To contemplate revenge - Have you ever?

(109 Posts)
appletarts Tue 05-Feb-13 19:37:56

I posted previously about difficulties with sister, ho she has bullied and tried to control me and that she completely ignored me on my wedding day. Her daughters wedding is coming up and I have been fantasising about ruining it for her in some way, not ruining it for her daughter but for her. I imagine ignoring her like she did me or more dramatic revenges which I am too ashamed to detail. I will almost certainly not take revenge believing it's not good for the soul, but I bet it would feel bloody great and I am tempted! Anyone ever taken revenge and did it feel good or bad?

NoisesOff Tue 05-Feb-13 19:47:27

Don't do it. If you take revenge, you're pulling yourself down to her level, and it will in her eyes justify doing all sorts of future nasties to you. You'll lose all moral high ground and give her reason to hate you.

picard476 Tue 05-Feb-13 19:49:06

Living well is the best revenge. That, and taxis at 4am

badtemperedaldbitch Tue 05-Feb-13 19:53:01

It depends whether you are planning to tuck her skirt in knickers or summat much more....well more

By all means have fun fantasising but leave it in your imagination

My sister tried to ruin my wedding out of jealously of her wedding. We are still together 23 years later.... They split after 6 years.... I think that speaks for itself

ThingummyBob Tue 05-Feb-13 19:53:17

Takeaways, taxis and garden ornaments have all played their part in my revenge plots and maybe just maybe one gay website

purrpurr Tue 05-Feb-13 19:53:58

It won't sit well with you afterwards, though. If it did, you would be doing horrible things to people already. You know, for fun.

I speak from recent experience. I flat out ignored my SIL recently (she's spent years ignoring me whilst I've desperately tried to get her to like me) and I STILL feel bad. It's not me. I'm a nice person. Don't do it. Fantasize like crazy instead.

I horrified my DH the other day by detailing my revenge fantasies against a particularly awful colleague! Of course I would never do it - and it upset me a bit to see how nasty I could be!

ThingummyBob Tue 05-Feb-13 19:56:39

I should point out that I had garden ornaments delivered, not stolen grin

Daysies Tue 05-Feb-13 19:57:17

In my younger days, I absolutely did NOT take the ink from a felt tip pen snip a small piece off and cut away the plastic straw before carefully carving a hole in a bar of soap to conceal it from my asshole housemate.

He was quite blue for three or four days.

ThingummyBob Tue 05-Feb-13 19:58:35

OP, if you want to ruin her day and her day only have you thought about optrex wink

grin Daysies

ThingummyBob Tue 05-Feb-13 20:00:51

ooh yy daysies; ablution tampering is a good one grin

OP, think food colouring in shampoo for a special wedding day 'do'. . .

Daysies Tue 05-Feb-13 20:10:07

Just to give you all a little visual, he must have started to wash his (blonde) hair first.. so it ended up that he had blue hair, ears and cheeks. As well as some drip lines down his back!

Bogeyface Tue 05-Feb-13 20:21:34

I put the phone number of the OW on a dating website with a message taken directly from what she had texted my husband.

I got a bollocking from the police for it, who were understanding tbf, but said I shouldnt do it again.

Yes, it was worth it.

Bogeyface Tue 05-Feb-13 20:23:22

Oh, and she had to change her number due to the sheer volume of calls she received. I was surprised she wasnt more grateful, she wanted nasty sex with married men so thats what I got her! Her OH wasnt too chuffed though...grin

BumBiscuits Tue 05-Feb-13 20:25:47

Find out what her outfit is and buy the same one. Organise an informal party the night before the wedding and wear the outfit to that.

Bogeyface Tue 05-Feb-13 20:28:59

I am not suggesting you do what I did btw! I like the matching outfit idea though, subtle and could easily be put down to coincidence!

Bluemonkeyspots Tue 05-Feb-13 20:29:59

Bum! That is so naughty!

I love it grin

Uppermid Tue 05-Feb-13 20:30:03

I think the fantasy will be better than the reality. Post all your ideas here but a don't do them. As someone unthread said, living your life and doing well is the best revenge ever and she can never have a go at you for it.

Saying that I love the felt tip and taxis!

almostanotherday Tue 05-Feb-13 20:30:17

Ooooo the outfit idea one sounds good storing for own use if ever needed

MechanicalTheatre Tue 05-Feb-13 20:35:57

I have certainly felt like taking revenge, but quite sure it wouldn't feel good in the long term. There'd be a split second when you saw their face, but after that...nah. It'd be like you actually gave a fuck, that would be the killer for me.

Far better to rise above.

And pay heed to the Chris Huhne/Vicky Price thing because revenge does tend to come back and bite you on the ass.

CatDilemma Tue 05-Feb-13 20:41:26

My dp and I split up in a very complicatedway a few years ago. It was sudden and the dirty sod had left toenail clippings in my bathroom. He'd also left behind a pot of gravy granules behind which he very childishly asked tohave back. So I ground up the toenails and put them in the gravy.
It made me smile every time I thought about him and the ow eating them.

MummytoKatie Tue 05-Feb-13 20:52:48

I was going to say - Vicky Price may now be regretting her revenge plan....

It was impressive though.

Charliefox Tue 05-Feb-13 20:57:10

I absolutely fantasise about doing all manner of awful things to my fucking bastard neighbours but they will definitely stay as fantasies. Things can escalate all too easily. I would also never order taxis/pizzas etc, as the poor business owners trying to make a living shouldnt suffer and be out of pocket cos of pranks.

Charliefox Tue 05-Feb-13 20:57:57

OMG Cat, that has made my stomach turn!

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