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To be cross that my friend said my baby has a small willy?

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Zara1984 · 06/03/2013 18:36

Just that. She said he had big balls but a small willy (while I was changing his nappy). Why would you say that about a 4 month old baby boy? Angry

Am I being over sensitive? I feel like this is just the start of awful sexual stereotypes put on him. Sad

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girliefriend · 06/03/2013 18:39

Does she have children? YANBU but people without children say stupid things like that because they don't get how amazing your little baby is to you (imo) !!

Did you say anything to her? I would have said something like, 'don't say that about my baby, he is perfect in every way!'

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CloudsAndTrees · 06/03/2013 18:40

Could she just have been commenting, rather than criticising?

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DeepPurple · 06/03/2013 18:41

Some people really don't think do they?

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foxache · 06/03/2013 18:43

Weird how this affects you isn't it? Not just a willy thing, but any comment about your baby's appearance which isn't complimentary.

I understand how parents can be seen as over sensitive, but really, why comment at all? What reaction could she or others expect to receive?

So no I don't think you are BU, but I'd forget it as a rude and thoughtless comment. Or next time just ask her 'why would you say that?' Hmm

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babanouche · 06/03/2013 18:43

Stupid thing for her to say. I would have been very pissed off. You don't diss a baby!

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littlebitofthislittlebitofthat · 06/03/2013 18:43

I'm sure she didnt mean anything by it..... I see lots of babies bits (i'm a childminder) and i can reassure you that willies come in all shapes and sizes.

your freind was being less than tactful, but i dont think that you should worry about it.

(think about it rationally... Have you ever seen two men with exactly the same gear?)

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HeadfirstForHalos · 06/03/2013 18:44

How strange commenting on his willy! i wonder what she meant by it?

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ShesAStar · 06/03/2013 18:44

Of all the things you could say about a baby that is one of the oddest, I bet she is sitting somewhere right now saying 'I can't believe what I say to Zara today, I'm mortified!' Sometimes stupid things just slip out. I'm sure your babies will is huge Grin

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NippyDrips · 06/03/2013 18:45

You should have said - he's a baby, his small Willy has years to grow, your small mind however is fully grown.

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Katienana · 06/03/2013 18:45

Weird! Ds bits change size dramatically from one change to the.next so she is stupid for that reason alone. I bet she wouldn't comment on a girls genitals.

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Zara1984 · 06/03/2013 18:45

She has a boy too. She said my DS' penis was smaller than her DS'.

Maybe she was just commenting? She is a close friend. That's why I don't know if I'm being over sensitive. I just felt hurt and affronted that someone would pass comment on my baby's genitals Confused

I didn't know what to say. I just said "really?!" and changed the topic. But I'm still annoyed about it.

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WorraLiberty · 06/03/2013 18:45

It's a bit rude to comment on appearance in that way.

But you do seem OTT with your sexual stereotypes comment.

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StuntGirl · 06/03/2013 18:46

She sounds like a bloomin' idiot. Even if she thought it, who the hell thinks that's an appropriate thing to say!

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Zara1984 · 06/03/2013 18:47

ie I'm not scared he might grow up to have a small penis (who cares) but more like "my baby son is not a piece of meat"

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PureQuintessence · 06/03/2013 18:47

I bet this cow is going to compare your two boys for years and years ahead.

LTB!

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MerryMingeWhingesAgain · 06/03/2013 18:47

Grin That's what baby boys look like.

'Really' was the perfect thing to say, OP. She is barking.

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Pitmountainpony · 06/03/2013 18:49

Let it go. She just noticed something different to her child. My lovely neighbor said my daughter looks like a wrestler and to be fair the comment has some truth to it. The beauty is mums live their kids whether they have the wrestler or beauty queen look and she may never have seen another willy before. Just a knee jerk comment nothing more.

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babyboomersrock · 06/03/2013 18:49

Yuck. Quite inappropriate, as StuntGirl said.

Would she comment on an older child's genitalia?

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Blessyou · 06/03/2013 18:49

I say it about my ds2 all the time Blush

ds1 however, has a long willy.

It's perhaps just the comparison for her too.

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WorraLiberty · 06/03/2013 18:50

She didn't say he was a piece of meat

She said (rudely) he has a small penis.

If she'd said he had small ears would you think she was treating him like a piece of meat?

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eltsihT · 06/03/2013 18:50

I got weirded out the other day by my mum commenting on my sons willy, she said "it's a very different shape to your brothers he must had got it from His fathers side" comments about willies are just not needed, I am now wondering about how my son's is different from my brothers, not an image I needed or wanted!

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OkayHazel · 06/03/2013 18:51

I don't think she meant to be rude, she was probably just pointing out what she saw. If she's only used to grown up willies a baby's might be a little out of the ordinary for her!

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slatternlymother · 06/03/2013 18:52

YANBU, she was rude and odd.

Does she often do things like this or is this a one off?

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Mrsrobertduvall · 06/03/2013 18:52

I have a dear friend who always banged on about her ds's huge willy when he was a toddler.
I was with her a few weeks ago, and she was still going on about it...he is now 14 Grin

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babyboomersrock · 06/03/2013 18:53

"I'm not scared he might grow up to have a small penis (who cares) but more like 'my baby son is not a piece of meat'"

Exactly. I don't understand why another mother would even notice. She sounds insensitive, to put it kindly.

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