Aibu to be upset by this?

(102 Posts)
PinkPanties Thu 07-Feb-13 21:58:21

I was out with my dh today, we were on our way to the shopping precinct, when i broached a conversation about holidays, and that "i would like to experience the world", he took this as a meaning to talk about threesomesshock, when i said don't be silly, he got really moody about the fact that i didn't mean sexual experience. Kept nagging that "experiencing the world" means experiences sexuallyhmm. I told him there will be no threesome ever, as i couldn't handle seeing him have sex with another woman. He told me i'm "closed off" sexuallyshockhmm, all because of this conversation!

I'm by no means "closed off" at all, i have even had an experience with another woman in my late teens and have tried many things with my dh, such as bondage, foods, all fresco sex, all sorts really so i'm quite pissed of he has said this to me and took my words as an excuse to bring up having a threesome (this isn't the first time he has bought it upconfused)

I said if he wants a threesome with me & a woman then the only way i would agree to it would be for it to be a foursome with a man for my needs too, i said this to shock him. Well it did he got very angry and said i'm being unfair & selfishhmm

Anyway we get to the precinct and enter a clothing store, in here he starts ranting on about me being "closed off" again, and that i don't partake in watching porn with himshock, i don't want to it makes me envious that he looks at the glamorous women on it and it isn't for me! Then he went on about how i hardly let him relieve himself on my breastsshock
Bare in mind this was in a store full of people, i felt very embarrased, especially as i was pushing my 2yo dd in her pram too!

Not only did he make me feel like shit by doing all that, he then pointed out some high heeled sneakers and said i should buy them as i'd look good in them. When i said they are not my thing, he started ranting how i don't wear nice shoes.

Got home more ranting about how he wants to use our flat screen tv to play xbox, although he has his own tv in the corner. I said yes after my soaps, and he said i control the tv shock

All this shit for a man who was a virgin when i met him, still is to my knowledge, who hasn't bathed for 4 days, shaved and wears trackie bottoms & hoodies 24/7.

So pissed off, its unbelievable, and to top it off when i told him how i feel he just shrugged his shoulders and said "i aint done nuthin"
Yesterday i wanted to treat myself so we went out, i gave him £30 towards a new xbox game and said i'd be getting something nice with my cash.
He asked to borrow another £30 off me so i said yes thinking he was going to give it back.
He didn't he bought me sexy underwear with the whole lot, which left me with no money.
So he got games and got a sexy woman dressed upconfused

Sorry that was long!
Aibu to be upset, its all about him?

ImNotDrunkIJustCantType Thu 07-Feb-13 22:15:47

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Kat101 Thu 07-Feb-13 22:16:33

Is he 14?

frustratedworkingmum Thu 07-Feb-13 22:16:36

a virgin with 4 kids? hes a walking miracle that man!

TooExtraImmatureCheddar Thu 07-Feb-13 22:16:41

No, wait, 4 DC!

usualsuspect Thu 07-Feb-13 22:16:58

How can he be a virgin, if you have kids confused

Softlysoftly Thu 07-Feb-13 22:17:12

How can be still be a Virgin as far as you know confused

TooExtraImmatureCheddar Thu 07-Feb-13 22:17:26

Au fresco? hmm

usualsuspect Thu 07-Feb-13 22:17:30

and this is genuine?

dear god....

numbum Thu 07-Feb-13 22:17:41

He was a virgin when you met 9 years ago and still is now? But you have a 2 year old confused
Tbh I think the fact you nearly split up a few days ago and now he's speaking to you like that speaks volumes. He wants out

littlemisssunny Thu 07-Feb-13 22:17:55

I'm confused, I've never heard of a virgin with 4 kids?

PinkPanties Thu 07-Feb-13 22:18:13

I didn't mean still a virginblush, im just so livid i typed in a temper.
What i meant is that he has only ever had sex with me, obviously.

Im not a troll, just a seriously pissed of woman!

DialsMavis Thu 07-Feb-13 22:19:06

You have been together for 9 years, have 4 DC and enjoy a varied sex life. But he is still a virgin? confused

frustratedworkingmum Thu 07-Feb-13 22:19:08

dont scare the OP away.......... we need more information!!!

Schnarkle Thu 07-Feb-13 22:19:09

I'll admit my sex ed in school and at home weren't all they could be. But how can your DH be a virgin and have 4 children?

Booyhoo Thu 07-Feb-13 22:19:16

who did you have al fresco sex with if it wasn't your DH and did you have IVF?

Softlysoftly Thu 07-Feb-13 22:19:26

Rowan are you sure sure?

<<Wonders if the post worragate gin ban has already failed>>

Booyhoo Thu 07-Feb-13 22:20:15

ah xpost.

that was getting odd for a minute.

frustratedworkingmum Thu 07-Feb-13 22:20:15

So what the OP meant was, he was a virgin when i met him and to my knowledge he hasn't slept with anyone else.

whattodoo Thu 07-Feb-13 22:20:20

I don't understand how he is still a virgin?

Does he make you happy? Do you think he is happy?

Softlysoftly Thu 07-Feb-13 22:20:33

A xpost ok well in which case he's an arse and speaking like that in front of a DC old enough to comprehend is sick

PinkPanties Thu 07-Feb-13 22:20:52

Sorry i confused everyone for a minute!

Just wish my dh would change, his sudden interest in me dressing up and making excuses to talk about threesomes is very worrying indeed and with the way he is carrying on i'm starting to worry he is gearing up to cheat on mesad

Schnarkle Thu 07-Feb-13 22:21:14

Oh sorry massive cross postings there.

He's an arse. Throw a bag of chips out into the garden. When he follows them lock the door.

whattodoo Thu 07-Feb-13 22:22:00

Oh sorry. I understand now about the virgin thing.

Kyrptonite Thu 07-Feb-13 22:22:15

DH?? You actually married him?

givemeaclue Thu 07-Feb-13 22:22:37

Can't imagine if will find anyone mug enough to have him. Seriously, get rid!

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