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AIBU?

To dislike attention-seeking "woe is me" facebook updates with no explanation

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frogspoon · 06/04/2013 13:15

Facebook friend has recently posted this update:

"Today has been absolutely heartbreaking. Sulking, wine and zombie films are required."

Several friends have responded to the messages by asking what is wrong. She has not bothered to respond to any of them.

AIBU to think there is probably nothing wrong and she is just attention seeking as usual. Surely if something bad actually had happened, she would explain. She does have a habit of posting these messages often, usually the outcome being that her boyfriend has a cold/ has gone away for the weekend etc.

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malteserzz · 06/04/2013 13:16

I hate this too either say what's wrong or don't post about it, very attention seeking

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Labootin · 06/04/2013 13:18

That makes me so sad

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HollyBerryBush · 06/04/2013 13:18

She has not bothered to respond to any of them

My mate does this - but in fairness she then has 25 windows on the go with inbox conversations.

I have learned not to respond unless it's at 5am, by which time she's usually doing something stupid like reaching for the tablets.

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MrsKwazii · 06/04/2013 13:20

This is a pet hate of mine too. The old "some people can be so hurtful!" Or "Is feeling sad" posts. I always ignore them, and if all the "Are you okay hun?" merchants did as well, maybe the attention seekers would pack it in.

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flaminhoopsaloolah · 06/04/2013 13:20

If it was something she did all the time, as you have pointed out, I'd probably ignore. I do know someone on FB who does this - and she has got a lot of problems and life and I do feel for her - but the cryptic comments several times a week does get wearing - I'd rather know off the bat so I can contribute in a helpful manner if the situation allows.

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MrsDeVere · 06/04/2013 13:21

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lottieandmia · 06/04/2013 13:21

Yes people do do this a lot

'so angry'
'had the worst day ever'

and then the ones which involve someone specific making everyone paranoid it's them

'If you have something to say, just say it to my face'

'Today I have found out who my real friends are' etc

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LangenFlugelHappleHoff · 06/04/2013 13:23

I had a fun one the other day.

Friends status update at 2.30 ish after being out on the town "I'm on a bridge"

An hour later after no replies "I'm on the bridge" at which point someone liked it! I almost spat my tea over my iPod.

Amazingly the status's were deleted by lunchtime!!

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SomethingOnce · 06/04/2013 13:23

YANBU. Very tiresome.

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HarrySnotter · 06/04/2013 13:24

If it's out of character I would probably pick up the phone and see if she was OK.

But I have a friend who used to write (and similar)

'XXXX can't believe this is happening to me ...'

then you'd get a dozen

'what's up hun/babe/sweetie?

friend puts 'Oh I can't talk about it on here'.

Well don't fucking put it on facebook then!!

I have now hidden her posts so I don't see them anymore.

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SayMama · 06/04/2013 13:25

No, it's when a friend replies saying 'Aaw, what's up hun? X'
And the original cryptic poster writes 'Will inbox you hun, too many nosey parkers on here!'

< tears hair out > < screams >

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SayMama · 06/04/2013 13:26

X posts Harry!

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HazleNutt · 06/04/2013 13:26

Love the "If you have something to say, just say it to my face!"

Um...shouldn't you take your own advice and you know, tell the offender whatever you have to say to their face, instead of posting it on fb?

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natwebb79 · 06/04/2013 13:26

I can't stand it. Usually followed by a few hundred 'sup babz?' and 'k hun?'. Half the reason I've upset a fair few grown adults by 'deleting' them. Apparently the fact we speak regularly without issue doesn't count. Grrr!

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HarrySnotter · 06/04/2013 13:28

Maybe we have the same friends Mama! :)

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EuroShaggleton · 06/04/2013 13:44

Yep, intensely annoying and attention-seeking!

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Snoopingforsoup · 06/04/2013 13:57

Oh lord! Unfriend her. I can't bear this shit either!
Maybe you should just tell her she's a pain for doing this and she may stop!
I had one of those on my list and I found it a fascinating study of a 44 year old woman behaving exactly the same as she had when we were 18 and hung out together. She even created a new FB a/c as her other one had been hacked by an avenging ex! Yeah, right.
YANBU

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Snowsquonk · 06/04/2013 13:59

Known in our house as "sympathy-baiting" and a pet hate of my teenage daughter who is fed up with girls her age posting pictures of themselves and saying "I'm so ugly" just so they get lots of "Awww hun your not your gorguss" responses....

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Fairydogmother · 06/04/2013 14:03

Block or delete people like that!

I call them mood hoovers Grin

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mrsjay · 06/04/2013 14:13

I normally respond aww no enjoy your wine/film/chocolate and hope you have a better day tomorrow I never ask what is wrong cryptic messages are usually people feeling bit lonely or deflated or unhappy and they just need a little 'there there' Obviously if they do it all the time I find the hide or delete button helps

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mrsjay · 06/04/2013 14:14

I find the teenage girls posts extremely sad snow i know it is annoying but they obviously have esteem issues, I always make sure my dds never post I am so ugly pictures on their facebook

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meddie · 06/04/2013 14:15

delete is your friend

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kim147 · 06/04/2013 14:18

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Mia4 · 06/04/2013 14:25

YANBU. People who post statuses to attention seek also often do it to make passive aggressive digs. One of my relatives is guilty of this but in the last few weeks people who she's posting about have commented and told her straight. Pretty funny to watch her flounder, and serves her right. She's not a pleasant person and it's about time her friends clued in.

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