Despite having a very well paid job and owning 5 properties in London/the SE, this friend never spends a penny on anything (her look out, I know) and even has the audacity to claim to be broke or hard-up. She rents out these properties (at very high rents, I think) but is too tight to maintain them properly or pay a management company so does all the management in her spare time around a full-time demanding job. Her tenants get a raw deal, because the cheap appliances she furnishes them with break down, she then spends ages getting the cheapest possible workmen in to do a bodge job until something else goes wrong.
The latest breakdown is a boiler in one of her flats while she is away (on a 4 month jolly travelling). She is ringing/emailing me urgent messages asking if I can ring plumbers for her, liaise with her tenants about the repairs etc, and telling me how stressed she is about it and she really appreciates it blah blah. I'm 34 weeks pregnant, still working full-time, I'm pretty busy and tired actually and don't see why I should take on the role of unpaid PA. So I've basically said no and pointed her in the direction of a good plumber. This isn't the first time she's asked me this sort of thing and it's all very one-way.
So, AIBU? She is in a real bind, but I feel it's of her own making. I think that really I'm starting to feel that I don't want to continue this friendship generally. How do you actually 'drop' a friend? I've never done it before. I don't make much effort re: meeting up and don't always reply to her emails/calls etc, but she doesn't seem to take the hint and I always feel bad when I get emails from her saying "hello, are you alive??"
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to drop 'friend' constantly asking UR favours. And how?
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TremoloGreen · 09/04/2013 16:36
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