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AIBU?

Nanny spotted reading magazine whilst child at playbarn

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zebedeethezebra · 25/03/2013 14:04

AIBU to be annoyed at my nanny for reading a wedding magazine whilst 3 year old DS is at a playbarn, or do all nannies think it is reasonable to behave like this??

She was spotted by one of my friends the other week. I don't mind her having a coffee or something whilst she is there, but I expect her to keep an eye on DS, not have her nose buried in a magazine. Particularly on the money we pay her.

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TheElephantIsADaintyBird · 25/03/2013 14:05

Yabu If your child was happily playing and she was keeping a close eye on him

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shewhowines · 25/03/2013 14:06

YABU

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NoelHeadbands · 25/03/2013 14:06

This woman clearly needs to die.

Have her shot. More than once

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FingersCrossedLegsNot · 25/03/2013 14:06

Yabu

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Plumsofgold · 25/03/2013 14:06

Yabu!!

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Wingedharpy · 25/03/2013 14:07

I just wonder what your friend's motivation was in telling you this?

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5eggstremelychocaletymadeggs · 25/03/2013 14:07

Yabu she can read and keep an eye on your son.

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shewhowines · 25/03/2013 14:07

They are in loco parentis (SP?). If it is ok for a parent to do that then it's ok for the nanny IMO.

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SugariceisaGoodEgg · 25/03/2013 14:07

Grin I am almost smell your outrage from here OP!

YABU.

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Binkyridesagain · 25/03/2013 14:08

I bet she blinks sometimes as well, how can she keep an eye on your child when she keeps closing them!

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Kiriwawa · 25/03/2013 14:08

I don't know about all nannies but as a fellow parent I think you sound a bit of a nightmare

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NoelHeadbands · 25/03/2013 14:08

You should rethink the coffee thing as well btw.

If you start letting them refresh themselves with refreshments and shit, it's a slippery slope to gin, or cake.

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UnChartered · 25/03/2013 14:09

I don't mind her having a coffee

how fucking gracious of you Hmm

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Snoopingforsoup · 25/03/2013 14:09

YABU. I don't follow my DC around Play Barn.
He comes to me if he needs something. It's one of the only places he gets true independent fun.
If your DC's needs were met - no biggie.

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Fleecyslippers · 25/03/2013 14:09

If it was a quick flick through a magazine then YABU as long as she was still watching and engaging with DS.

If it was anything other than that, YANBU. And those who screech about your utter unreasonableness will be the same posters declaring death on mothers who fail to supervise Tarquin, meaning that he headbutts their little Roland on the slide.

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weegiemum · 25/03/2013 14:09

yabu.

Just occasionally, my nanny and I went out together (good bonding/catching up time) to a soft play with dd2 (and sometimes ds too). We'd be nattering away (we've remained very good friends!!) andwould realise 20 mins had gone by and we had no idea where dc were. I always read a book when waiting for my dc anywhere!

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Startail · 25/03/2013 14:09

YABU you can't see DCs most of the time at most soft play places so why in earth shouldn't she read.

I used to go with a nanny to ours and keep her company. We were terrible we chatted and drank coffee while her charges and my DD played.

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PacificDogwood · 25/03/2013 14:09

YABU.

Just out of interest, what do you do when you go to a softplay area with your DS? Of course, I play with mine if one of them wants me to, but if they are happily playing somewhere and know where I am, then I quite happily read a magazine/answer some emails/play some tetris Grin.

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SugariceisaGoodEgg · 25/03/2013 14:09

or do all nannies think it is reasonable to behave like this??

She was reading a mag, maybe she was thinking of a wedding invite poem! Grin Shock

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LightbulbSoup · 25/03/2013 14:09

So this friend saw your nanny reading a magazine and came running to tell you about it? Sounds like a shit stirrer. I feel sorry for the nanny. YABU

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Jambonfrites · 25/03/2013 14:09

I don't think you're being unreasonable. She's paid to look after your child, not to put her feet up.

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grabaspoon · 25/03/2013 14:10

Had to check what the nanny was reading as that could have been me Blush

I am a nanny and have been known to let my charges loose in a playbarn type thing and have a cuppa/read my book. We are in a secure space, a 3 year old can come find me if they need help etc.

Part of my job is to entertain but another part is to allow my charges time to explore and play by themselves.

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