To spend money on visiting a clairvoyant?

[Losingexcessweight]

I ve always been interested in having readings done on money, relationships, future etc.

I had a reading done around 6 years ago, the guy that did it wasnt very good. He didnt pick up on my father dying when i was a child.

Dh says he doesnt believe in this kind of thing, and its a load of rubbish.

I have an appointment with a local lady today. Shes £35 and the reading lasts for as long as you like.

So am i being unreasonable in spending my money on this?

And if you have had a reading done before, will you please share your experience with me?

[crazycanuck]

Sorry, I'm with your DH on this. Total load of rubbish. But it's your money and your decision how you spend it!

[ginmakesitallok]

Load of nonsense and waste of money in my opinion

[ImTooHecsyForYourParty]

I think you are, but I know a lot of people believe in it.

I just think they throw out really random stuff and you actually feed them the information.

I went to a group thing once and the woman was throwing stuff out that you could interpret to fit practically everyone and people were falling over themselves to give her information.

And I think even when you think you're not - your body language gives you away. Widening of the eyes, leaning forward, tensing, tilt of the head, etc. All clues that tell them if they're on the right track or not.

[cozietoesie]

It's interesting to have someone concentrating on you for an hour or more - but probably more productive to think about why you need it?

[Losingexcessweight]

Imtoohecksy

Dh says exactly what you say

[Flisspaps]

I can see that today you are going to spend some money, around £30-40. perhaps naively, on something that many will is a waste of time. I'm hearing that you should save your cash and go and get on with your day, finances intact.



There you are, I've told you what's going to happen, can I have £35?

[GetOrf]

I think it is pernicious rubbish.

It's your money, and god knows I can waste 35 quid in minutes on nonsense, but I worry that people end up depending on what clairvoyants say.

I am a bit worried at the moment about my mil who is recently bereaved (fil died in November) who was taken to a clairvoyant by her niece. She has found comfort from it but I cannot help thinking it's bollocks and a complete con, yet I can't say anything as I love my mil and don't want to hurt her.

[vix206]

It's all a load of rubbish but no you're not being unreasonable. You can spend your money however you choose

[inde]

Before you waste spend your hard earned cash I would spend a bit of time on the internet researching cold reading. Rationalwiki is a good place to start.

[weegiemum]

I think it's rubbish, and if you make decisions based on it, potentially dangerous rubbish.

Why not spend the £35 getting you nails done, or on a nice lunch out with a friend. That would make you feel equally good!!

[Suzieismyname]

it's a waste of money. I have been to see one twice and it's a load of tosh! He got my personality spot on but nothing he predicted has come true. Didn't pick up on my dead father either and when I compared his inner/outer personality readings with what he said to a close friend it was so similar. We are very different but he kept it vague enough to apply to both of us. I only went for 'scientific research'.
we both recorded our readings and when we listened back he mentioned 5 careers that I would be great at. a con!!

[marzipananimal]

Either it's all a load or rubbish, or it's real. If its real don't you think it could be dangerous? Where do they get these 'powers' from?

[OnwardBound]

I have had a few readings.

I have found some to be more accurate than others in terms of past and future events. But all have been quite insightful in terms of what was happening for me in the here and now, ie re relationships, career, family, etc.

I think if you go with the expectation that it will be a fun or interesting experience which is focused on you (so in a sense like a supportive counsellor) then anything else will be a bonus.

I have found all my readings to be helpful and they have enabled me to get some perspective on issues and gain another viewpoint.

The most profound perhaps was this bloke Alan that I saw in Chiswick a few years back. He told me that I worried about my Mum and her health but not to worry, that she was as strong as an ox. And that I would be going to Australia for Christmas (where DM lives). At the time this sounded like complete rubbish and I was disappointed. I just said mmm and uh-huh but I didn't recognise what he said at all, my Mum was in fine health, I didn't worry about her and I had no plans to travel to Australia for Christmas (too expensive that time of year especially at short notice).

However fast forward a couple of months to November and I discovered DM had quite a serious form of cancer which Drs thought had spread. I made plans to travel to Aus for Christmas to support Mum post surgery. It transpired that the surgery removed all the cancer and it hadn't spread. DM made a full recovery and 7 years on is still as 'strong as an ox'.

Good luck with your reading Losing. Come back here and tell us all about it after!

[BuddyButters]

You've got more money than sense.

Sorry but I always think that people who believe in this stuff are a bit simple.

[myroomisatip]

YANBU

I actually have had readings and was amazed at how accurate they were.

Have you considered going to a Spiritualist Church?

[fluffyraggies]

Don't go.

I used to do readings - i never charged.

Listen to the people who have posted already.

99.99999999999% of people charging for readings are fake, know they are fake, and are at best just going to just feed you allot of wishy washy nothingness for your £35.

[headlesslambrini]

Your money, your choice. ive had several readings done and some of what they said have come true and other bits havent. i do believe in this as one of the readings all i did was sit there. literally did not say a word and i was very careful with my body language etc. alot of what she said came true. just be careful on who you pick and go on word of mouth.

[hermioneweasley]

James Randi has a $1m prize for anyone who can demonstrate psychic powers which can't be replicated by someone doing (for example) a cold reading. The prize remains unclaimed.

I think that gives you your answer.

If you want an hour for you with someone concentrating on you I would do as others suggest and spend the money on having a massage etc.

[OnwardBound]

Thanks Buddy, but I'm not that simple, truly.

I have a degree, a professional career and seem to cope reasonably well in everyday life.

But I do believe that some people are more sensitive or have more developed psychic awareness than others.

And if seeing a clairvoyant gives you some support or comfort, so what of it?

Although I do think you also have to take it with a pinch of salt and use some common sense, hence not necessarily believing everything you are told without running it through your own bullshit detector.

But really £35 is not a massive amount to spend on entertainment, if that is all it is. Some people spend that down the pub or on concert tickets. Whatever floats your boat really.

[MrsPennyapple]

Some friends of mine went to one of those group things, they had no direct contact with the clairvoyant before the thing started. When the clairvoyant was throwing stuff out there, she named our friend who had killed himself a few months previously. Surname, and not a particularly common one. Could be a random guess, might not be. If you can afford it, go, but try to remain open minded.

[OnwardBound]

And agree with Headless. Go with word of mouth. Ime that is how you get the most accurate readings.

Perhaps some of those who say it's all rubbish have been to rubbish clairvoyants. A bit like some say all counselling is crap because they have been to someone they didn't click with, who is not a particularly insightful practitioner, or only did a weekend course as opposed to an intensive three/four year training.

I don't believe all counsellors or clairvoyants are crap though and have personally had experience of the good and not so good of each.

[lottiegarbanzo]

If clairvoyants are so clever, why aren't they rich?

They'd only need to be able to predict the success of one or two people and buy shares in heir businesses. The fact they are still out touting at £35 an hour to scrape a living tells you a lot.

[AngiBolen]

No more unreasonable than spending money on a night out, or some new clothes you don't really need. It's all entertainment.

I saw a clairvoyance once, she was spot on about my past, but not the future. I already knew about the past, so it wasn't very helpful.

[DolomitesDonkey]

YABVU to cancel, she knows your coming and has already made plans for the cash.