She smacked my daughter... WWYD??

(745 Posts)
Clumsyoaf Mon 08-Apr-13 12:53:06

In shock, just come home from a soft play place, went with some other mums that I have just started getting to know. DD (4 years old) being unruly - we are going through a phase at the moment, one of the other mums just picked her up and smacked her on her bottom. I was completely stunned - I would never hit a child my own or someone elses... DD in tears i just gathered up DS's stuff took DD and left.

I want to pick her up on it, or call the police or something..... sorry dont have anyone in RL i cant speak to right now so sorry for ranty message im just still stunned!

WWYD?????

HungryClocksGoBackFourSeconds Mon 08-Apr-13 13:12:36

We don't need to know more about what the OP's DD did, she is a defenseless four year old child, there is nothing she could have done to deserve being physically assaulted by a fully grown adult.

LimeLeaffLizard Mon 08-Apr-13 13:12:54

Is smacking illegal now? Does anyone know of a link to somewhere the law on this is explained? Would be interested thats all.

Where's the OP then? I'd be interested to hear more, but if an adult had been doing something wrong and another adult nearby lost their judgement and inhibitions and smacked them, that might not end with people simply being able to get their stuff and walk out.

raspberryroop Mon 08-Apr-13 13:15:58

smacking your own child is not illegal but can be child abuse if extreem- smacking someone else's child is assault

HungryClocksGoBackFourSeconds Mon 08-Apr-13 13:16:53

For Lime

It isn't illegal to smack your own child, but IMO it should be. Gentle discipline is a viable, violence free alternative. There is no need to hit children.

HandMini Mon 08-Apr-13 13:17:19

I think the Children Act 2004 states that smacking can only be reasonable and is not deemed reasonable if it leaves a mark.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Mon 08-Apr-13 13:18:02

LimeLeaf

i would be very surprised if smacking someone els's child isn't an assault. Ironic really

Are we doing the entire plot of the The Slap here?

XBenedict Mon 08-Apr-13 13:18:25

Really? We need to know more? I just can't think what the OP could say that would make us all what happened was in anyway justified.

Are you ok OP?

NotSoNervous Mon 08-Apr-13 13:18:43

I think I would of hit her and said now how do you like it but I would phone the police

Clumsyoaf Mon 08-Apr-13 13:19:13

Basically I had gone to change DS nappy, when i came back DD was in a tug of war with another child over a ride in police car toy (the childs mum was the one that had smacked her) - i went over and took DD for soem time out as the other child had been playing first. I turned around to entertain DS when i turned back she was going for the car again - queue the other mum coming over picking her up and smacking her bottom whilst telling her she needed to learn a lesson in sharing

Floggingmolly Mon 08-Apr-13 13:19:16

What did you do? I'd have decked her called the police.

Fairylea Mon 08-Apr-13 13:19:46

Call the police and tell them someone has assaulted your child. (On a side note I find it absolutely appalling that police wouldn't do anything in the boots case - if it was an adult hitting another adult it would be assault pure and simple).

I absolutely cannot stand any smacking and if a stranger or another person touched my child I would literally open the gates of hell on them.

Hope your dd is ok x

NotSoNervous Mon 08-Apr-13 13:20:45

I do agree that hitting her would be wrong and teach your DD and any other children there that might have seen that its acceptable and it isn't but I think if I was in that situation I would have seen red and snapped

Clumsyoaf Mon 08-Apr-13 13:21:07

DD has been quite difficult, refusing to take no as an answer and wanting her own way all of the time - I do the time out and going to her level etc, but I have never ever smacked her.

lottieandmia Mon 08-Apr-13 13:21:20

How dare she do such a thing? angry on your behalf.

XBenedict Mon 08-Apr-13 13:21:44

Maybe that's why the OP left, before she saw red?

PeneloPeePitstop Mon 08-Apr-13 13:21:55

Call the police.

AnAirOfHope Mon 08-Apr-13 13:22:04

I would have asked her if she wanted me to punch her so she learns not to hit my children or for me to simply call the police as she assulted my dd!

SunflowersSmile Mon 08-Apr-13 13:22:06

I actually think walking out saying nothing will have expressed your shock and fury very well.

Clumsyoaf Mon 08-Apr-13 13:22:11

i have had a few texts from the other mums asking if im ok - i think im going to call 101.

Ledkr Mon 08-Apr-13 13:22:15

Omg I'd have fecking killed her.

NotSoNervous Mon 08-Apr-13 13:22:26

X post

shock

Okay I deffinatly would have lamped her one and said you need to learn to keep your hands to yourself and okay my fucking child

Icantstopeatinglol Mon 08-Apr-13 13:22:37

That's disgusting op!! How dare she intervene and assault your poor dd!! You have every right to be angry. I'd phone the police and see what they say....I'm sure if she's done it to your dd she'll do it again! Next time she might get what's coming to her cos not many would be able to hold back as you did. I think you did we'll to hold your composure....not sure I could!

HungryClocksGoBackFourSeconds Mon 08-Apr-13 13:22:49

How is your DD OP?

Have you called the police? The soft play should have CCTV, so hopefully you shouldn't have any trouble proving it.

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