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about the size of my house?

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secretofcrickleyhall Fri 15-Mar-13 22:07:26

I own (outright, no mortgage) a three bedroomed terraced house. It's not a large home but it is a lovely one. There is a small garden, beautiful views and it's in a really nice location near parks and our little town centre - just perfect. However, my dad claims it's too small to be a 'family home hmm

I wondered what sort of homes you all lived in ... ? confused

secretofcrickleyhall Fri 15-Mar-13 22:53:07

Thanks, I am going to be having the child in slightly non-conventional circumstances, so I suppose I am just a little sensitive to anything that could mark them as 'different.'

AgentZigzag Fri 15-Mar-13 22:54:03

Actually, even if ERNIE decided to pick the bonds in my favour I still wouldn't get a bigger house, I think the space would freak me out grin

AgentZigzag Fri 15-Mar-13 22:55:23

'Thanks, I am going to be having the child in slightly non-conventional circumstances, so I suppose I am just a little sensitive to anything that could mark them as 'different.''

Potentially the largest drip feed changing the direction of the thread in the history of MN grin

wild Fri 15-Mar-13 22:56:25

well I am a single parent if that helps, is definitely a stand out round here
another single parent in the village has a large but rambling farmhouse, still decorated like the 70s and throws the best parties ever
when dc were very little I remember a 3 year old saying 'our house is bigger than yours' so yes it does register, but no one nice gives a shit

wild Fri 15-Mar-13 22:57:29

yes, you have to elaborate op, what are they, half zebra?

Trills Fri 15-Mar-13 22:58:08

YABU

You ARE being unreeasonable.

You know that your Dad's opinions are based on assumptions that no longer apply.

Worrying about the size of your house, when you have 3 bedrooms, should not kick in until you are considering the third child (an even then it's not necessarily a problem, as others have said).

secretofcrickleyhall Fri 15-Mar-13 22:59:21

grin Definitely not half zebra! Just having child as single mum!

Trills Fri 15-Mar-13 23:00:09

Then there's even more room per person! wink

quesadilla Fri 15-Mar-13 23:02:56

It's a generational thing. My dad thought I was "slumming" when I bought a two bed flat in the suburbs for two hundred grand. He genuinely thought I could afford a four bed in Holland Park or something. They don't get how much harder it is these days. Smile sweetly and ignore: you are in a much better place than most people, good luck to you.

secretofcrickleyhall Fri 15-Mar-13 23:04:13

Trills - absolutely!

quesadilla, yes, I know just what you mean!

VerySmallSqueak Fri 15-Mar-13 23:04:37

To move to somewhere bigger would presumably mean not being mortgage free.
You have plenty of room for your family,a fantastic location by the sounds,and you owe nothing.
What's not to love about all of that!

Trills Fri 15-Mar-13 23:05:08

How is it a generational thing if she grew up in a 3 bed house?

TheBuskersDog Fri 15-Mar-13 23:05:19

Are you intending to send your child to a private school where lots of the children are likely to be from wealthy families who live in large houses?

wild Fri 15-Mar-13 23:06:11

oh, is that all? grin
I've been on my own since dd was 6 months, I love it! embrace your lovely house and stop worrying!

thezebrawearspurple Fri 15-Mar-13 23:08:24

Four bed detached, big garden, front view the neighbours, close to town. We've turned two of the bedrooms into a gym and games room because we were so sick of guestsgrin

I think if a house is comfortable, cosy, in a good area and fits everyone in, then it doesn't matter what size it is, bigger isn't always better.

wild Fri 15-Mar-13 23:08:39

a tip - when I was a new lone parent at the school gates I assumed people would be judging me and probably came across as quite stand offish because of it. Lose the shame, it went out with the 70s. Even the Pope approves of us!

secretofcrickleyhall Fri 15-Mar-13 23:09:30

Trills, my house was a 3 bed but it was a large detached one with a lot of land and stables and outhouses - bit different to the one I have now grin

Buskers, no, wouldn't be able to afford private school! Like I say, I am just a little sensitive to my DC being marked as 'different' in any way, daft I know but if you can't be a bit daft about irrational DC worries on Mumsnet, where can you, hey? smile

quesadilla Fri 15-Mar-13 23:10:13

Just because people of older generations were able to afford much more on the equivalent of today's salaries and expect their kids to do better than them and therefore have a hard time adjusting to the huge acceleration in property prices over 40 years or so.

MrsDeVere Fri 15-Mar-13 23:10:24

I am always amazed when I watch those property shows and they interview a couple who are moving 'because we need more room for the baby'. Then you find out they are moving from a three bed with two receptions, two bathrooms and a garden.

I mean, how big do they think their baby is going to be? grin

wild Fri 15-Mar-13 23:11:00

I downsized, too. Now it's all my own! couldn't be happier

AgentZigzag Fri 15-Mar-13 23:11:00

Is being a single parent unconventional now?

Pigsmummy Fri 15-Mar-13 23:11:44

Badgers pay far too much road tax

secretofcrickleyhall Fri 15-Mar-13 23:14:58

Agent - no, but I actually am choosing to be a single parent, you see, I am having IVF with donor sperm.

Mrs - haha! I always wonder that about when expectant parents buy huge people carriers - are they having quads or something? grin

VerySmallSqueak Fri 15-Mar-13 23:15:22

Circumstances dictated that I downsized from a 3 bed to a 2 bed,once we had our family.
But its a 2 bed in much better nick than the big poorly maintained 3 bed.
And we can keep warmer.

AgentZigzag Fri 15-Mar-13 23:17:55

I wonder how many of the people complaining they can't get onto the property ladder think like that MrsD?

Someone on the telly was saying they had £30000 saved up for a deposit but couldn't find anything to buy confused

You mean you couldn't find anything that didn't need a bit of work doing on it?

Although because we're oop northish I'm always surprised how much houses got for down south, maybe I'm being unrealistic.

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