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AIBU?

To not want to bloody try it?!

69 replies

ScentedNappyHag · 06/02/2013 11:55

My nan makes a vat of soup every week for her and my grandad. She is trying to convince me that I should have a bowl for lunch.
I do not like a single ingredient of the soup. I am old enough to know when I do not like the taste of something.
Apparently I'm being childish because I do not want any fucking soup.

Why oh why must usually sensible adults, when confronted by another sensible adult who doesn't like something, feel the need to persuade them that they do not know their own mouth?!

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AMumInScotland · 06/02/2013 12:16

YANBU! You are old enough to know that, if you don't like any of the ingredients, you are not going to enjoy the combination. My mum does this to people, and it feels like she thinks of you as a silly child who has no idea about anything. Grrr!

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NellysKnickers · 06/02/2013 12:18

Just try some, poor old Nan Grin

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valiumredhead · 06/02/2013 12:19

YABU and childish to not even try it.

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chocoluvva · 06/02/2013 12:20

It won't hurt you to try some. You never know, it might be nice and if it isn't. well. you'll have treid it once and won't need to again.

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MarilynValentine · 06/02/2013 12:20

Pretend to take a little sip with a cheery, resolute expression on your face.

Then, pretend to violently retch and run to their loo. Spend upwards of five minutes retching and groaning.

Then pop out and brightly say, told you! Grin

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chocoluvva · 06/02/2013 12:20

Oooh - sorry for the typos Blush

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SweetSeraphim · 06/02/2013 12:21

It's not childish to not try it! She doesn't like it... one of the advantages of being an adult!

I would try it however, but then I am a bit of a pleaser.

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valiumredhead · 06/02/2013 12:22

If she hasn't tried it how on earth would she know she doesn't like it?

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JohnBender88 · 06/02/2013 12:22

It must be a grandparent thing. My Granda wouldn't stop offering my cousin an almond cake even though she has a nut allergy.

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wannabedomesticgoddess · 06/02/2013 12:22

My Grandmother sat at her own kitchen table, and ate a fruit salad that she utterly despises because her mother told her to.

She was 73 at the time and my great GM was 90!

YANBU to say no!

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SweetSeraphim · 06/02/2013 12:23

Ok - I don't like fish. And I don't like soup. So if someone made me fish soup, I would KNOW I wasn't going to like it.

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Boomerwang · 06/02/2013 12:24

My mum was like this. I do not like bolognese. Never have, never will. Yet every single time she'd make it she expected me to eat it. Of course, I didn't, and she thought I was just being childish. This lasted til about the age of 24.

Also, every time I ate mussels I'd puke them right back up and then fall into a deep sleep for hours. This happened about three times before I figured out that maybe I'm allergic to them or intolerant in some way. Each time mussels were on the menu my mother would say that now that I was older, I wouldn't be sick, as it was just a child thing. Each time I got suckered in and puked my guts up. My mum said 'oh well maybe you had a bad one'

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MaxPepsi · 06/02/2013 12:24

How do you know you don't like it unless you actually try it?

Ingredients taste differently in soup and when mixed with other things.

Celery? I hate the stuff, but give it to me in soup and it's delicious!

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valiumredhead · 06/02/2013 12:27

Exactly Max

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LimburgseVlaai · 06/02/2013 12:27

YANBU. I hate it when people say to me "Oh but you MUST try this" or "You MUST see that". No I don't! I'm not a child, I know what I do and don't like, and no I don't want to try it. What are you supposed to do - try a spoonful and then say "No I don't like it"? She will be even more offended then.

My in-laws are like that with alcohol: "Are you sure you don't want a G&T? No? A sherry? No? Oh go on! Just have a slurp!" (usually said before noon or before a car journey)

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Viviennemary · 06/02/2013 12:28

Just try some. You might even like it. If you don't well at least you tried. But I draw the line at fish soup. I know I wouldn't like it. so maybe you've got a point!

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wannabedomesticgoddess · 06/02/2013 12:29

I hate the "how do you know unless you try" saying.

It doesnt matter whether she would taste it and love it or not. She is an adult. If she doesnt want it she doesnt want it.

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Taffeta · 06/02/2013 12:29

Try it. Tell her you're sure it's great but it's to for you. Then she will stop nagging you and you'll stop being irritated.

Dig your heels in and keep refusing and you'll keep being annoyed.

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Taffeta · 06/02/2013 12:29

It's not for you

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CinnabarRed · 06/02/2013 12:32

Anyone else desperate to know what soup it is? I can't imagine a soup where I hated every single ingredient! Grin

YANBU, BTW.

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Maryz · 06/02/2013 12:33

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fluffyraggies · 06/02/2013 12:33

I nag my kids to try something once and i won't ask again. Until they are 12/13 that is. The idea is that you teach kids that it doesn't hurt to try. Plus it's helpful if you're cooking for a family that they all have an accepting pallet and wont just eat chicken nuggets till they're 10, like my nephew.

Once your an adult however, you don't have to try anything to please anyone. 'Specially if you're darn sure you wont like it.

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BubaMarra · 06/02/2013 12:34

YNBU.
Oh, it's not only a grandparent thing! I get that all the time and it's not like I am a picky eater. It usually gets worse if I'm on a diet. Come on take some cake, it won't hurt your diet! As I know how annoying that is, I am really trying to be nice to other people wrt to food. I offer, but don't push and really don't expect people to explain themselves if they refuse.

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ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 06/02/2013 12:37

I'm going to break the trend and say YABU, unless it's so bad you can't eat it without gagging then just eat it.

You eat something you don't particularly like, but it makes your nan and grandad happy.

Is it so bad to put yourself out a bit to make someone else happy?

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FelicityWasCold · 06/02/2013 12:38

This moral high ground of you're a terrible person if you won't even try it is just bollocks. You know your own mind, if you don't want it don't eat it.

I mean apply the logic to anything apart from food and it's easy to see the stupidity of it. If you don't like to wear red (for example), you are not morally obliged to try on every red jumper in the shops, because some of them might be cut differently/a different shade and you might like it this time...

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