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AIBU?

To be feeling a bit sick after over hearing a conversation in the supermarket today

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snoworneahva · 18/03/2013 00:27

Man around 50 years old chatting to a woman who was around 85-90 years old, she was in a pretty poor state of health, shuffling not able to speak much.
Man said in a loud voice - does that make you feel a bit sexy, I look up - again he says do you feel sexy when you wear that? She says nothing. He then says, are you going to wear that with sexy underwear, are you going to wear frilly knicker while you are doing the hoovering? In hindsight it was almost like he was playing out a Christian Grey fantasy.

He was speaking in a very loud voice so it wasn't a private chat, I felt very odd, almost like the other shoppers and I were part of some sex fantasy. I didn't meet anyone's eye I just tried to get out of earshot as a quickly as possible...couldn't think of anything else to do.

But I felt hugely uncomfortable about the whole situation - couldn't think of what to do, I didn't see them again, paid and left the store. Anyone else experience something like this - I almost feel like I was flashed at and then I worry about the old lady, what was going on here.

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RidingInCarsWithBoys · 18/03/2013 00:35

Would it have been ok if both of them were younger?

Perhaps he was her husband and they were having a joke? You seem very easily shocked.

YABU.

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BubblegumPie · 18/03/2013 00:36

Maybe they were a couple?

He's probably a perv, if you were worried for the woman why didn't you do something? Supermarkets tend to have security guards.

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ubik · 18/03/2013 00:39

He wasn't on his hands free headset talking to someone else?

If not, it does sound a bit odd. Poor woman.

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snoworneahva · 18/03/2013 00:42

I didn't do anything partly because I couldn't tell 100% that they weren't a couple, she seemed so very old....even if they were a couple the conversation was just very loud and very public.

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snoworneahva · 18/03/2013 00:45

No security guard either, it's a small supermarket..I had no idea who to go to and didn't want to make a fuss...it was all too awkward and embarrassing, even to explain it to someone.

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TheChaoGoesMu · 18/03/2013 00:48

It does sound odd op.

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doyouwantfrieswiththat · 18/03/2013 00:51

Perhaps they were shoplifting and they were trying to get you to go away, she was shuffling because her pockets were full of baked bean tins.

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MsAkimbo · 18/03/2013 01:04

...silly question maybe, but did he know her?

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pollywollydoodle · 18/03/2013 01:18

what would have been wrong with asking if she was ok/was he bothering her.

...the worst that would happen was a bit of embarassment

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HoHoHoNoYouDont · 18/03/2013 01:20

I hope he did know her as it disturbs me to think some old dear had been harassed by a filthy perv.

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notnagging · 18/03/2013 01:38

So you just left them to it, not knowing if he was with her or harassing her?Hmm

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DolomitesDonkey · 18/03/2013 05:37

So you yourself are familiar with the works of 50 shades, but you're uncomfortable with older people having sex?

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nosleeps · 18/03/2013 05:56

Maybe they were a couple. If she is that old, perhaps he has to raise his voice a bit to be heard.

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