Other people seem to get away with being true to themselves and everyone respects them for it.
First example; my 6 year old DD fell out with a friend at school. Her mum was a friend and blamed the argument solely on DD, which I thought was unfair, as having heard DD's side of the story it did sound as though it was just six of one and half a dozen of the other. The mum phoned me up and was quite aggressive about it all and really was very negative about my DD, and I said that I thought it was just a kids' argument and that perhaps we should leave them to sort it out amongst themselves. She slammed the phone down and has refused to speak to me ever since. This was about 4 months ago.
Second example: my sister keeps cancelling plans we've made to meet up for lunch, as she's been invited elsewhere by friends. It happened twice recently and when it happened for the third time the other day I said that I was upset that she kept cancelling on me as I'd been looking forward to meeting. Cue a torrent of nastiness from my sister, saying I was difficult and I would alienate people by being the way I am.
Third example: A friend relied on me to do lots of favours but it was never reciprocated, and when I started saying that I could not do things for her, she got quite arsey each time I said no, and now never contacts me and is passive aggressive towards me on Facebook and if she sees me.
I want to just be true to myself and not care what anyone thinks but whenever I try to act as anything other than a door mat people get annoyed with me.
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Why do I end up alienating people whenever I stick up for myself or won't do as they say?
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911AreBack · 06/02/2013 14:46
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