to bang on my neighbours wall at 6pm about their music?

[VictorTango]

I know it's not late. But I was so sick of it. It's like mental tortue. The continous duff duff is the soundtrack to my life atm.

Her music isn't loud but it's the bloody base thumping through the walls.

It's a young girl (20ish). She plays it for hours on end, sometimes till 1am. Friday it was till 1am, Sunday it was till 1am. Today it came on mid day, I went out and came back twice and it was still on.

After sitting at the table listening to it throughout the dc dinnertime, I went and knocked to have (another) politE word. She didn't answer. So I dropped a note through. Which had no effect.

I've tried to catch her mother to speak to her but they come and go at weird hours and I never really know who is living there at any one point.

The duff duff duff's always seem louder when upstairs (she plays it in her bedroom) so I asked dd1 to bang on the wall with a book until the duff duff noise stopped. Which is did after about 5 mins of banging.

I feel guilty now. But I honestly couldn't face doing bath/bedtime listening to it upstairs and then having to try and sleep through it again if it's on till 1am.


WIBU?

[SoleSource]

Yanbu

It destroys your enjoyment of being in your own home. It is relentless, disrespectfu and fucking soul detroying. I think you need to seek advice. Constant bassline penetrating walls into your environment is anti.social.

[deleted203]

Nope. YANBU. I think time of day doesn't particularly matter. If you've been listening to someone else's shit choice in music blaring through your walls for hours then you've every right to be pissed off with it.

Personally I consider it unreasonable if neighbours music EVER impinges on me in my own home.

I'd be dropping a note through saying that you will be reporting them to the council every single time you hear their music. Suggest she invests in a pair of fucking headphones if she wants it loud!

[EllieArroway]

Did she stop (eventually) after you banged then? That's a good sign - shows she was willing to turn it down. An awful lot of people would just turn it up.

Ordinarily, I would think it's a bit unfair to expect total silence at 6pm - but if she's being a pain till the early hours too, then I don't blame you.

You need to speak to her - she's old enough, you don't need to bother with mum. Be really friendly, apologise for banging on the wall but explain why. Some people have no idea how sound carries through walls, and you might find she starts using headphones instead.

[mummymeister]

noise can be a statutory nuisance at any time of the day or night. give your environmental health department a call. ask for a noise diary and ask for a letter to go to your neighbour. if you can talk to the mum all the better informal is invariably best as it avoids the tit for tat situations that often arise in noise cases. if she wants to play it so loud it is clearly audible and a nuisance in your house then she has to wear head phones clear and simple really. try and get the mum and the girl in to listen to it - sometimes /rarely when confronted with it the noise maker stops but dont hold your breath and contact the council.

[expatinscotland]

YANBU. I'm so sick of inconsiderate fuckwits.

Start logging every single time. If it's after 11, get environmental health involved. If they rent, report them to the council if you live in one whose landlords have to register.

[HairyHandedTrucker]

yanbu but you might as well get out the Worthers originals now...

[livinginwonderland]

YANBU. get a diary and write down all the times it happens. keep it for a week or so, then go to the council and complain. noise doesn't have to be after 11pm to be considered antisocial, especially if you've already asked nicely for them to keep it down.

i've never understood how people could have loud music on without worrying about the neighbours :/ rude buggers!

[SneakyNinja]

Yanbu, I was about to come on and say lighten ip it's only 6pm but if it's a continuous problem and been playing since noon I would have been at wall-banging levels of anger also.

[VictorTango]

Well I don't know why I felt guilty as she put it on again at 3am.

I banged and she turned it off.

Some people really have no consideration.

They own the house so not sure what the council would say? Like I said the music isn't loud, it's just the continuous thump from the base.
It's got to the point where I think I can hear it even when it's not on. I swear it's sending me round the bend.

[Geekster]

YANBU we used to live next door to someone who had surround sound speakers attached to our adjoining wall, was horrendous when they watched a film. Don't think they realised how noisy it was as they were a nice couple and we got on well with them. One time when we were away at Christmas they shut our curtains for us, and once we got back they were a bit quieter, think one of them must have come round and heard how loud it was.

I think it's that constant noise like you have it's a form of torture.

[SpicyPear]

YANBU. It doesn't matter that they own the house - it doesn't give them the right to create noise nuisance. Keep a diary of times etc and call the environmental health team. I've had this issue with a neighbouring flat and it slowly drove us insane. We had a little celebration when the culprit moved out!

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

YADNBU, it's soul destroying, and I speak from experience. This may or may not be an option for you, OP, but in the end we had sound-proofing put in and it was the best money we've ever spent. It literally changed my life. Let me know if you want any more info.

[VictorTango]

Oh I would love soundproofing but I think its out of my budget.

Did you soundproof your walls Avon?

[Iseeall]

The council will deal with all noise nuisance regardless of whether you rent or own. Contact your council to log your complaint. They should then sent you info on keeping a log of the noise, what to do, who to call out of hours etc. Noise can be at anytime, but it has to be excessive and on a regular basis(yours is). five mins of music before parents come in would not be. You do not have to live like this.

[marmite69]

We had this same problem with our neighbours son,bloody bass thumping through the walls.
Dh just kept going round,the parents seemed surprised we would mind the noise
If it starts now I put Barry Manilow on full blast with the speaker against the wall!

[Sallyingforth]

Soundproofing isn't very effective on loud bass notes
As Iseeall says the council has a responsibility to deal with noise complaints so get onto them.
They will want you to keep a log, so start right away with any periods you can remember over the past few days.
Good luck!

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

OP, yes, we soundproofed the walls from the front to the back of the house (we're in a semi-detached.). Sallyingforth, it depends what sort of soundproofing you get done - ours is very heavy duty, similar to what's used to soundproof music studios!
We'd got the point where we didn't want to have to fight like with like. Our neighbours are nice, a bit noisy but good people - it's just that the soundproofing between the houses was rubbish. Now we hear nothing at all from them. I could bang on about this forever, such is the effect it has had on me !

[VictorTango]

How much did that cost Avon, if you don't mind me asking?

[specialsubject]

start a log and make complaints. She can use headphones, she'll blow out her hearing but that's her problem. Unless you live in a detached house you HAVE to keep the music down.

there are few things worse than this.

[clairedunphy]

Avon we too are in a semi and have rubbish walls. We hear TV, coughing, drawers and cupboards banging etc from our very lovely neighbour who is doing nothing unreasonable. Would you mind sharing info about the soundproofing you used as I don't really know where to start looking?

OP YADNBU, we have a separate issue with a yappy dog (different neighbour) and phoned the council who immediately sent a letter and offered to send us recording equipment for monitoring. We declined as the letter seemed to do the trick for a while, although it's gradually getting worse again so the council might be getting another call soon...

[marjproops]

avonwhere are you? please share, and how much roughly does it cost?

I'll sell my soul if I have to to get some!!!!

But really, if they want to make so much noise THEY should put bloody soundproofing in themselves or pay for yours.


Gosh, if so many of us have probs with this why isnt the law more on top of this?

[marjproops]

avon and did you put it in yourselves or get the proffessionals in? cos party walls will have plug sockets that need moving dont they?

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

VictorTango - It cost just under £3,000 (we just got downstairs done.) I know that's a lot, but the everyday noises from next door were really getting to me, let alone if they had people round. I hadn't realised quite how stressful I'd found it until we had the soundproofing done.
Clairedunphy, because we chose heavy duty soundproofing, we lost 4 inches of our wall, which I don't notice. The job took 3 days. We are just outside London. If that sounds any good to you, PM me and I'll let you know their details.

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

4 inches off

[AvonCallingBarksdale]

OK - We're just outside London. We got a professional Soundproofing company to do it. This is important, I think, as some builders offer soundproofing, but it's really just a bit of extra plaster, or people try to do it themselves, and it's just not enough. I think our neighbours will have benefitted too, as they probably can't hear us any more, but hey ho! They had to move some plug sockets, and wehn they replastered after doing the actual soundproofing, they covered up some pipes which were unsightly anyway. They also repainted for us. It has been a bloody miracle.