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To NOT return this gift ??

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Schmoozer · 20/02/2013 15:26

A couple of years a pal gave me a leather bag
I said I liked leather bags, she said she had an old one she didnt want anymore
She gave me this bag it was definitely a "you can have it situation"
Nice bag but had been in storage quite a while,
I got my dh to mend a buckle on it, I used a whole pot I renapaur cleaner and oil on it
Conditioning it over a few weeks until it came up lovely !!
I use it intermittently, now this women is not such a close friend, in fact I got fed up of her snipes and bitchiness so I made active steps to see less of her
I now hear through the grapevine she considers the bag had been lent
And she wants it back
I have no intention if giving it back
I think she is being petty because I won't play any more
Am I being reasonable to keep it ??

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pictish · 20/02/2013 15:27

Nope. It's yours.

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fryingpantoface · 20/02/2013 15:29

Definitely yours. Wait until she asks and tell her she gave it to you. I doubt she'd aak

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YouTheCat · 20/02/2013 15:33

A few years ago? She's being a silly cow.

She didn't just loan it to you and, if she had, I'd presume she would have asked for it back a long time ago.

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MaxPepsi · 20/02/2013 15:50

It's yours.

However if she continues going on about it, present her with a bill for the work you have done on it Grin

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doctorhamster · 20/02/2013 15:57

It's yours. If you hardly see her you can get away with telling her you no longer have it....it broke/was stolen/you gave it to a charity shop etc etc

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DeepRedBetty · 20/02/2013 16:01

She hasn't even asked for it back has she? Just whinged about it to mutual friends. Yanbu. And like MaxPepsi's thinking there....

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Schmoozer · 20/02/2013 16:05

Thanks
My dh said just give it back if she asks
And I thought no bloody way
So glad u agree !!

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RichardSimmonsTankTop · 20/02/2013 16:09

She sounds very petty to be still thinking about the bag two years later.

Don't give it back!

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expatinscotland · 20/02/2013 16:11

It's yours.

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Lockedout434 · 20/02/2013 16:14

I would give her it back if she asks.
Why sink to her level.
Sink much lower and write cunt in ultra violet pen on the bag and then go dancing!!!!

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FryOneFatManic · 20/02/2013 16:15

I bet the reason she gave it to you in the first place is because she saw it as a way of getting rid of a bag that was damaged. You then made it look really good and so now she's decided that it wasn't a gift after all, just a loan, because she quite fancies it now and regrets giving it to you.

As she gave it to you, that's her hard luck, she could have put the same effort in to bring up to scratch.

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whatsleep · 20/02/2013 16:19

Ha ha like your style Lockedout Grin

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Schmoozer · 20/02/2013 21:45

Yeah go lockout !!
Im definately keeping that bag :)

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andubelievedthat · 20/02/2013 23:00

Throw it back at her, otherwise she will drag u down to her sad stupid level and beat you with her ignorance, u are better than a bloody bag, for sure (imo)then get DP to buy you a much better one to console you(sob)sob lots !

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BeCool · 20/02/2013 23:04

she's petty and looking for a way to have a dig at you.
It's yours for sure.
Don't give it another thought (well shot of her!)

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Yfronts · 20/02/2013 23:09

wait till she asks

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starfishmummy · 20/02/2013 23:16

I would give it her back in the same state as I got it - so remove/damage the burke and dirty it uo a bit.
(Petty I know)

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Tanith · 20/02/2013 23:21

2 years ago?!!

I once lent a double pushchair to a childminder friend of mine: I had two and she needed one. I told her to keep it until she didn't need it any more. She didn't ever return it, so presumably she still needs it, if it hasn't worn to shreds by now. To be honest, I'd completely forgotten about it.
I wouldn't dream of asking for it back.

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GregBishopsBottomBitch · 20/02/2013 23:36

Dont give it back, if she wanted it that badly then she would asked a long time ago, not just whinged to mutual friends.

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redplasticspoon · 21/02/2013 00:24

I think if she is really that bad, and to be the bigger person, you should give it backif she asks you. After all, you wouldn't want to give her a reason chase you, would you?

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