Will try and be brief :) Second baby due in July. A miracle BFP as first baby was born after 7 yrs of infertility and 3 rounds of IVF. Husband will be away from mid April to November with 2 weeks holiday to be timed around birth of baby.
Me and MIL dont get on, and newborns seem to be a bit of a flashpoint. She finds breastfeeding disgusting and FIL wont be in the room if I do it so when DS was born I spent much of the 5 days in a bedroom away from everyone. When I was holding DS she would constantly say I was spoiling him, making a rod for my own back etc. If they come DH will be expected to do airport runs 3 hrs each way, and will probably take DS out alot with them, leaving me and new born. :(
Is it selfish to say I want that tiny period of time to be just us as a family of 4? If I say no to a visit, they will not see new baby until December at the earliest as I doubt they would visit with DH away. They live about an hrs flight away.
To balance, they are great grandparents to DS, they will be missing their son (my DH) and I will be depriving them of that as well as a chance to see new baby. Also, my parents will have many opportunities to see baby and they wouldnt. I just cant decide if I am being unreasonable to say no! I will take on board any opinions offered before I broach this with DH.
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firstpost · 11/02/2013 12:28
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