To be horrified my four year old came home with nail polish ,make up and false lashes on ?

(123 Posts)
BahrainB Fri 08-Mar-13 16:29:09

Gob smacked that a four year olds birthday party warrants a beautician who applied party lashes , full ( we are talking strictly style) make-up and painted the nails of all the tiny dots that attended. This was our first "drop off " party ever and I am just so horrified . What I would have done if I had actually been there , I don't know. Moreover , I am too shocked to say anything . Thank goodness she is heading to the bath before her daddy gets in on a late flight.

changeforthebetter Fri 08-Mar-13 17:01:23

yuk! I will put a bit of varnish on kids' nails during holidays. it is inexpertly applied as I rarely wear any. the rest - no way. sadly some people do think four year olds need to be made up - dodgy sad

orangina Fri 08-Mar-13 17:03:05

Totally bloody grim.

Anyone remember the MN campaign "Let girls be girls"...... This is what it is all about.

(Hoiks bosom)

LegoAcupuncture Fri 08-Mar-13 17:03:15

The only thing that would really bother me is the false lashes. My DC loved having nail polish on when they were this age and a little bit of lip gloom/lipstick.

Just how much make up was on her?

orangina Fri 08-Mar-13 17:03:51

And it is NOT the same as drawing a butterfly on a little girls face w facepaint....

teatrolley Fri 08-Mar-13 17:06:38

Well I suppose it makes it easier to pick who you're happy for her to have play dates with.

OutragedFromLeeds Fri 08-Mar-13 17:07:16

grin @ lip gloom

MoominmammasHandbag Fri 08-Mar-13 17:10:14

YANBU I once dropped then 6 year old DD off at a friend's house for tea prior to going to the school disco. Picked her up from the school disco only to find she had been given the full make up treatment by her friend's Mum. Mortified does not begin to describe how I felt. I think it was worse because I felt other people would think it was my idea.

akaemmafrost Fri 08-Mar-13 17:10:19

"shocked"

"Horrified"

"Thank goodness she is heading to the bath before her daddy gets in on a late flight?"

Why? What would the Man Of The House have to say about this outrageous event?

Sorry this has made me grin.

No its not ideal but its not a massive great big deal either. I painted dd to look like a cat today, I don't think this is dissimilar. At this age its just dressing up. Plenty of time to make sure she knows the implications as she gets older.

Out of interest what WOULD you have done at the party, if you had been there?

ponyandpotatopie Fri 08-Mar-13 17:12:31

I don't think it's a big deal either.

akaemmafrost Fri 08-Mar-13 17:14:24

I think I would have laughed when I saw her.

anonymosity Fri 08-Mar-13 17:17:02

I'm surprised the kids at 4 weren't completely bored by that and it does seem a little young. But I wouldn't be horrified, I'd only be truly horrified if my 5 yr old DD came home with a real tattoo or nose piercing or similar.

seriouscakeeater Fri 08-Mar-13 17:17:06

I wouldnt have like it either and neither would DH would have been annoyed too.
Wouldnt like the fact that my 4 yr dc was having glue stuck near her little eyes.

ZZZenAgain Fri 08-Mar-13 17:18:05

I wouldn't have liked the make-up and nailpolish but I would haveremoved it and not mentoned it. However, glueing on false eyelashes I would be really annoyed about.

if this is real...I would lose it on the parents. anyone gluing anything to my child's face would be in for a world of hurt

silverfrog Fri 08-Mar-13 17:20:51

I'm with you, OP. I would be horrified too.

dd2 still hasn't had the present that was given to us for her when she was 3 which was make up and all that shit. who on earth thinks that is a good present to give a small child? it baffles me.

why on earth anyone would be ok with it - why start indoctrinating small children into the whole beauty regime thing? jesus, why can't we just let small children be just that, not slather them in full make up and make them into mini-adults.

thezebrawearspurple Fri 08-Mar-13 17:21:53

I think it's sweet, little kids love dressing up but they should have warned the other parents beforehand in case of allergy issues. I suppose some people will have a moral opposition to it, which is fine, there are also parents who don't like their kids playing with toy weapons etc... you can't really know what others are going to be horrified by.

HildaOgden Fri 08-Mar-13 17:23:42

Hope none of them had conjunctivitis,or else they all will.

Ridiculous of the beautician to do it ( and of the party parent who didn't check with other parents first),where I am adults have to be 'patch tested' for allergies the first time they use eyelash dye,I wouldn't imagine eyelash glue is much less allergenic.

Clary Fri 08-Mar-13 17:24:23

It's truly icky IMO.

LOL @ people saying they'd only be horrified if a 5yo came home with a real tattoo!!! Errrr well yes I would think that would be a bit horrifying!

I had a friend whose DD had very pretty blonde curls when she was this sort of age. People used to ask her if they were natural! Noooo, I bleach and curl my pre-schooler's hair. hmm

Floggingmolly Fri 08-Mar-13 17:25:16

I don't believe the lashes were glued on, the beautician would surely have known better than that. And the makeup is just another version of face painting which is all the rage a 4 year old's parties. If she'd have come home as a butterfly would you have been so outraged?
It wouldn't have bothered me.

silverfrog Fri 08-Mar-13 17:27:04

face painting is in the realm of dress-up. no child is going to grow up aspiring to be a witch, or a butterfly, or spiderman, becuase they had a bit of colour put on their face.

a young girl, being pampered, and encouraged to preen, and being made to look 'beautiful' is highly likely to grow up to believe that the world revolves aorund looks. and that is a shit message.

thebody Fri 08-Mar-13 17:27:56

No I wouldn't like it either. Little kids painting their nails and playing with makeup is ok but for an adult to glue on false eyelashes is pretty strange.

It's not pretty face painting its the creeping in of the American patgent queen culture and its not nice or healthy for girls IMO.

4 is way too young.

Whipps Fri 08-Mar-13 17:29:12

Ugh, ugh, ugh. YANBU.

silverfrog Fri 08-Mar-13 17:29:31

I don't want my daughters growing up thinking they have to use make up (in increasing quantities if what I see on teens these days is anything to go by) to look 'better' than they do.

they are fabulous, and wonderful the way they are. they do not need to start thinking they need a lifetime of beauty products and make up - and especially not from the age of 4, fgs!

Floggingmolly Fri 08-Mar-13 17:30:23

It washes off hmm. The op doesn't have to leave it on and take her dd clubbing...
She'll have forgotten all about it by next week.

WoTmania Fri 08-Mar-13 17:30:42

YANBU - nail varnish I could cope with, playing with make up (think garish colour everywhere) fine but 'proper' make-uo and eyelashies. Nope. Not going there. I'm not teaching my daughter that there is a certain appearance she must adhere to. Particularly not at the age of 4.

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