To be struggling to cope with the broken nights?

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MortifiedAdams Sat 09-Feb-13 06:52:29

DD is 1.1 and has had nearly a month of broken and poor nights sleep. She goes down at seven and doesnt settle til 11. She can (and often does) wake at 12,2,4 and on til we get up with her at 6.30ish.

She stopped having milk in the night at about eight or nine months, and has supper and milk before bed so I.know it isnt hunger. She currently has a bad nappy rash which we have creams for from the docs, and when she wakes crying in the night we are changing her nappy and re-applying creams to prevent her rash getting worse.

Im clinging on to the fact that it might improve after the rash clears.

I work shiftwork so got in from work at 11.30 last night but it takes me a while.to wind down so fell asleep at 1. DD then woke at 2,4 and six. Nappy changed at 4, re settled the resot of the times. She is asleep now, but I am up as I leave for my next shift at 7am.

I could manage the five hour sleep between shifts if it was unbroken.

I feel bad saying to DH in the mornings "I just want one night of unbroken sleep". He is very good and gets up in the nigt with her too, but as it is a small flat as soon as she wakes we both do.

So so tired.

Emsmaman Tue 12-Feb-13 10:51:27

offering sympathy here. DD is 22mo and still doesn't sleep through. Different things have helped at different times but no one thing has worked all the time. For a period from around 12 mo we put DD's cot back in our room and found she was self settling better without us having to get up, sometimes just a "shh sleep" from us drowsily would be enough. After a while though we started disturbing each other's sleep. Around 18mo patting and shhing was seeming to work although it involved a few nights of hysterical crying. However after 2.5 weeks she was still waking at regular intervals and needing us to pat her back to sleep. At present, when she wakes, we bring her into our bed. Rod for our own back, pfft maybe but when they sleep badly regardless I'm going to do what gets me the most sleep. Good luck

MortifiedAdams Tue 12-Feb-13 10:05:53

Arg, bad night again last night. Been back to the docs and he gave a different cream for the rash but I think its caused her some discomfort last night. think ill just apply it daytimes.

Whats hardest is the unknowing. I go to.bed hoping that she will sleep for X amount of hours.and just dont know if she will.

PastaB Tue 12-Feb-13 06:37:44

mortifiedadams I think I held off giving my DD milk for too long because I was influenced by a friend who advocated going to your child, giving them a quick pat and leaving the room again immediately and NEVER giving milk after 6 months. Like your mum she thought I was making a rod for my own back.

DD would be sobbing in pain and holding out her arms for me and after all that sobbing who wouldn't be thirsty and hungry and in need of a cuddle. In the end I worked out it was only DH or I in the room with her so we should tackle in whatever way we thought was best!

Hope you enjoy your holiday and find some time for relaxing.

valiumredhead Mon 11-Feb-13 22:45:23

If she is taking so long to settle then she might well be hungry later on in the night.

Glad you had good night, no sleep is a killer!

MortifiedAdams Mon 11-Feb-13 21:58:58

Ooh thats interesting! Im a stomach sleeper and find it really odd that dd goes.down on her back and doesnt.move an inch at night.

I secretly want her to be a stomach sleeper as I find it so.comfy.

somewherewest Mon 11-Feb-13 21:55:37

14mo DS was a terrible sleeper until he started sleeping on his stomach at around 10 or 11 months. For some reason he sleeps really, really deeply like that (i.e. right through things like teething). We've been amazed how much difference that one change has made.

MortifiedAdams Mon 11-Feb-13 21:23:39

My DM (who I see most days) is a big beleiver of 'rod for your own back' and does cats bum mouth if I even go to her in the night.

We are all away next week on a big holiday and ive already said that if dd wakes in the night there I will be giving her milk so as not to wake the others (18 of us in a big self catering house).

Lord.knows why I feel the need to justify myself to her!

MamaBear17 Mon 11-Feb-13 20:31:43

I would recommend giving her a little milk at night. I still give my 18 month old milk during the night. Not much - only 3 oz - but it settles her enough to have another good chunk of sleep. I have noticed recently that she is starting to sleep through and so is dropping the feed. It isnt every night, but I am confident that she will drop the feed completely when she is ready.

PastaB Mon 11-Feb-13 19:14:37

Pleased you had a better night. I went through weeks of awful nights with a teething 1yo convinced that I shouldn't offer her milk as I'd read somewhere that this is 'bad'. In the end I gave her milk, sometimes with some calpol and she'd settle really quickly and as soon as the teeth were through she'd go back to sleeping through and obviously not want the milk.

Friends have had exactly the same experience.

BinksToEnlightenment Mon 11-Feb-13 18:11:15

Well that's my advice exhausted grin

Glad you've had a couple of better nights. Hopefully she'll be better after the teeth have grown through more

MortifiedAdams Sun 10-Feb-13 23:18:03

Yeah she has a dummy we usually leave a good handful.in her cot for her to find.

She has had ruby red cheeks today so theres definetly some tooth activity going on. Not much chance for nappy freeness today as we have been out and about most of the day.

She has been a bit disturbed earlier and crying lots by 10.30 so I gave her a feed which she wolfed down! Maybe she is having a growth spurt.

Sorry to all those also in the midst.of broken.nights, fingers crossed we all start getting some decent stretches.of.sleep soon!

Blackberryinoperative Sun 10-Feb-13 18:09:11

Glad you had a better night. We are having an awful time with teething this weekend. Whingeing, not eating, just awful. Temperature, horrible nappies. And broken nights to top it all. Yuck! Can't stand teething.

DoJo Sun 10-Feb-13 16:15:38

I was going to sympathise until I saw that you had a good night last night, and now I'm just going to seethe gently with jealousy! Long may it continue and I hope the rash is now on its way out...

JamieandtheMagicTorch Sun 10-Feb-13 10:43:13

What cream are you using?

If she doesn't have a fungal infection, i found, at the recommendation of DBIL, who is a paediatric nurse, Metanium, mised with Sudacrem to help it spread more easily, to be excellent.

My utmost sympathies. dS 2 s sleep went haywire at around this age. Started with teething, became habit after he stopped teething. i ended up doing CC

MrsMushroom Sun 10-Feb-13 10:42:27

Oh that;s good news! Keep doing the bare botty until it's cleared up. x

BinksToEnlightenment Sun 10-Feb-13 10:37:16

Does she have a dummy?

MortifiedAdams Sun 10-Feb-13 08:25:56

Successful night!

Did nappy off from when I got.home from.work til bathtime so a good 2.5hrs. After bath more nappy off time til bed (30mins).

I slathered lots of vaseline on her skin to act as a barrier to the wet nappy overnight and she slept from 7-4 without a murmur. At four I gave her some milk.and she went straight back down til 7.30 grin

All of that coupled with me going to bed at nine meant im chipper this.morning!!

MortifiedAdams Sat 09-Feb-13 10:03:26

Thanks for all the responses - lots to try and lots to think about! Shes got three molars but could well be getting another one.

Re the work, I work in a Hotel which is exempt from those laws and works on a weekly basis - as long as within seven days I am given reasonable rest time, its legal. Not that I ever feel like I get a rest grin

Blackberryinoperative Sat 09-Feb-13 09:21:20

My dd (13 months) still has a little bit of milk in the night. Its not worth fighting over if you get straight back to sleep.

I would chuck a bit of milk (no more than four ounces) down her if she stirs and see how you go. It won't hurt.

I strongly recommend ear plugs and alternate nights with your partner. If you can get even one or two nights of decent sleep a week it makes a huge difference.

tunnocksteacake Sat 09-Feb-13 08:36:17

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Tee2072 Sat 09-Feb-13 08:34:43

Teething?

Minshu Sat 09-Feb-13 08:33:24

Could it be related to pre molars coming through? My DD didn't show the same knawing signs for them as she did for her first teeth, and we had broken nights at around that age to about 14/15 months. (She cried in her sleep, it was us awake!) A bit of calpol or teething gel may help.

Eebahgum Sat 09-Feb-13 08:33:10

I know how you feel, although my ds is only 4 months. Is there anyone who could have dd overnight to give you a break? My ds is currently at grandmas house & I looked forward to my night of uninterrupted sleep all week! I'm currently enjoying lounging in bed & feeling refreshed & ready to tackle another few weeks. X

MrsMushroom Sat 09-Feb-13 07:55:57

Can I give you a tip about the nappy rash? Keep her nappiless all day today...no nappy at all apart from nap time. yes she's going to pee on the floor but her rash needs air. When my DDs had rashes I always did this and found it went away the same day or the following day.

Keep the creams off for the day too...so the rash can dry out.Poor you. I do feel for you.x

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