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AIBU?

Did I just have a go at a person with Tourette's?

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MarmaladeTwatkins · 18/03/2013 13:23

Ok...

Was just queuing to get into the bakery with my friend's DS in his pushchair. A group of 4 people were in front of me. One of the females was talking really quite loudly and saying "fucking" "cunt" "twat" repeatedly. Her friends were laughing at her conversation. One of her friends then purposely knocked her bag off her shoulder. She responded by calling him a fat, four-eyed cunt.

I did get the red mist and asked her to please stop sounding her potty mouth off so loudly and said little ears are present, motioning towards friend's DS. Then she went "I've got Tourette's, you stupid cow" I did Hmm face and her friend sheepishly backed her up and said that she did have Tourette's.

I really don't think that she did. My old boss had Tourette's and he didn't just swear in the flow of normal conversation. I could be wrong and if I am, I will feel shitty.

It's not the first time I've asked people to stop swearing around kids. AIBU?

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 18/03/2013 13:26

No, I don't think you did....she just sounds like an ignorant twat!!

From what I know about Tourettes and swearing, they just chuck the odd swear word in here and there, not actually in context whilst having a conversation.

Good for you for pulling her up on it. My mum did that once and got called a stupid cow for it but I was proud of her for having the balls to do it.

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WhoPaintedTheLion · 18/03/2013 13:27

Isn't that form of Tourettes more like a verbal tic? So yes, not actual conversational swearing.

I do not know all that much about it either, but I'd be suspicious.

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MarmaladeTwatkins · 18/03/2013 13:29

Well, my limited knowledge of Tourettes tells me that yes, it is like a verbal tick. My old boss used to really struggle in meetings to hold in his 'outbursts' by grabbing on to the arms of his chair but they had to come out eventually because it physically hurt him to keep them in :(

And it wasn't just swearing. He used to shout out random words most of the time.

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Mabelface · 18/03/2013 13:31

She was just being a dick.

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Sparklingbrook · 18/03/2013 13:34

I don't think Tourettes is in context or in a response to something. I remember when Pete off BB who had Tourettes said 'I love it when my Tourettes is in context' which makes me think it doesn't happen often.

'Fat four-eyed cunt' doesn't sound like Tourettes. Sad

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MarmaladeTwatkins · 18/03/2013 13:35

I remember when Pete said that! I wonder what happened to him. He was lovely.

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PeppaFuckingPig · 18/03/2013 13:37

You should have said, "Oh do fuck off you fucking rude cunt...oh, i have Tourettes too."

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DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 18/03/2013 13:38

I thought with Tourettes if the person is talking then they will without warning say something quite unconnected and random. So if the conversation is flowing and the vocabulary is shall we say 'rich' but actually in context it would seem they are just swearing.

Think you were NBU.

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maddening · 18/03/2013 13:38

He was on a celebrity 4 weddings programme getting married in a circus tent with lots if circus acts etc I think - I saw it when on maternity leave in those early never stop bfing days

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BrainSurgeon · 18/03/2013 13:39

Grin @ Peppa

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UnChartered · 18/03/2013 13:39

i have no idea about the Tourettes issue, but tell us more about the bakery, Marmie Grin

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Sparklingbrook · 18/03/2013 13:41

Filed for divorce now maddening. Sad YY Marmalade was it St Greggs of Pasties?

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BeerTricksPotter · 18/03/2013 13:42

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LandofTute · 18/03/2013 13:43

With all the laughter by her friends going on this just sounds like someone thinking they are hilarious to pretend to have Tourettes and enjoying insulting people in the process.

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MarmaladeTwatkins · 18/03/2013 13:48

No it wasn't Greggs. More's the pity. It wasjust the bakery in our village, where the window display showcases dead flies in the trays.

WIBU once to say "Can I have a dead fly please?" to the bakery lady? She was Hmm Confused I said "You must sell them. You've got them on display in your window" Thought it was better than "clean your windows out, you mucky mare"

I was about to start screeching about her thinking that Tourettes is a joke/mocking a mental disorder but I didn't want oeuf on le visage.

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UnChartered · 18/03/2013 13:52

dash

and yes, you must ask how about the flies, and i'll ask about the wasps in the pet shop window too Grin

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thezebrawearspurple · 18/03/2013 13:54

It doesn't matter whether she did or not, you don't have the right to dictate what words other people use in a public place. If everybody interfered with others whose speech/behaviour/dress offended them, nobody would be able to go about their business without being constantly harassed by idiots.

You should just have minded your own business, be grateful that you only got an excuse and not a box in the face. That would be something your children would be genuinely upset (and perhaps traumatised) by.

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Sparklingbrook · 18/03/2013 13:56

So you think it's ok for a child in a pushchair to be subjected to a load of effing and jeffing zebra?

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Catchingmockingbirds · 18/03/2013 13:57

Swearing tics are quite rare for Tourette's sufferers, and she seemed to be swearing in context too. She was probably just pretending and that's why her friends were laughing so much.

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Sparklingbrook · 18/03/2013 13:58

But well done for not getting a 'box in the face' eh Marmalade. Grin

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AllThatGlistens · 18/03/2013 14:01

My little boy has Tourette's Syndrome, and as his consultant explained it to us, the so called 'swearing tics' are actually v v rare in sufferers, it tends to be grunts and/or physical tics.

Chances are she was just a cunt! Grin

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thezebrawearspurple · 18/03/2013 14:02

They're not being subjected to anything, children wouldn't even notice. If their mother had received a violent response for her interference, that would have been damaging to them. If she does that regularly it's only a matter of time before someone is nasty about it.

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MarmaladeTwatkins · 18/03/2013 14:08

Zebra, I am not posting to ask if IABU to pull idiots upon acting like idiots. I will continue to do so. The problem with this country is there are too many people like you who won't speak up when someone is making life uncomfortable for everyone else.

And children DO notice. My son didn't learn the plethora of swearwords he knows from me. They have all been picked up from stupid twats who can't cork their verbal diarrhoea.

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