MIL always asking me if I have sorted the kids out for school

[bengal38]

My son is 12 and my daughter is 9. Every night my MIL phones to ask if I have sorted them out for school. I ask her why and she says just asking.

[bengal38]

I do end up getting upset by this. How should I respond next time?

[Ponderingonaquandry]

My mum does this. Drives me mad

Not sure why you've posted this in aibu though

[HollyBerryBush]

Conversation opener?

[RubyGates]

Pre-emt her, ring her up and ask her if she's got FIL sorted out for work.

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

what does your husband think about his mum upsetting you?

[GregBishopsBottomBitch]

That would annoy me too, its like she doesnt trust you or think your responsible enough, or she can just be bloody nosy.

[mablemurple]

what would she say if you replied "no"?

[quoteunquote]

hand the phone to the children, "Grandma wants to discuss your organisational skills"

use her to nag the children.

[FrothyDragon]

My DM does this as a conversation opener. Maybe next time you can beat her to it. "Kids are all set for school tomorrow", just when you think it's coming up.

[SanityClause]

Every night? Wow!

My MIL always asks me about my cleaner, every time she comes to stay, but that's only about twice a year.

[defineme]

Can't you just say 'yes thanks'?-is it not just her conversaional equivalent of 'How are you?'
Or is this the tip of the iceberg and she's very critical?

[Jinsei]

Wow, that would drive me mad!!

I'd ask her what she's going to do about it if I haven't got them sorted. And then politely point out that they are old enough to sort out themselves!

[oopslateagain]

How weird. Does she have any other conversation or does she just ring to ask the one question?

[anywinewilldo]

Don't answer the phone?

[HeathRobinson]

Say no.

[TomArchersSausage]

Blimey that'd drive me bonkers. She'd have to leave a message, I couldn't have the same convo every night.

Sounds like she's got into the habit of ringing and just says it for something to say.

[TanteRose]

Don't answer the phone

Or just tell her "You know, MIL, there is no need to call every night - I've got it sorted, thanks"

[Snazzynewyear]

Agree, don't answer the phone or get your DH to answer it and field the question.

[snice]

just shout 'Oh God! I knew there was something....' and slam the phone back down

[SPBInDisguise]

Mil collects ds from school once a week. If he has a letter in his bag she leaves it on the side, fine. She then rings to tell me what it says "ds needs a pound for charity and own clothes on Friday"
A) I read the letter
B) you handed ds over to your son, his father. Why are you telling me rather than him?

[MammaTJ]

I would have to ask exactly what she thinks needs sorting.

[magimedi]

I do end up getting upset by this. How should I respond next time?


If you are feeling bold tell her to fuck off & that it is none of her business.

If not ask her why it bothers her every day.

Or get your DH/DP to answer the phone.

Or don't pick up the phone.

[DontEvenThinkAboutIt]

That sounds very odd..... Is there more history to this.....?

[SPBInDisguise]

"Add message | Report | Message poster mablemurple Sun 10-Feb-13 22:41:45
what would she say if you replied "no"?

Or even better, "who?"

[Floggingmolly]

Is it her way of checking if you're too busy to talk?