone listen to what they say to their baby, shop assistants, watch what nappies and yoghurts they are buying etc. Were you bored? confused

It could have been an 'oh, look at me with the noisy baby' eye roll at herself. I used to do those a lot when people stared at crying DD.

YoniLovesChachi Fri 12-Apr-13 14:48:02

This really made me laugh. You certainly put a lot of effort into not judging this woman, just happening to notice her rolling her eyes a lot and accidentally overhearing her talking about her nappies.

She probably noticed you paying her an unusual amount of attention and was annoyed when you couldn't just choose a yogurt and get out of the way.

Lj8893 Fri 12-Apr-13 14:48:26

It could have been an eye roll to herself that she didn't think about the sugar in yogurts. As a new mum she's probably discovering all sorts of things that she hadnt thought about before and probably chastising herself!

YoniGirlInTheWorld Fri 12-Apr-13 14:51:55

She was probably eye rolling over your yoghurt sermon and was thankful she wasn't there for your butter vs olive spread one.

SilveryMoon Fri 12-Apr-13 14:52:21

Someone gave me an odd look the other day in the supermarket when I told ds1 that I wasn't going to buy the 'no added sugar' squash he had chosen. i was going to buy this one <picking up the full sugar>, he asks why so I attempt to explain the sugar vs aspartame business.

Who cares what someone in the supermarket thinks of your choices? If she read this thread, she'd probably say that she really doesn't give a fuck what yogurts you feed your dc's.

I also remember being in the supermarket with ds1 when he was a few weeks old. He was in the car seat on one of those trolleys with the holder bit. He was wailing all around the shop. I got down the frozen foods section and heard one woman mumble to another "she really shouldn't bring that baby out when it's in such a state"
I literally hadn't slept for weeks. Did she really think I wanted to be in the supermarket with a screaming baby? I (blush) yelled back "I've got to eat, so at some point have to come here" I probably dropped the f-bomb as well.

Don't worry about it, sure she hasn't given you a second thought.

EverSoYoni Fri 12-Apr-13 14:53:38

OP, were you doing "loud parenting"? It makes me feel like eye rolling, not the content of the parenting, just the way its delivered.

You seem to have taken a massive interest in her!!

She could probably feel the judginess oozing from your pores.

biscuit

YoniGirlInTheWorld Fri 12-Apr-13 14:59:02

Yeah loud parenting is the worst. I saw a woman with a baby of around 10 months (who was happily chewing his own fist) trying to get him to point out which apples he wanted. When he looked vaguely in the direction of the pink ladies she scolded him for having expensive tastes and chucked some bog standard funsize 99p efforts in the trolley.

usualsuspect Fri 12-Apr-13 14:59:30

Maybe she was a bit fed up Of your bizarre stalkerish behaviour

MorrisZapp Fri 12-Apr-13 14:59:41

I loud parent all the time. I'm a parent, it's loud. Couldn't give a hoot what other people think.

Loud parenting on MN is just shorthand for being middle class. So shoot me for engaging with my child.

Bearcrumble Fri 12-Apr-13 15:02:28

You got the Rachel's didn't you?

seeker Fri 12-Apr-13 15:02:29

My favourite loud parenting overhearing was "Well, Toby, that's the shopping done.. Shall we buy some rice cakes for the treat jar?"

Waitrose, obvs.

5318008 Fri 12-Apr-13 15:03:58

oh that is BRILLIANT Seeker

lolo

Pancakeflipper Fri 12-Apr-13 15:04:11

snorts at Bearcrumble. grin

Bearcrumble Fri 12-Apr-13 15:04:25

Put down the papaya Felix.

DiscoDonkey Fri 12-Apr-13 15:06:52

Rice cakes are rank, when that woman is in a care home I hope Toby brings her nothing but Shitty rice cakes every visit.

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