To let my 5 year old DS see me naked when coming out of the shower?

(64 Posts)
ilikeyoursleeves Wed 03-Apr-13 19:29:43

My DH said today that he thinks I should no longer walk about naked in front of our children. Please note that the only time they see me naked is when I come out of the shower and when changing at the swimming pool. My sons are 5, 3 and 9 months old so I don't think there's anything wrong with them seeing me naked, in fact it should be seen as totally normal IMO!

The conversation came up when we were having an argument about them watching a 12 movie which DH thinks is fine despite lots of violence in it, so he said that if that's inappropriate then so is me letting them see me naked!!!!! shock wtf?!

AIBU? what age do you start covering yourself up from your kids esp boys?

RevoltingPeasant Thu 04-Apr-13 09:21:10

ruthy - exactly - I find it v sad that some husbands tell their wives it's time to cover up. How shaming.

I still see my mum naked when I go to visit her - just if it happens. I think I last saw my dad naked when I was in my 20s and we lived in the same house. Nobody flaunts anything, but equally, if you've just put on moisturiser after a shower and need to walk back to your room, why should you cover up?

I am also not one of those people who has to get changed under a towel in the gym changing rooms, though...

ruthyroo Thu 04-Apr-13 09:09:37

Keep doing it as long as you are both comfortable. My mum hates her body and has never been remotely comfortable with nudity. I've absorbed a lot of that from her. Luckily I don't have any daughters to pass this particular hang up onto but I am determined that my boys will see a normal female body ie mine as long as they are comfortable to.

middleagedspread Thu 04-Apr-13 07:24:31

I've always let me DSs (now teens) see me naked.
I think it's imoportant that they realise that women's bodies are not normally the size 8, surgically enhanced, hair free images that they probably see elsewhere.

Twattybollocks Thu 04-Apr-13 07:16:07

Ds is 8 and I has just started going out of the room when I get dressed. His own choice and that's fine for me. He has obviously started to feel uncomfortable with it and that's fine for me. Dd is 6 and still likes proper mummy cuddles ie both of us with just knickers on as she says it's lovely and snuggly like that. Also fine for me, I like cuddles like that too, she is so soft and warm and snuggly.

Athrawes Thu 04-Apr-13 03:21:10

Me, DH and DS (nearly three) still roll around under the duvet, naked, playing scarey monsters or whatever is todays theme. He pokes my boobs (gently) and tells me that sometimes babies have mummy milk and cows give us milk for breakfast. Smacked me on the bum this morning as I was brushing my teeth and laughed like a loon at said bum wobbling like a jelly. Heavens, there is plenty time for teenaged body hangups and self loathing later.

lottiegarbanzo Thu 04-Apr-13 03:11:10

Yup, sounded like clutching at straws to avoid 'losing' an argument. You're definitely right, on both counts!

OrangeFootedScrubfowl Thu 04-Apr-13 03:09:20

Yes he was just trying to score points. A silly way to argue!

ilikeyoursleeves Thu 04-Apr-13 02:14:37

Thanks all, I knew I wasn't BU but its good to see others views too! I will continue to don my birthday suit proudly. Tbh I think it was just dh trying to think of something to say in the heat of our argument, hopefully anyway. Quite sad really if he thinks its not normal.

And the film was James Bond! The kids have seen a few of the old ones that are PG and quite funny but the Daniel Craig ones are way too violent IMO but dh seems to think otherwise!

BenjaminButton172 Wed 03-Apr-13 23:45:06

I dont cover myself when my 8 yr old is around. It is just normal to us. She has never once said anything about it.

I think your dh is wrong. What was the film? Out of interest

foreverondiet Wed 03-Apr-13 23:33:13

My DS is almost 7 and I don't mind him seeing me naked... When he is 9 he'll have to use mens changing room at pool so think that is as good a cut off as any....

MogTheForgetfulCat Wed 03-Apr-13 22:41:47

I think it's fine if the children are comfortable with it - and would be surprised if they weren't at 5. I rarely get to have a bath or shower in peace, so my DSs (7,5 and 2) often see me naked.

Am a bit worried about DS3, though - I got out of the shower the other day and he came over and peered at me really closely and then said "Willy?!" in a really tragical voice. Think I may have traumatised him in his complacent masculinity grin.

MrsKoala Wed 03-Apr-13 22:06:31

My parents and I are still happy naked in front of each other. Never been an issue. Dad's 68, Mum's 64 and i'm 36.

fuzzpig Wed 03-Apr-13 22:00:43

Not a big deal at all, YANBU. If the child is uncomfortable then you stop.

Out of nosiness interest - what was the 12 rated film?

My dd is 11 and still has no problem with our nudity (only while getting dressed, not parading about). She even showed dh her teeny tiny growing boob that she is exceedingly proud of. This is totally normal to me. Hiding ones body is repressive and dangerous for the future IMO.

complexnumber Wed 03-Apr-13 21:48:52

"WHO WILL BUY THIS WONDERFUL MORNING?!!!"

LaUNCHES into the ballroom

<What's everyone looking at>

catgirl1976 Wed 03-Apr-13 21:16:04

DS is too little for me to have had this issue but I have always assumed if he became uncomfortable that would be the time to stop.

I still see my mum naked (if we go swimming etc). I suppose I would feel less comfortable seeing my dad naked (eye bleach) but I agree hiding bodies away is not healthy and your DH is being U.

My view is I'm naked in my bedroom or en suite. Kids know if they don't want to see me naked, don't come in my bedroom. They are 10 and 8 and not bothered at mo.

Loulybelle Wed 03-Apr-13 21:12:54

Also my 28 year old best friend and her 60 yr old mother still talk to each while one of them is in the bath.

My mum probably saw alot of my sister when she was in labour with 3 of her children, and probably sees my little sister naked at 13.

Your husband is just an idiot, nudity and violence is not the same thing.

allagory Wed 03-Apr-13 21:09:52

That's the kids. My parents are fine with saying pants.

allagory Wed 03-Apr-13 21:09:10

There is a point (probably 7) when I think children want you to cover up. Imagine if it was your parents walking to the shower and you get the picture. They can't even say "pants" without giggling, FFS! How are they going to cope with full frontal nudity?

maddy68 Wed 03-Apr-13 21:08:24

Bloody hell mine have always seen me naked (and its bit shears a pretty sight) my youngest is 18 now too. Don't think he he mentally scared by it (although I guess he knows what a 'real' woman looks like lol

ToomuchWaternotWine Wed 03-Apr-13 21:05:07

Your H is being an arse. Firstly it's good and healthy to be comfortably naked around young kids. Secondly a 12 film is not suitable, and no amount of deflecting onto another subject can lessen that.

Loulybelle Wed 03-Apr-13 21:03:33

I walk around naked infront of my 5 yr old all the time, she dont care at all, i dont her feeling ashamed of herself in her own home.

5eggstremelychocaletymadeggs Wed 03-Apr-13 21:02:53

My ds1 will come in to the bathroom and chat to me when i am in the bath or shower and all five see me naked or with just a towel and its not an issue.

Ds1 was at dd's birth when he was 11 so a bit if nudity is nothing in our house.

Greenkit Wed 03-Apr-13 20:56:36

My Dh said to me a couple of months ago that I need to cover up when walking around. I might nip to the loo in the night with just my knickers on or come out the bathroom with a towel wrapped round me.

My children are 16 (girl) and 15 (boy) I have never worried, nether have they really.

Maybe its time?

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