To dislike attention-seeking "woe is me" facebook updates with no explanation

(83 Posts)
frogspoon Sat 06-Apr-13 13:15:36

Facebook friend has recently posted this update:

"Today has been absolutely heartbreaking. Sulking, wine and zombie films are required."

Several friends have responded to the messages by asking what is wrong. She has not bothered to respond to any of them.

AIBU to think there is probably nothing wrong and she is just attention seeking as usual. Surely if something bad actually had happened, she would explain. She does have a habit of posting these messages often, usually the outcome being that her boyfriend has a cold/ has gone away for the weekend etc.

malteserzz Sat 06-Apr-13 13:16:28

I hate this too either say what's wrong or don't post about it, very attention seeking

Labootin Sat 06-Apr-13 13:18:09

That makes me so sad

HollyBerryBush Sat 06-Apr-13 13:18:54

She has not bothered to respond to any of them

My mate does this - but in fairness she then has 25 windows on the go with inbox conversations.

I have learned not to respond unless it's at 5am, by which time she's usually doing something stupid like reaching for the tablets.

MrsKwazii Sat 06-Apr-13 13:20:24

This is a pet hate of mine too. The old "some people can be so hurtful!" Or "Is feeling sad" posts. I always ignore them, and if all the "Are you okay hun?" merchants did as well, maybe the attention seekers would pack it in.

flaminhoopsaloolah Sat 06-Apr-13 13:20:25

If it was something she did all the time, as you have pointed out, I'd probably ignore. I do know someone on FB who does this - and she has got a lot of problems and life and I do feel for her - but the cryptic comments several times a week does get wearing - I'd rather know off the bat so I can contribute in a helpful manner if the situation allows.

MrsDeVere Sat 06-Apr-13 13:21:01

Most of them just go over my head.
Occasionally there is one that does worry me and I know it worries others.
It is only polite to reassure people even if you don't leave an explanation.

lottieandmia Sat 06-Apr-13 13:21:19

Yes people do do this a lot

'so angry'
'had the worst day ever'

and then the ones which involve someone specific making everyone paranoid it's them

'If you have something to say, just say it to my face'

'Today I have found out who my real friends are' etc

LangenFlugelHappleHoff Sat 06-Apr-13 13:23:26

I had a fun one the other day.

Friends status update at 2.30 ish after being out on the town "I'm on a bridge"

An hour later after no replies "I'm on the bridge" at which point someone liked it! I almost spat my tea over my iPod.

Amazingly the status's were deleted by lunchtime!!

SomethingOnce Sat 06-Apr-13 13:23:29

YANBU. Very tiresome.

MrsDeVere Sat 06-Apr-13 13:23:51

BUT...I have a lot of bereaved parents on my FB friends and nearly all of us will post a 'just can't cope with this anymore' type statuses at some point.

Those of us who understand will leave a short message of support, a x or just the child's name.

None of us would do the 'whats up hun?' because we know whats up and what is required.

To outsiders those statuses would very probably look like annoying, attention seeking ones. The are not, they are an outlet.

HarrySnotter Sat 06-Apr-13 13:24:31

If it's out of character I would probably pick up the phone and see if she was OK.

But I have a friend who used to write (and similar)

'XXXX can't believe this is happening to me ...'

then you'd get a dozen

'what's up hun/babe/sweetie?

friend puts 'Oh I can't talk about it on here'.

Well don't fucking put it on facebook then!!

I have now hidden her posts so I don't see them anymore.

SayMama Sat 06-Apr-13 13:25:56

No, it's when a friend replies saying 'Aaw, what's up hun? X'
And the original cryptic poster writes 'Will inbox you hun, too many nosey parkers on here!'

< tears hair out > < screams >

SayMama Sat 06-Apr-13 13:26:42

X posts Harry!

HazleNutt Sat 06-Apr-13 13:26:49

Love the "If you have something to say, just say it to my face!"

Um...shouldn't you take your own advice and you know, tell the offender whatever you have to say to their face, instead of posting it on fb?

natwebb79 Sat 06-Apr-13 13:26:56

I can't stand it. Usually followed by a few hundred 'sup babz?' and 'k hun?'. Half the reason I've upset a fair few grown adults by 'deleting' them. Apparently the fact we speak regularly without issue doesn't count. Grrr!

HarrySnotter Sat 06-Apr-13 13:28:39

Maybe we have the same friends Mama! smile

EuroShaggleton Sat 06-Apr-13 13:44:39

Yep, intensely annoying and attention-seeking!

Snoopingforsoup Sat 06-Apr-13 13:57:19

Oh lord! Unfriend her. I can't bear this shit either!
Maybe you should just tell her she's a pain for doing this and she may stop!
I had one of those on my list and I found it a fascinating study of a 44 year old woman behaving exactly the same as she had when we were 18 and hung out together. She even created a new FB a/c as her other one had been hacked by an avenging ex! Yeah, right.
YANBU

Snowsquonk Sat 06-Apr-13 13:59:36

Known in our house as "sympathy-baiting" and a pet hate of my teenage daughter who is fed up with girls her age posting pictures of themselves and saying "I'm so ugly" just so they get lots of "Awww hun your not your gorguss" responses....

Block or delete people like that!

I call them mood hoovers grin

mrsjay Sat 06-Apr-13 14:13:29

I normally respond aww no enjoy your wine/film/chocolate and hope you have a better day tomorrow I never ask what is wrong cryptic messages are usually people feeling bit lonely or deflated or unhappy and they just need a little 'there there' Obviously if they do it all the time I find the hide or delete button helps

mrsjay Sat 06-Apr-13 14:14:33

I find the teenage girls posts extremely sad snow i know it is annoying but they obviously have esteem issues, I always make sure my dds never post I am so ugly pictures on their facebook

meddie Sat 06-Apr-13 14:15:50

delete is your friend

kim147 Sat 06-Apr-13 14:18:23

I posted on my FB about how I was feeling recently and why.
No replies. No phone calls.

What was the point?

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